I really don't see that there are any "protective barriers," per se. But I've been through a lot of relationships, and I know what I want -- and, maybe more importantly, I know what I DON'T want.

And at this point, I simply don't seem to have access to the kind of person I would want to be involved with. They certainly can't be found on dating sites.

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Been married once, never again.
As far as what's holding me back from a relationship, the reality is that I can't find anyone compatible.

women are evil .......i tell you !

Love is like the sun coming out of the clouds and warming your soul.

Any woman that says hello to me will be greeted with a great smile and a hello back, doesn't mean I'll fall in love with you but I will be happy to know you.

Extra cool points if they initiate conversation because I have to think on my feet! I love that.

Extra cool points if they initiate conversation because I have to think on my feet! I love that.

we men? whoa sugar.

we men havent given up commitment. we arent just gonna throw commitment at some girl that comes to us begging for it. its a two way street babe.

i suggest you keep the personal problems in your diary instead of taking them here.

Eh, women can be hard to read. If they are coy it can be fun to pursue them. Confident women are great too. They make sure that you give them what they like. It's nice not to have so much guess work all the time. After all, pretty much all women only tell you what you are doing wrong when you manage to piss them off.

i dont usually talk to guys first cuz im shy,


"especially when they have ur number n u have theirs wait for them to call, then they think that you are easy"

-HAH, thanks mom.

nothing old fashioned when it comes to meeting someone

I think if both parties are interested then who cares who starts the conversation? The people I talk to on here, I initiated the conversation and they replied. I believe as long as you aren't a complete moron and you are respectful with your first message then you will always get a reply.

I don't see anything wrong with that

Though i don't expect it either

well see there is one poblem monica, i just emailed you and your criteria shut me out. its exactly what you said in reverse, you can always say no but open your email settings and maybe you will get more hits. you may have missed out on some potential dates already.

I feel that if whoever is interested in getting to know the other person, they should contact them. The guy or even the girl, whoever feels the interest. Out in Public, even if I don't say anything, I make it clear that I am attracted to the woman or interested in her. If she's wearing an engagement ring or wedding band, I move on. It's usually the first thing I try to see if I am interested. But, if she's with a guy and she doesn't have on a ring, and I'm interested, I am definitely still going to let her know it.

In public it can't be easily done with a facial expression, a wink, or even body language. And communication works even better. On the Net, it's different because you can't see one another, so communication is a must if you're interested. Or you can just perve the heck out of em, add them to your favorites, mutual match em, and hope to be lucky.

In public it's fun, and the funniest thing I have had happen without saying a word was just meeting eye contact with a beautiful woman as we were walking past one another entering and exiting Wal-Mart and her eyes never came off me. Her head kinda almost spun all the way around right before she ran into the entrance door as she was leaving the store!

I had my old boss tell me this while I was working at my first dog kennel.

"Dog's are like women at a bar. When they want your attention, they will come over to you."


[/quote. I guess you are talking of a diferente species here if you see women like dogs that a little bit crazy, that's why some women don't want to approach guys

I have no issues approaching a man first. After all, some men find their fear of rejection to be almost crippling. (I think it's best for me to make the choices I have in life instead of letting another choose for me). That would make for an awfully lonely life if there wasn't a woman out there who could initiate contact, wouldn't it?

My signals: I will observe the gentleman without making it blatantly obvious (look for signs that he is not currently involved, etc.), then make a fair amount of eye contact, twirl a lock of hair, smile to show my teeth, etc. When I am somewhat certain he is available and has responded favorably to my flirting, I approach him and extend my hand with a greeting. Of course, this is providing I am seeking a mate.

I find your reference to being 'old fashioned' a bit unusual here. It's primarily known to be a good thing to have old fashioned morals, ethics, values, . But the question to the forum, you phrased it for men which means you took the first step at initiating a conversation with not only one man, but several. So, my question is this: Did you still feel as though you were comfortable with your 'old fashioned' values when you did this?