Freekin connection.

Yuppies.

That would be much closer to right, yeah. My ideal first date? Combing the city's used bookstores for good finds, then sitting with our treasures over coffee, discussing them and our favorite books.

THAT? Would be heaven. But... I don't expect to ever actually get that. This isn't self-pity, either. Simply fact.

Course, at the moment, with my face all busted up, I'm not really in the place where I expect to even be asked to McDonalds.

And thank you for the compliments.

Why are people so selfish and cruel to each-other?

Sorry to hear that happened to you, John.

Dunno, but if it involves a show or something, it's OK by me. Just... SOMETHING, ya know?

If I actually got asked to a REAL dinner? I think I would probably faint.

I have a strange feeling that my next date will be the fair. With who I have no idea... I just... feel it. And have for months now. Weird huh?

Still a date, if the guy asks you specifically to go with him.

And Maud, no I didn't know that... but I have a feeling I'm going to learn.

Yeah, the original question was about in-person, not on Mingle. I'm in the same place as JT in that there's nobody anywhere near me on here. Pfft.

Ah, but in the other thread I was seriously asked.

I was hoping, Maudred, that was what you were doing... but not knowing you, I wanted to be sure.

And Picknick and Picnic... tomato tomahto. I'm in the middle of a crisis here, demmit. I'm allowed a bit of brain fartedness tonight!

Yeah,see, the whole sugar on exposed nerves thing just isn't my bag.

Express out of the ordinary opinions? Certainly. Judge and belittle and bash others based on opinions? Certainly not.

And yes, the first can be done without the second. We ARE supposed to be adults here, right?

What's "dat"?

Thank you for your well-wishes. They mean a lot to me. I'm pretty scared about tomorrow... I could REALLY use some stories... what will the dentist do? Can I ask to be put out for this? Cuz I HATE needles in my gums!

JT, I don't think my tooth will heal... my lips, yeah, but not my tooth. That would rock though, no dentist needed!

And Yin? Your life is like an action/snuff film!

So, I finally got to review my post below about being asked on dates, and I must say I was pretty saddened by the fact that at least two pages was dedicated to men wondering what a date even IS.

See, THIS is what I meant. How can a man ask a woman on a date if he doesn't even know what a date IS?

So, fellas, this is for you. It's really quite simple. If you ask a woman to go with you somewhere and do something that doesn't involve booze and instant, expected sex, it's a date. If you can TALK to each-other and get to KNOW each-other, it's a date.

Dinner and a movie = Date.
Browsing a bookstore and coffee = Date.
McDonalds and an indie show = Date.
Picknick = Date.
Grocery shopping and you and/or her making dinner at home and a video rental = Date.

Why is this so hard for you guys anyway?

I'd rather attract the unstable than yuppies. Luckily, they're WAY low on my list. YAY!

What type of person do you attract?
Your Result: You attract artsy people!

Those free spirited artists with great imaginations find you interesting. They are usually interesting themselves, so its not a bad thing, but they CAN be a bit wifty and choose odd goals. If you like life to always be a bit 'different' from the norm, but not too extreme in any one direction, these are the people for you. If you seek logical decision making skills and good money management, you may want to change something in the way you appear. Artsy people are fun for adventure and exploring, so, have fun! (smoking weed helps too)

You attract unstable people!
You attract geeks!
You attract Yuppies!
You attract rednecks!
You attract models!

Why the geek hatin'? I ADORE geeks! Send them my way!

Geeks are AWESOME!

I attract artsy types first, then the unsatable, then geeks.

It's not about the money for me, it's about being asked in the first place.

And you're right, dates can be special no matter what you do, if they're with the right person.



Wait... what?



He gets an A+ in commitment, but an F- in timing.



How would that friendship develop? It is always good to start a relationship that way, but how do strangers turn into friends if they don't automatically see each-other most days?

My point was that being asked on a date is WAY better then being oogled and wanted for nothing but instant sex.



See, now, if I heard a guy say this to me, my automatic response would be that he wants to go somewhere "quiet" (aka "alone") to get to know me "better" (aka sexually).



So by this I assume you mean men don't bother to ask because women will say no anyway? However, men WILL ask for sex instead. So... who's judging whom by a cover?



Your second sentence makes you out to be one of the men from your first. Fruitless... how?



Not those exact words. By "date" I mean he actually asks me to go do something together in the light of day that doesn't involve booze and sex. AKA, something where we can actually TALK and get to know each-other.



Yes, Billy, that would be considered a date. Why is this hard to understand?



Yeah, well... I gave up on Mingle for that a while ago. The men on here who have any form of IQ at all are nowhere NEAR me, so... yeah.



I kinda assumed I didn't have to... MEN!



YES!! WE HAVE A WINNER!!!



NOW who's b***ing about the other gender?



The distance IS important. I, for one, can't get to know anyone via the internet. I need physical contact, eye-to-eye contact... so yes, distance DOES matter.



For me, rummaging through an old bookstore and then having coffee and looking at each-other's treasures while talking about our favorite books would be the PERFECT first date!



I'd concur!