Oh, I've got puppy fever! I want a dog. I haven't had one since mine died nearly five years ago.

You're just drawn that way?

Dang you and your evilness!

Now I shall be singing this all day and doing the popping up thing while doing it!

Where'r my dang overalls, anyway.

It's a conspiracy, I tell ya.



Uh...did someone mention mai-tais?

Do not be afraid to go on a wild goose chase. That is what wild geese are made for.

Anonymous.




Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.

Rainer Maria Rilke

Another by Rilke

Do not assume that she who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. Her life may also have much sadness and difficulty, that remains far beyond yours. Were it otherwise, she would never have been able to find these words.

That's why I call it a dance. Both partners have to dance the steps, not just one leading and the other powerless to resist, being dragged along.

I don't think a person can honestly say "I didn't want to, you made me, you seduced me and robbed me of my senses." Because that's not seduction. But it's sure a good way to absolve yourself of any responsibility for your part in it.

If both aren't totally aware of each other and taking cues from each other, it's not seduction.

I didn't say should only happen, but that for me it works best that way.

Mainly because my giving the look to someone I don't know well may result in him not having a clue as to what's wrong with me or there's something in my eye. If I flash that I'm wearing something lacy underneath, he may just think I'm an old woman having a hot flash.

Like what's already been said, when you're older, being overtly sexual takes a different finesse.

It is a little difficult to follow. Like I said, I have trouble keeping some of the English soldiers apart. With the white wigs, they look too much the same. It's got a great companion website, though.

lol...so the age-old question is actually ages old?

It sounds like some people see seduction as a bad thing, as opposed to romancing someone.

I guess I see seduction as the dance leading to sex, which is similar to romance.

Seduction...wearing the lingerie you know he likes, and giving him the "the look", the one he knows the meaning of and reacts accordingly. It could be giving him a flash of that lingerie, or lack thereof, while you're out and about. I suppose you could be like Salome and dance with veils or just give him the look from across the room. It could be the breathy voice spoken right in his ear about what you want to do.

But to my mind, seduction, to be specific to the person you want, has to come after a relationship is established--after you establish the signs you both know.

Romance can be done before and after things are established, because I think it's more about doing the things you know will make the other feel special. If that's making sure you keep on hand their favorite coffee creamer, or letting them have the last piece of pizza, or leading the way with rose petals to the bathtub full of bath crystals and lit candles all around.

I think you have to go slowly with him, since he's not all that familiar. He probably needs a lot of 'lessons' on sensuality as opposed to sexuality. Find out how he feels about touch. Does he like touch? A lot of people don't. You could play games that are only about different touches. Of course, it goes beyond touch. You have to indulge all the senses.

Evidently, you weren't the only who didn't.

I read an article awhile ago about a woman in France who was starting a seduction class for men.

I need to Google it and see if I can find it again.

Will he let you run your fingers through it? or does he shy away when you get near that combover?

Visit him where?

Speaking of not traditionally handsome, is admitting that if it was Danny Kaye, if he were still alive and in his prime, I'd be all besotted?


I gotta stop watching old movies.

How much older is he? He came of age in the 50's, and you did in the 60's?

How is he at conversation about it?

Stan, I was setting the opening post to music, in my head.

I know! You're the Woodstock generation, flower child, free love and hippies!

Maybe that's his problem. He grew of age with just hey mama, let's get it on, turn on and tune in, and no effort on his part, because it was all groovy, man, just be, don't let the establishment tell ya nothing, mama!

lol...why do you think I was so interested in costumes and history of dress?

Look up codpieces, sometime. The more elaborate, the more desirable. I remember my aunt working on one for the theater where she worked. It was made of leather and was of an elephant trumpeting--his truck fully extended.

I'm thinking if in all his years he hasn't learned this, he won't anytime soon.

It seems to be more an issue about how he thinks about sex and his partner, than about understanding the art of seduction.

Unless, of course, he needs to rush it along so as not to lose the uh...moment.