Thanks Troublebug. Yea things so far seem great. Really enjoying getting to be around her. But yea I think I will ask her about being exclusive. Time seems right.

haha no sorry. I meant any advice in regards to my above post ^^^^.....

Basically I feel like it's a good time to ask her if she wants to make things official. But I've gotten some advice from other people saying that

a) I shouldn't be the one to bring up being exclusive or being boyfriend / girlfriend. And that I should just hold off on it until she brings it up

b) And also that you shouldnt gt into a relationship if you havent slept together yet.

I disagree with this advice though and am thinking I want to ask her how she feels about being exclusive. I just think its a good time and dont feel like there's really point putting it off any longer

Haha Anyone else got some advice pssibly?

Thank you! I don't know why eerything has to be so complicated and over analyzed. If she wants to then she'll say yes and if she doesnt then I guess she'll say no. And I really dont think Im rushing things asking her either.

Guys I could use some advice haha. So far things have been going really well. We've hungout alot lately. I've also met her friends and they all seem to think we would be good together. And overall things seem really good and it feels like could actually really enjoy dating. My issue is some advice I have been getting. I post on another web forum and I was telling them how I thought I was ready to ask her if she wanted to be exclusive.

Immediately I was met by feedback saying "don't do it! It's not the guys job to as that" or "don't ever date someone unless you'e slept with them first!" Now maybe it's just me but this seems pretty stupid. First off we've been talking all summer and we've gone out quite a bit now. I can't possibly imagine how much longer e have to go out before I could ask her out or she get tired of waiting and moves on. Secondly Im not really feeling like I need to rush the whole sex thing. Since Im interested in something actually serious with her, having sex instantly isnt my main factor. Maybe Im naive though...

Anyways what do you guys think? I really like her and I think now would be a perfect time to see if she would want to be a couple. But I just keep hearing from people that that is a bad idea..

Hey again guys. How are your weeks going? Went out with her on our first official "date". Lol we went mini golfing and got milkshakes. Tried to escalate the interest level and held her hand while walking and then when I dropped her off we made out briefly..Im really liking her. One of the first girls in a while I actully want to just spend time being with. Haha how long should I wait before I ask her on her opinion on be exclusive? Or just go ahead and ask?

So we went out yesterday just for a walk and to drive around a little. Everything went well. And afterwards I texted her saying.

"so what do you usually look for in a guy?" she responded

"Im not really sure haha uhmm smart funny and well, good looking and you seem to be hitting all the points "

haha so that was a good sign. So needless to say we have a date scheduled for soon. Thanks again for all the advice

Maybe so. Im going to wait for her too contact me. I really do think she was busy today but at the same time I dont know where her interest level is at, so its just hard too say for sure.

Your probably right. I hate talking too some one for a long time without getting too see them in person as well..Though I o really think she has alot to do today to get ready for school. So her being busy isnt that big of an issue..I think she knows I wante to take her on a date though.

So she got back in town this evening with her roomate. So they unpacked and whatever. So I asked her

"What are you up to tomorrow?"

and she replied

"Going grocery shopping is all I know of haha"

So I messaged her saying

"Well if your free in the afternoon or evening we could hangout. I know you might have stuff for school to do though"

(school stats tuesday) so sh replied with

"Yea :( I do have to get ready for school, but sometime soon! :) "

But she just said all she had was grocery shopping I thought? Unless she thought I meant going on a long date, I only meant getting together for a little...Im sure she is busy so I shouldnt worry about it. Or what do you guys think?

The last thing I said too her tonight was

"For sure. We'll one of these days will work"

and she just said

" Yes exactly! haha"

Idk is she flaking or shoul I not get worked up over this at all? Im telling myself it is nothing and isnt an issue. But at the same time I guess I don't know if I should just wait now for her to contact me? Or i the way I leave talking there put it on me to contact her again? Cause I dont want to appear all butthurt either over her not being able to hangout.

Awesome! good to hear you think so too. Either sunday or Monday we'll hopefully do something

I asked he yesteray if I could take her out when she gets back. And she responded saying

"I like the sound of that :)"

Seems like a greenlight.

So I haven't asked her out yet. I dont know whats wrong with me......Im just having trouble being as flirty as I'd like with this girl. I just want to be light and humorous and flirty when we text and I just end up asking boring questions or just going back and forth about our days....Should I just straight up tell her I like her and ask her out? Keep in mind I havent told her I liked her before ever let alone brought the subject up at all....I just feel like I need to do something to show more interest.

Thanks! With my luck I need all that I can get haha. I guess Ill jut have to find out how interested she is now..

Here's my take on this for what it's worth. I would never expect a first date to sneak sandwhiches in for me unless of course she specifically asked too lol. And also he shouldnt have assumed you wanted a cup of ice. When invited to the movies though I would only assume he will buy your ticket not any concession food. Though he probably will offer to buy that too. Though it's not a bad thing either if the guy gets the tickets and the girl offers to get the snacks. I appreciate when a woman is willing to even offe to do that even if I say no its no problem Ill get both.

This guy might just be trying to save some money and in the process looked kind of foolish. If yo had fun on the date besides what occurred maybe consider giving him a second try. If t bothered you that much though let it go. There's billions of other guys out there.

When I say hangout I don't mean FWB just to clarify. I just meant I havent seen this girl all summer so I thought we might just hangout some and I would kind of be able to see how she's feeling about me? Or where she was coming from in terms of interest level. But on the other hand I think if I do end up hanging out that that could lead to just being friends which I dont want either..

So Im thinking maybe tomorrow if we talk at all I will just ask her out on a date. Just so there's no confusion between us and so that she knows Im inteested in her like that.

Thanks. She went camping for a few days and I wont be able to talk too er until shes back. Thats fine. But Im thinking almost once she is back just asking hr out on a date straight out. Is that too forward? Or showing a good amount of confidence? Or should I wait till weve hungout a while?

Oh I didnt take your post bad at all! I appreciated it. Haha can always use more food for thought

I sometimes wish I could just go back in date in a time when there wasnt cellphones or facebook! Lol but then again they have their advantages so I shouldnt complain too much...

Exactly you guys arent really a couple until you both agree to be official. But at the same time you dont want to lead him on into thinking your official and then still see other guys. Or vice versa. So just be careful with that and make sure that being exclusive is what you want.. Lol there's so many relationships these days. Just convential dating is almost an enigma it seems at times.