The cards drawn are, The Devil, King of Pentacles, and the four of cups.

The devil: PAST POSTION

You have been intimately involved with a substance abuser and at times feel that you are chained to the substance as well. You know intuitively that you can't change the other person, but you continue in the relationship even though it threatens to drag you down. The powerful sexual chemistry between you and your significant other no longer compensates for what is lacking.

King of Pentacles: NOW POSITION:
Whether you are uninvolved or committed, a courtship ensues in which you're wined, dined, and treated like royalty. Passions are unleashed, a past-life connection is made, a deep level of understanding is achieved. Travel with your significant other is indicated, expect romantic weekends in far-flung spots.

Four of Cups: FUTURE OUTCOME:
Dissatisfaction, disillusion, or hurt feelings spell trouble in an ongoing relationship. Take time to focus specifically on what's bothering you and try to talk about it with your significant other. If there's no one special in your life right no, its not because you lack for suitors. You're simply not interested in any of them. Remove your blinders.

Decide what you truly want, and do and think what makes you feel good. Be good to yourself, you will appreciate it. You are the creator of your experiences.

Treat yourself as well as you treat others.

I was recently rejected by a Christian woman because of my lack of faith. When we first met we were fairly smitten with each other and quickly developed a warm romantic relationship. Then one evening she asked: "Do you believe in the one true God?" I replied that I had undefined spiritual beliefs. She was very quiet and then said, to the effect, that the bible said not to convenant with unbelievers.

My perception is that people come to their understanding or belief from a lifetime of searching and experience, and as a consequence garner my respect regardless of their conclusions. I can't know how hard it has been for another, nor can I or should I make a judgment about their hard won beliefs. What I can do is try and understand the best I'm able.

What's sad in this situation is the feeling we had for each other and that a doctrine got in the way. I could have reasoned with her in many ways about that supposed biblical edict but felt that it could be perceived that I was attacking her faith - and more importantly, that if she didn't see the problem with it then I doubt that an outsider's reason would do much good.

So...one of those rare (I'm finding) encounters of mutual attraction died on the vine - or Cross, if you will - and we're left with a sadness of what might have been.

Cowboy

Thanks citygirl, I have been through a lot lately. House burnt to ground and lost husband three months later. No life insurance, he was 46. As I continue to live, or at least fake it, I am trying to go on with my life. I have two teenage daughter who lost their home and their daddy. The thought of me dating scares them to death. I keep thinking if I keep waiting will anyone want me.

im in central florida right above orlando.

I might date a Christian man, as long as he was not too extreme like some of the southern Baptists who want to preach and convert everyone they see, but a person like that would have no interest in me anyway.

I probably would not marry one.
Because...

If you truly want intimacy with your permanent partner, I think you should have very similar values and beliefs. I don't think you have to agree on everything that would be impossible. A few differences would leave room for growth and learning.

jb

Many people are essentially Christian from birth because their parents are Christian and the brainwashing begins immediately, just like it happened for most of these parents. Not that many people actually choose to follow any religion, the choice was already made for them by their parents/place of birth.

I would date a Christian, depending on how sane and logical her views were about her religion and how she implemented her religion into her daily life. Basically, no religious nuts. She would have to fully accept that i am totally non religious and accept that i find much about religion in general and Christianity laughable.

sorry passed away a few months ago