OMFG.... too funny

I'm doing what I neglected to do during the week... clean the house,
laundry, shopping, and rest!!! For those who work, god bless you.

toyota tercel 1990... bought it new... totally stripped of anything...
no air, no power steering...

Hi Geoff, welcome to JSH

I've learned alot about dating again from a member of JSH... I wish I
could say it was completely positive, but not all negitive either. I
think If I could give anyone advice on dating someone from the internet,
make sure to follow your gut and really get to know the person first
before you meet up, specially if they are at a distance. Local is a
little different.

I made that mistake, and truly didn't know the person, I spent a weekend
with. Even though I believe we were attracted to each other, we were
perfect stangers.... we really put the cart before the horse.

hi Emo and welcome to JSH

maryanne

Devin,

You are surely being nasty, any reason why you are being so hositle? If
Ravon wants to wait for whatever he is waiting for, so be it, it isn't
harming you.

Women prefer a man who is honest and they like to know what the playing
field is.... after that if they want just a piece of A$$ so be it, it's
her decision.

I just can't stand the man that can't be honest about what they are
looking for...

Well slowtogetit, nice to meet you.... thx for the reassurance that NOT
all men want a piece.

No reason not to believe what he said. If he lied, he lied to himself,
not to me.... I would hope though, there are some men out there that
isn't just lookin for a booty call.

Far from a prude, but it would be a pleasent thought.

It's amazing that I've heard a man who isn't out for a piece of A$$ and
is still awaiting... I am truly speechless.

Hi CB, welcome to JSH

Honestly... First and Foremost.

I guess, I know nothing about men. Always thought I would hear men be
scared of relationships/commitments/ and pushy women, ie.... the fear of
being stalked.

It's mean, but at least he's honest.

That wasn't quite the reply I was hoping for

Hi Max, welcome to JSH!!!

Someone sent me this article this afternoon, I thought it might be a
good conversation piece....


Post a Comment What Scares a Man?
Posted by David Zinczenko
on Thu, Feb 08, 2007, 12:02 pm PST
Post a Comment

You probably think you know what frightens most men. A long-weekend at
the in-laws' place. Antiquing. Running out of beer in the third quarter.
But that's just the stuff he'll admit to being afraid of, which, by
definition, means they're not his true deep fears. So how can you
determine what those are? Easy: They're the ones he'll almost never talk
about. But I will.
Let's count down through the Scary Fifteen:
#15 Hair in the drain. The first sign of male pattern baldness brings a
man face-to-follicle with a skimpy aspect of his future. And it's always
earlier than he expects or wants (which is, like, never). Logically, men
know that baldness is as much of a part of life as Leno making Britney
jokes. Logically, men know that being bald doesn't mean that they're any
less smart, virile, or successful. Logically, men know that women don't
care how much hair their men have. Logically, men know there are plenty
of bald men who are comfortable in their skin--no matter how much of it
they're showing. But when it first happens, it feels like stepping on a
scale and being 20 pounds heavier or waking up in high school with a
quarter-sized nose pimple. It's the inevitable and uncontrollable change
in appearance that men try so desperately to protect. Maybe even more
importantly, this moment when a man starts losing his hair says a lot
about him-whether he's cool enough to handle it, or anxious enough to
attempt to deny it with combovers, Rogaine, or faith healers.
#14 Getting caught noticing another woman. A man's instinctual response
to visual stimulation very rarely has anything to do with his current
relationship or how he feels about it. But his lizard brain reacts
instantly, and before he knows he's doing it, he's looking at someone
else. We hate having to explain behaviors that even we don't fully
understand.
#13 Rejection. Doesn't matter whether it happens after a job interview,
or at a bar, or on the basketball court. And remember, there's a
difference between losing and being outright rejected. Men can handle
losing a game or having a bar conversation disintegrate into nothing.
But the proud creatures that men are, they hate having their shots
blocked. Mainly, that's because it means that someone else has the upper
hand-and is gloating about it.
#12 Super Nanny.
#11 Speedos.
#10 His dad's death. It's his most powerful moment of a reflection, as
he thinks about his own mortality. Becoming the family patriarch is
heavy stuff. For many men, it's a life-changing moment, because they
think about what their fathers did for them and what they failed to do.
The next step: Considering what they need to do to be better dads and
better men themselves--which means they must confront their own
failures, as well. That's a lot for a grief-stricken man to deal with.
He should get some latitude to do that in his own way. For him, reaching
out may be through what seem like misdirections--more chatter about
fishing with friends, an extra set of tickets to the Phillies showdown
with the Mets. But guys need a reason to get together; the talk will
come during a slow point in the 6th inning, or in the car on the way
home.
#9 Her tears. Men know it's natural, that women need to do it, and that
it's a signal that they better provide something more than just a
tissue-even though many men have no clue what that something might be.
Men have been told that women cry for all kinds of reasons-to release
some emotions, to get our attention, or just because dammit, The
Bachelor rose ceremony is so stinkin' sad. Men want to do the right
thing, but because men don't navigate those falling waters very often,
they probably do the wrong thing more often than not. Which is another
reason why they fear her emotional tsunami.
#8 Being a lousy lover. Of all the things that men want to happen in
bed, pleasing their women ranks near the top of the list, according to a
national Men, Love, and Sex survey by Harris Interactive. Men hate to
think that women may be bored, unimpressed, or unsatisfied. Maybe it's
an ego thing (okay, it is an ego thing), but men do very genuinely care
about how much pleasure a woman is having in bed. That's why the faking
thing drives men so crazy. To men, feigned pleasure is code for: You're
so damn terrible at this, but there there, little fella, I'm gonna make
you feel good about your inadequate self. Men want to know what women
want, and they want to be successful in delivering it.
#7 Not being a god to his kids. There comes a time when men don't care
much about what strangers, co-workers, friends, in-laws, or anybody else
thinks about them. But when a kid articulates his father's flaws, it's
the ultimate heart crumbler. Men know that sometimes they work too much
or are too short-fused or simply fall short on the hero-dad meter, but
deep down, they know it's the most important job that they're going to
do. And if they don't do it right, they know there's a significant chink
in their masculine armor.
#6 Living paycheck to paycheck. Even though men aren't the only hunters
and providers anymore, they still feel a deep evolutionary pull to
provide the backbone and protection for their tribe. When men lose
money, can't make enough money, or are scrounging for money, it can be
an emotional disaster-it makes them feel like they're losing control in
their lives.
#5 Beautiful women. Few things intimidate men more than IRS audits and
12-foot birdie putts. A beautiful woman is one of them. A beautiful
woman-whether spotted at work, in bookstores, driving in the next lane,
anywhere-simply has the power to turn a man of steel into creamed corn.
Men know this. Men try to resist this. Ultimately, it's a challenge.
Beauty may be a short-lived form of power, but it is profound, and
nearly all men cower before it. It can make them do really, really
stupid things.
#4 Getting naked. Ladies shouldn't think that they're alone in fleshy
hang-ups. Guys are just as concerned about what women will initially
think about their body hair, muscles, guts, toes, and other parts. Men
are deeply aware that they can be too fat, too skinny, too hairy, too
smelly, and while men are eager to revel in a woman's body, they also
share anxiety about revealing their own.
#3 Tofurky.
#2 Not seeing his kids grow up. Death, of course, scares everyone-not so
much for the bad stuff that may happen to them, but for missing out on
all the good stuff that will happen to their kids. Or, worse yet, not
being around to protect them from the bad stuff.
# 1 Public humiliation. Here's one that will make even the strongest men
cave: Looking weak. Whether a man is extremely secure-or insanely
insecure-about himself, he's worries that he'll look incompetent,
idiotic, or both. Doesn't matter whether it's a zipper malfunction, an
off-color joke he mistakenly slips in during a speech, a dismissive
statement by a boss in a department meeting, fumbling the fly ball at a
softball game, getting arrested for fighting after his kid's soccer
game, whatever. It's one thing to make mistakes. But making the
reputation-damaging ones in public is tough to take. That's because as
much as men try to protect their homes, their families, their
appearance, and their jobs, perhaps the most nerve-wracking job of all
is protecting the thing they can't cure with money, with effort or with
laser hair removal: their reputations.
What secretly scares you? Fess up and share it here.

it's not men will be men, it's more boys will be boys