I didn't think you did..... I know while I was married, I spoke to a man
I once dated yrs prior, he wasn't the love of my life, but I wanted to
stay in touch as friends. We were together for my of the teen yrs thru
my early twenties. It had nothing to do with sex, just wanted to stay in
touch, as we once meant alot to each other. You don't know his
intentions, but be prepared it may not be all on the up and up.

I second that Queen

Maybe I shouldn't have left out.... We should always attempt to learn
from our pain, and let it go.

The love of my life is also now married and I can't help but to think of
him daily, we broke up almost 10 yrs ago... it hurts very dearly,
because I can't allow myself to replace him in my heart. I guess the
old saying goes, it's better to be love someone and to be loved back,
then to never experience it. We should always attempt from our pain,
and attempt to let it go.

Should've mentioned when speaking to him... stay strong and think once a
cheater always a cheater..... You don't want that type of relationship,
most people don't.

First of all, you don't know why he is calling you. Could be of some
importance. And avoidance is never the answer, just leaves you to wonder
and plays mind games. Answer his call but keep in mind what an a$$ he
was.

Cold Turkey is best..... Quit once for a year (only been smoking again
since 6/06), but as I was dealing with a divorce, the stress overtook my
desire to be smokefree and lost the battle. It is truly all in the head.
Good Luck and Best Wishes. I hope to quit soon myself.

Wow.... I think u just described me to a CAPITAL T. Thanks for the
article, it's nice to know, I'm not alone. I always say, I am a work in
progress attempting to improve in this area.

I think you can have fond feelings, even strong emotions, but to truly
love someone to the fullest, no. I believe it takes time to fully love
someone. Something that isn't obtained just through words typed or a
voice behind a phone.

I suppose today isn't the day to call out men I do realize some women
use these tactics.... but it isn't such a happy valentine's day for me.

Someone I've grown to like alot really disappointed me after we meet up
this past weekend. We appeared to have sparks and the activties were
great but the day I departed he appeared distant, uninterested, and alot
too comfortable. I know is there such a thing? In my opinion yes.

I questioned him regarding him appearing uninterested, he stated I was
over analyzing. I do tend to do that. Occupational hazzard. I asked
him if he wanted to meet up again, he said, I said it was a good
weekend... (whatever that meet)

When we departed, things were kinda strange, almost rushed, but not by
him, the cab driver, we kissed and he said talk soon.
While at the airport, I contacted him, and said that wasn't quite the
good-bye I expected, stating I thought he was going to join me to the
airport. He stated, I'm not good at good-byes, I get emotional.

Since returing from our mini weekend... after 3 attempts to find out if
he made it home, he sent me a text Monday saying... got home ok, thanks,
and talk soon.

I have since found out he has blocked me on yahoo messenger and didn't
reply to an e-card I sent him thanking him for his generious weekend.
Now my question, is why don't men just say when asked it wasn't a love
match and now choosing avoidance. Can anyone help me here? I'm not a
stranger to relationships but I am to someone using avoidance/silence.

Ok to all the men that use silence and avoidance instead of the truth,
can you explain why this method is used vs being honest???

And Happy Valentine's to All JustSayHi Users :)