Honestly, I don't take nudges to seriously but a little "hi" email is another thing entirely...

Maybe try the email first?

If someone posts something that catches my eye, or views me & has an interesting profile when I check it out, I have no problem with emailing and saying hello. If they don't reply, oh well - no skin off my nose, lol.

It's not like I'm walking up to a complete stranger and putting my tongue down his throat...it's conversation, and starting it shouldn't be left entirely to either of the genders.

Its not men. Its everybody

That's a little too all-inclusive for me.

I don't think it's absolutely true that all men HAVE given up on commitment. I know some who are in very stable, long-term relationships and are doing fine with that.

I would personally love to be in a committed relationship, but I can't find anyone who doesn't want to turn me into a cardboard cutout -- and that just ain't a-gonna work.

For me, it has nothing to do with "fear." It's about the lack of a suitable partner.

But where is the fun in that??? If yer always waiting, you may miss out on someone
awesome because he might be a little on the shy side.

I think at times thats part of the problem with some women. Some expect the guys to do everything and knowing that. There going to run into all kinds. Now if they were more open minded and out going to meet what ever they are looking for. There might not be as much of women coming on to these forms and saying, is there any real men out there. I know it goes both ways because men do it to about women. I met a couple women that are never on the forum and still to this day after not being on here for almost 5 months. I can email them and pick up where we might of left off. Ladies, if you want more out of a man. Sometimes you have to learn how to give.

don't really have expectations.....I'm not shy about going up to
a woman first.......but if they are really interested, i would think
they wouldn't just sit back and hope against hope that I make the first
move.......If you want something ya gotta go for it & take the chance

Needing to fly together takes two...just like mated birds.

What's holding anyone back from becoming "us" is unique to each person. If somebody wants to fly with you, check the carry-on baggage.

Fly united!

i would like it if a woman came to me and started a convo, as i am the shy type for the most part.

Why marry when both of u can live in a defacto relationship and avoid the divorce proceedings later, just pack and go. says never married

Ditto!

Tried stepping in the hot coals once.. now I choose to just dance around the bonfire....

She said he was abusive and drank too much.

Extra cool points if they initiate conversation because I have to think on my feet! I love that.

Baggage: An excuse commonly used by Peter Pans and other immature men to avoid commmitment yet maintain a sexual relationship.

Almost everyone today who has experienced a failed relationship is carrying around some degree of emotional baggage. The problem with these left over feelings is that they are usually negative in nature, causing fears and doubts that carry over into future relationships.The fears and hurt feelings only then grow and now become justified within your own mind as correct. This creates a cycle that you then feel unable to escape from in your romantic life.

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