Julieluv,
My turnoff would be men who talk then..lolol

Whats an "out-dated" woman?

Im 51 female and a big beautiful woman. last year I was dating a 22 year
old. And trust me he was nothing like a son or a nephew in any way.
Cudos to those who have age limits I guess. Hope you dont miss out on
something grand. Im still friends with the 22 year old and he tells me I
taught him a few things. And no, not in a sexual way either..gotcha!!
Thats what you were thinking wasnt it? Anyway age is just a number. And
those of you women who say you wouldnt date someone 20plus years younger
or older are probably telling a tale. And you accept it more from a man
than you would a woman. Depends on the mentality of the person you are
with. A person your own age can be just as childish and immature as
someone 20 years younger can be just as mature and sensible.

Tammy,
Just read your stuff about your meeting with this guy. Come on now..he
lives two hours out from you, you call him and he is short with you
(because you probably interrupted his dinner with his wife or
girlfriend), you have now scared him half to death and he is probably
wondering whether you can be trusted to perform the way he thinks you
should when you are having an affair. And that sounds like all it is.
His job and the fact that he is a ways away sounds like he just wants a
little booty call now and then, and he had to act like he was sprung to
get you into the sack. Something you gave off in the beginning let him
know you were an easy mark..Let him alone and move on to someone who
likes you for you, and who wont try to bed you down 5 minutes after you
meet....I just came back from a 5 day trip to Maui all by myself. Did I
meet someone? No! The cliff diver was kind of cute but he was
"busy"..lolol....and so was I for that matter. Girl get out and stop
looking for someone to validate you. Validate yourself and treat
yourself good first. Then and only then can someone else treat you the
same

Racenut17,
LOL first of all this is the internet and probably half the nuts on here
are married. So of course the chase stops when you show interest. Get
over it and move on. Not all men are like that even some of the ones you
meet online. Until you actually meet someone and can look them in
the eye can you say they are like that. If you choose to show interest
in a man after chatting with him only twice or even 4 times online, then
chances are they wont be contacting you as much. Any man on here that is
really interested in you, I feel you wont know it until after a while. I
can say from experience that the two or three men that I have met from
online I chatted with for at least 8-12 months before we even met. Not
that that is a normal time frame, just a point of reference. Of course
you can find that special someone within a month or a week of meeting on
line...and Peter Pan lives right next door to me and we have dinner
every wednsday night....good luck!!

You ex maybe freaking out just to mess with you. I dont believe that
playing with toy guns leads to real gun use. I used to play with them
when I was a kid and I dont have one gun in my home. Its not a toy gun
that makes someone pick up a real one. Come on, look at some of the
people who have used guns to kill others. The majority of them had bad
childhoods which means they didnt even get the chance to play with a toy
gun. Toy guns do not promote violence among children. Whoever stated
that needs to do a little more research on the subject. In any case..it
sounds like there is more to this than meets the eye. Dont know how long
you been an X but just to keep the peace, if you really want it, keep
the toys you buy him at your place. Bottom line, you need to keep lines
of communication open with your child about almost everything in life
these days. Its not like it was 30 years ago...even 20 years ago. Good
luck!!

Nice guys are very hard to come by. Dont change a thing. Women do not
like bad boys, number one they dont stay around long and number two, who
wants to visit a bad boy in prison? At least when you say bad boy that
is what I think it means. Other than that if you mean should you be a
player? A cheat? A liar? A con artist in the game of love? Then the
answer is NO NO NO. Trust and believe..good guys do reap the best
benefits...lolol...guess that means sex is not really one of the best
benefits. What I think counts is someone who is honest, and real. And
lets face it, yes you should be working a job and have some goals in
life. Okay you may be a hunk, with bulging muscles and really know how
to put it down in the bedroom, but if you dont have anything to do for
your future and nothing to show, what good is all that other stuff? Take
it from me..stay a good guy, you will find the right woman. And dont
start your dates out with "Hey Im a nice guy.." we ladies can tell that
when we meet you. If you got it and its real it will show without any
effort at all.