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pfft, id prefer to be alone, if a guy cant man up, im not going to desperately ask him anything. It means nothing if he isnt strong enough to approach me. So you would consider yourself " desperate " if you were to consider approaching a guy?? What about a guy who isn't particularly out " cruising "?? He hasn't been paying that much attention, and he hasn't approached you. You'd totally pass that guy over, even if you thought he was handsome and all that, just because HE hasn't walked up first??? "Cruising"? Isn't that another way of saying "out for sex"? Do men only approach women if they're horny? |
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Sat 08/01/09 07:04 PM
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At my age, EVERYONE has baggage. The idea is to use it to one's benefit, not detrement.
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Topic:
Neighborly?
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Why are people such a**holes now a days?
My yard is crappy. Seriously bad. Why? Because I have no knowhow, energy, time, or HELP to fix it up. That's why. Nothing to do with laziness. So I get a complaint to my landlord from a neighbor. Did this neighbor bother to come over to my place and offer to help me with my yard? No. He just complaines like a jack***, full of assumptions. Whatever happened to being neighborly? 
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Sat 08/01/09 06:56 PM
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Allright, f****it.
I'll talk to a man. I'll throw up... but I'll do it. Buncha p***ies...
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Sat 08/01/09 06:44 PM
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Shoulda just stuck w/the first answer! She was okay with me insulting her!!!
YOUR name should be Snarky! 
I would change my name to SnarkySuvol in a heartbeat bc it is that cool...and I envy you for having such a cool name and then I would post a picture with eyeshadow 
Not eyeSHADOW, eyeLINER. You just lost your gay license.
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Topic:
Untitled Sci-Fi, Chapter 1
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Thank you!
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Yeah, see, the overall attitude on this subject seems to VERY much go along with the "grass is always greener" attitude. Either way, we'll be rejected. The question is, WHO has to be the rejected one? Reminiscent of the 7th grade school dance where the boys are on one side of the gym, the girls on the other, and they spend 3 hours looking at each other with no one ever saying a word. I just realized something that makes me wanna beat my head against a wall... the men I WANT never talk to me... which means I have to talk to them... which makes me wanna  just thinking about it.
Grrr. Well, you're not the only one to experience this vexing phenomenon! I never get e-mails from anyone I would consider a legitimate dating prospect here -- I mean literally NEVER -- and I get a lot of e-mail....! Not that I'm complaining about the quantity (it gives me something to do), but it would be nice to get one from someone a little bit compatible....! All I can say to that, Lex, is WORD! Wish I could be more verbose on it, but ya already said it all there. Last time I took a woman on a date, it cost me around 250 bucks.
I am NOT cheap....lol I don't need that kind of date, but dinner and a movie would be nice once in a blue moon.
This is a post to anyone and no one specific.
Solution possiblity #1 in getting men to ask women out more = Get rid of the internet and cable tv and you will see people go out and ask a women out to have better results in friendship leading to a relationship. I know, I know sounds absurd..... or does it? Well it seems impossible now anyway. Men and women will chat online most of the time and find ways to satisfy their needs without even stepping out of the house! You know where I am going with this aren't you! Times have changed. If it is for the better or for the worse. I will let you decide on that. Well, I have two things to say about this: 1) If I wanted to just get laid, I could. That's the "needs" you refer to here, so it doesn't really answer the initial question. I get hit on, just not asked on dates. Guys "want" me, but they don't want ME, see what I mean? 2) I'm currently sitting at a coffee shop, so I AM in public at the moment. 
Shoulda just stuck w/the first answer! She was okay with me insulting her!!!
YOUR name should be Snarky!
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I don't remember if I ever started a thread like this or not, but I DO know I have mentioned it before. I have NEVER been asked on a date since WELL before my marriage. I've been divorced almost three years now. Three years of guys hitting on me, but never a date request. Why is this? Do men not ask ladies on dates anymore? Why not? What the hell happened? I can't believe a lady as lovely as you isn't asked out on a regular basis. :O I know I would ask you out! You're so beauuuuuutiful and sweet! :) ;) Thank you.  I get hit on, but not asked on dates. There's a difference, and that difference is based on respect, IMHO. So maybe this is what I should have asked instead: What gives a man the decision to respect a woman or not?
We kid because we care, love. LOL
Yeah, yeah yeah. Brats.
OOOOOO
new answer: We dont ask you out on dates cuz we are cheap Blame it on the economy! Billy, half the time I adore ya and half the time I wanna strangle ya. 
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You are a unique guy, Lex...no doubt! You know we luv it! The 'inevitable' is just part of the risk two people take. It's nice if that isn't a foregone conclusion when WHOMEVER asks initially and/or based on the gender of the asker/askee. Well, I'm a little concerned about this "double standard" idea. Is there any reason to believe that the rejection rate for women asking men out would be any greater than it is for men asking women out? Intuitively, it seems to me that the women would be rejected LESS frequently, although this could be a perceptual error on my part. But let's say it's true -- then, women asking men out, with fewer overall rejections, would seem to lead (at least on a percentage basis) to more potential "matches" than the other way around (assuming some way to equalize the number of women asking with the number of men asking -- but even if you can't do that, I'm thinking the "staggered" numbers would still be extremely revealing). On the other hand, I can say that the vast majority of the women who have expressed interest in me on dating sites, are not women I would want to date. So that particular rejection percentage would be very high -- on the other hand, had they actually bothered to read my profile, they never would have asked in the first place. So there's an informational-access issue involved in this thing, too. Yeah, see, the overall attitude on this subject seems to VERY much go along with the "grass is always greener" attitude. Either way, we'll be rejected. The question is, WHO has to be the rejected one? I just realized something that makes me wanna beat my head against a wall... the men I WANT never talk to me... which means I have to talk to them... which makes me wanna just thinking about it.
Grrr. |
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whuts an LC grad 
Someone who graduated from Lewis and Clark here.
Hey, Billy -- I HAVE called you a couple times. YOU didn't answer. Brat.
Hmm, very good topic.
Me personally, I generally don't ask a woman out until after we have sent several emails to eachother then have talked on the phone at least a few timers. Seeing how nobody has stuck it out in the emails or called when they say would I haven't asked anyone out yet. Sorry about the confusion. I meant in person. not sure what ya mean by wiggle room, but it sounded cool
but i meant something different than you think...i think...or maybe not maybe im being "deep" again....lets see what snarky says.......or maybe she moved onto another thread with another question dogging on men? Hey, now. I don't "dog" on men. I ask questions based on my PERSONAL expereinces with them. I can't help it if the men I have been with have been assai.
sorry, this is the 21st century
the men are mostly asking each other out on dates This is sadly very true in my case... I always think the gay ones are hot. I have been cursed, I tell ya! And I think between justaguy and Billy I'm gonne have ONE HELL of a headache!
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Topic:
Untitled Sci-Fi, Chapter 1
Edited by
snarkytwain
on
Sat 08/01/09 06:04 PM
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Here's Chapter 2. I can't edit the title to the thread, though. Pfft.
Chapter 2 She stared at the clock, hearing it tick-tock-tick-tock, feeling the hard leather of the couch on her bare legs, smelling the burnt cake from the kitchen, tasting the crisp mint of the mouthwash she had used only moments before. She wanted to throw up again. Tick-tock-tick-tock. Shouldn’t have planned the party before her Trial. Shouldn’t have tried to bake a cake before we knew. But damnit, I thought… I knew… HOW COULD SHE? Tick-tock-tick-tock. “Honey?” Sharp breath. Steady. Steady. “In here!” “Ah, darling. There you are! Where is the birthday girl?” She looked up at him. Maurice. Her husband for the past twenty-two years. The father of their daughter. Their only daughter. Their only child. He was so happy, his smile brightening the electric blue of his eyes. Beautiful eyes. Their daughter’s eyes as well. She loved him. So much. How could she destroy this joy he had? She had to. No choice. And the faster the better. She took a deep breath. “She’s running. I don’t know where she is. Nobody does.” Instantly, his face fell. The joy in his eyes turning to dark understanding. He knew. Of course he knew. She had gone to Trial today, after all. But they had been so SURE. Their only child… they had been so sure. He spoke one word, his voice cracking like old leather. “Who?” “Jack the Ripper.” “Oh, GOD.” He fell down beside her on the couch. “They’re sure? They know for certain?” “Yes.” She stared straight ahead as he took her hand. She couldn’t bear to look at her. “They’re sure. They Tested her three times at my request.” He sighed heavily, shaking his head at nothing, staring straight ahead. Silence. Then: “She ran?” “You’re surprised?” “… no.” “They’ll scour the countryside for her.” “Which is it? Life or..?” “Jack the Ripper, honey. What do you think?” “Oh God.” “They’ll find her. They always find them.” “I just can’t believe…” “Nor can I.” Suddenly, he took her hand. “She may find her way to..?” “Maybe. If it exists. Either way, we have lost our daughter forever.” They stared off into nothing, hands held tight, in silent mourning. |
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Sat 08/01/09 06:09 PM
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Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember... Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well.. You are stuck with a double whammy... One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask... The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask. Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection. It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame... new subject: (since snarky just isnt getting me as always) matthew guy..........women will never ever get it..........ever...........you will find a couple, but generalizing "women" into a group......that is just a bad idea if you want to wait around until a woman asks you out on a date...ya may as well start buying cats What can I say Billy? You're just so deep! 
I used to live in Spokane, I wentto Shadle Park High.
Better than Ferris! I'm an LC grad, in case that comment didn't cement that fact.
The interesting thing is that I've heard men talk about the double standard and wanting women to ask them out or pay for dates or travel to see them, etc... But given that exact situation, they are often uncomfortable with the reality of a woman willing to do that. The means the double edged sword cuts both ways.
Rejection stinks no matter which way it's flying... Word. That is all. |
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Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember... Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well.. You are stuck with a double whammy... One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask... The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask. Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection. It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame... I've thought that myself... that a guy must be with someone or too young or out of my league... Sometimes I wonder if getting a divorce was such a good idea... |
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Thank you. :blushing I dunno... every guy who talks to me at all wants one thing.
Ummm....excuse me. Would you mind rephrasing that statement??? You don't TALK to me, you TYPE to me.
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Thanks for the honesty, babe. There HAVE to be SOME decent men left!
I mean, I know there are from being here at Mingle but... left in Spokane? I dunno. They probably all moved to Portland... |
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As I was saying, you have probably been asked out several times, but you missed it... I noticed that you were far away from me so I was only half serious, which is why I added the sex part.
But, seriously if you were closer to me I would ask you out, and in reality I do agree with the sex on a first date thing... My advice to you is this, open your eyes and look around. There are a lot of guys wanting to date you. However, you have become blinded by your negative thoughts. Thank you.  I dunno... every guy who talks to me at all wants one thing. And I don't dress slutty. I don't get it, is all. I mean, I can't really mistake "Would you like to go out to coffee/dinner/lunch?" if it's asked, right? But it never is...
What is this "date" thing of which you speak?
My point exactly. People talk about dates, but they also talk about Bigfoot.
Balky, thanks. I think Spokane just sucks is all. Ugh. |
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QUOTE: Well......you should already know that.....and I'd rather not tell you.....considering the weird *** relationship we have formed Cuz I read Hemmingway at the bar? laugh That up there^^^ No idea what it has to do with anything Snark -- But you reading Hemmingway -- that is sexy As to this --"ETA: Billy, why would taking a woman home be easier than asking her on a date? In my expereince, it's the same thing, only asking her on a date is WAY more respectful..." WHAT!?!? If you make yourself not "approachable" for a date and a guy decides to take you "home" that means he wants to have sex ya get it now? respect doesnt have anything to do with it. but where did we veer off? at you making yourself not approachable. and you proved that. by saying, "it's the same thing" that one is WAY more respectful. and guess what? we know that so, miss snarky twain who reads hemmingway, youre smart you think about what i am saying But if I'm approachable for sex, I should also be approachable for a date...? WTF? Men confuse the HELL out of me! 
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Edited by
snarkytwain
on
Sat 08/01/09 05:26 PM
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the last girl i asked out said this in conversation after my request. ive never been asked out. guys ask me to go home with them!! i said, i dont know if i want to spend any time with you yet, thats why i ask you to come out with me one night why is it that the dating scene, has become a one night thing? i like courtship!! EXACTLY! But... courtship barely exists anymore. I'm gonna take to asking a man who hits on me at the bar if he would ask me on an actual date... maybe that will weed out the jackassai... maybe not... |
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I don't ask for two reasons:
1) I'm scared of rejection, yes. I can't deny that. 2) If I ask a man, how am I to know he won't say yes just because he doesn't want to hurt my feelings, or ouf ot an ego boost he was given or..? How do I know, even if he says yes, that he actually wants ME? That's why. I know. I'm neurotic.
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Sat 08/01/09 05:19 PM
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So I'm the only one who does't get asked? That's kinda an ego-crusher... 
Would you like to go out with me? I know that typically on a first date it is usually kept short. However, I think that you are worth far more then that. I would start by bringing you two dozen roses, each one representing one of your beautiful qualities. I would then take you to dinner at a very classy restaurant hand feeding you your favorite dishes. We could then go dancing as I hold you close and whisper in your ear how beautiful I feel that you are, while wishing the night would never end. I would then take you home with me and give you hours of the most intense sexual bliss that you have ever experienced, the memory of which would last us a lifetime. In the morning I would cook you your favorite breakfast, where you would find yet another two dozen roses waiting for you, representing two dozen more of your beautiful qualities. There ya go babe, feel better now? See someone does want to go out with you after all…
I TOTALLY missed this one... See babe... that's sweet (cept the sex part... not on a first date, ya know), but you live in Texas. Pfft. Still that gives me a bit of hope... a bit. Thank you for that.
Well......you should already know that.....and I'd rather not tell you.....considering the weird *** relationship we have formed
Cuz I read Hemmingway at the bar?
ETA: Billy, why would taking a woman home be easier than asking her on a date? In my expereince, it's the same thing, only asking her on a date is WAY more respectful... |
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