Thank you all for replying

I have read every single post on this forum. and some are very long. first i would like to say that yes some men dont want to care for another mans child but the same is in reverse.. Also I would like to add typically the children go to the mom and dads have no rights. i am lucky me and my ex are friends with each other we even took an eight day vacation together with our daughter to Disney World.. but what i have noticed is that some women are like it is hard to find the good guy, the guy that wants to be in a relationship with me and help with the children in any capacity. one lady said that she waits 2 years before introducing her children to a partner.. and honestly yes it is good to wait some time but the longer you wait your kids know that if they dont want you to have a life as well they know that they can do something and you cancel your plans..

Now not all guys can help financially in a relationship. i am not supposed to be working due to an injury and need surgery to fix that however this does not mean i would be a bad partner because i am not supposed to work right now but do.. I am a good cook and to me you dont have to go out for dates all the time it is money taken from giving the kids what they need. to me a night in with a movie good food and games is more important then going to a resturant and spending $100.00 to impress someone.. that is not responsible... to go to a movie for 2 people just to get in is $30 or more dollars you add a reasonable meal at a eatery and that is almost another $30.00 so you are up to $60.00 now you may want popcorn and a soda at the theater that is another $20.00.. when for 30 dollars you can buy a board game rent 2 movies and cook a wonderful healthy meal together at home. this also lets the kids meet the person in a fun environment and a safe one . sure dont let him or her move in after a few weeks but it gives everyone more time with each other. your kids wont feel that the new person is taking all your free time and your new partner will think hey they are trying to make time to involve me in their lives as well and it is much happier for all.BOTH single moms and single dads or even a parent with a child that mainly lives with the other spouse has it hard and yes it is hard to juggle time to spend with every one and yes when you get into a relationship with a person who has kids their ex will always be a part of your life whether good or bad it is a fact get over it and be understanding of this. even people without children who have been in a relationship with someone else has baggage.. that is also a fact and accept it discuss it and move on dont be envious of the ex they are the ex for a reason dont make waves between the parents of the others child but work as a larger unit to raise the child better if the ex isnt abusive include them on some of the game and movie nights it is better all around.. i am not a thin man and i am not the best looking man but anyone with children isnt going to be and the biggest heros never look like they do in the movies.. so get over the flaws and see what is inside physical beauty is only skin deep but personality goes to the mind soul and heart. and that is my pennies worth

I have had a few people try to scam me on other sites including Skype they are escorts or cam models or even a woman who miraculously claims to fall in love after a day of talking but needs money to come to you or send her dying mom home to the states. I know it is mean but watch for lies let them hang themselves before you commit to anything they always slip up and reveal they are not for real. granted sometimes a person messes up telling you something but when they tell you something like i don't have a cell i use my grans cause she don't use it much and then the next day same number they try to tell you they are using their sisters phone or some bs. I think when we find a fake on here we tell each other and describe or copy the photo here so they cannot change email addresses and come back and use the same photo

hello i live near the wisconsin and illinois border and was looking for some friends in the same region and one from this area around??

I am here to meet people close to home and far away.. i like people and getting to know them. i always search for friends first for that is the basis to finding a deeper more meaningful relationship with anyone.. i look for those who are honest and kind and courteous but can also have fun with wit and sarcasm

this is all good and sound advice but what if nothing is filled out in the profile or the only thing they put is HI! I'll tell you later... these leave no opening to start a conversation

unfortunately society keeps us from being equal and non biased.. our children see it on t.v. in movies on the internet it is everywhere. and it is a learned thing if you watch children play before the age of 5 they dont care what color religion or sex the playmate is.. it is the same way for mutually exclusive things as well. such as supporting the troops not the war.. during peace time the military provides benefits to people who do join up. for some it is the only way they can attend college due to low income. for some people due to the shitty economy it is a way to help try to support their family. many wars were started because a politician shot their mouth off and another country/ group decided to fight back with force. but that is not why many join the military.. some countries it is mandatory for people to enlist for a set amount of time. it doesn't matter if they want to or not.

what i am going to say next is probably going to make some people very angry but, some black people spout that they are not treated fairly in the job market because they are black however when you listen to them address a person that is interviewing them they don't use proper english ( by this i mean they use a lot of slang and half words) also for years some were saying that there was not enough black people in t.v. shows so they created a channel where the actors and actresses are all black.. if someone created a channel that had nothing but white people on it it would be considered racist and there would be a major uproar about it.. yet the channel with nothing but black people on it you don't hear being called a racit channel although it is the same principle.. there is my pennies worth take it or leave it

the bra one is too funny. i have never thrown anything out of anger. knowing my luck i would accidently hit an innocent woman passing by and feel like **** for it.. when i get that angry i play angry music in my head and walk for miles or drive for an hour or two verbally venting to myself

ahh but if you like big butts tell her yeah and i love them on you. also I would rather hear the truth then a lie try to spare the feelings but be honest it is always the best way to go even if you ran over the hamster with the vacuum cleaner i would much rather know then to have you say well that looks good (turns head) damn that looks awful on them.. oh and on the topic of truth or dare.. truth this time

Warning: after entering you will be subject to strange wit intelligent conversations and a lot of all around humor.. if this is not the place for you shut your eyes turn around and bend over the next thing you will feel is the door hitting your *** on the way out

i truly understand where you are all coming from but i am a bit shy at times hence if you look at my profile i do not show my entire face and most of it is covered with a beard anyway. and i understand that women get a lot of creepy guys trying to message them but at least a little bit wold be nice to know.. that is just my opinion and i thank you all for taking the time to post a reply. and just so ya know i have put profiles on other sites and I am not saying that people here are that way but on many other sites a lot of the women without a filled out profile are cam models or escorts.. and i have not had any of those message me here yet but my post was kinda related to bad experiences.. so far what i see here though it is different

I would like to say to all the ladies and gents out there if you have no information in your profile how is a person supposed to start a conversation with you? Starting a conversation usually starts over a common interest or perhapse a witty comment in your profile. but under intrests if it says I'll tell you later and under introduction it just says HI!! and nothing else is filled out how do you expect for someone to think hey i like the way this person thinks or hey i do that too even if we dont click as more then friends at least we can hang out together.. the only thing you leave a person to go on it your photo and ladies most of you dont want to be looked at just for looks and guys it is not always good to be looked at like a slab of meat.. show some substance fill out the profile so we can all chat and have fun!!!

hello stephh and Quirkey. how are you two doing? would like to get to know you two better. a little about me i am divorced for 2 years now have a daughter.. I am honest as i can be. i am as interesting as my knowledge lets me and most important i am always interested in meeting new people if this sounds interesting to you then hit me up.. I dont bite unless you want me to.. hehe

you know what is funny. if you goto the persons page. she states that she is looking for honesty.. well i tend to find no one is completely honest granted we all try to be but i digress. my point is then is she looking for someone attractive, interesting, and unique? or someone honest? to have all these qualities is near impossible due to the fact that all are subjective to the individual there is no objective measurement of really any of these things.. with honesty our minds fill in tiny gap and holes as we tell stories
with physical attraction well there is evolved markers our minds look for and no matter what your size is the more one side of your body mirrors the other the better looking you are.
with interesting it depends if the person has knowledge on things you are interested in or has common topics with you
with unique we are all unique there are things that make us all different there is no human exactly the same as another even identical twins have slight differences.
Sorry for the long post but just thought i would throw it all out there