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I wouldn't change anything.Like many on here,i have been through the heartache etc,got over it,and had some harmless fun.I like who i am now and i know the kind of person i want to be with.There is no substitute for experience,so if i find her to share our life and experiences that will be wonderful,if not,life is still good... ....... Yeah, I think that is the right attitude .. For me the thing is, had I stayed with my husband, I would have missed out on all the stuff I learnt during my second relationship. And sure, I would have had different things with and from my husband, but... the BIG 'but' for me... my 2nd partner has been a pro drummer, so he was all about music, pro sound & pro lighting etc. etc. (he used to work in show-business for some 20 yrs). And I learnt SO much from him! If it wasn't for him, I would NEVER have gotten on stage to sing, to perform, to become the MC of an event etc. and find out just how much I like doing all that! And that may sound trivial, but doing such things, is a crucial part of ME of who I AM. I just never knew until I was with him. I discovered that I liked playing drums myself, so I got my own drum-kit. My son got into music because of my ex as well, had his own band, wrote the music and lyrics, he was the lead singer, learnt to play guitar and blossomed, he turned out to be an unbelievably good performer! That kid belongs on stage! Stage animal, lol, hope he'll get back up there some time! Just a few things, but these were and are SO important and I would never ever have known, nor have had the chance to explore this side of me, if it hadn't been for my 2nd partner. So would I want to trade that in for 25 yrs of LT commitment? The first thing that I feel is "NO WAY!!" Geezz ... clarity at last, lol, thank you JustFun. I guess I sometimes need a drummer to wake me up 
 .Even if your son doesn't make a career out of music,he already has a talent and passion that will help him through life,and something he can always fall back on.
So still a big YES from me.No changes,i have my experiences and they all make me smile now
Oh yes, I totally understood the artistic side .. simply because I am artistic myself. Runs in the family from my mom's side. Lot's of musicians, painters etc etc. So it's in our DNA. And a true beaut to see that in both my kids as well :) I don't ever miss my ex, the one thing I do miss, is the artistic click, the artistic exchange. We weren't right for each other as partners, but artistically we did erm .. nurture and stimulate each other. We totally understood the other that way, even though he didn't paint, he had knowledge of light & colour (pro light & sound tech), so he had 'the eye' for it. I got him to play drums again, after years of not playing, because I understood how important it is for a musician, an artist. I could tell what mood he was in by listening to him playing, the way he hit the cymbals, the toms etc. Now he's playing in a band again and I'm so friggin happy about that! I loved that part of our relationship and that's the only part I dearly missed in the beginning, and sometimes still miss .. It was almost a separate entity within the relationship, if you know what I mean (i'm quite sure you do). 
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I wouldn't change anything.Like many on here,i have been through the heartache etc,got over it,and had some harmless fun.I like who i am now and i know the kind of person i want to be with.There is no substitute for experience,so if i find her to share our life and experiences that will be wonderful,if not,life is still good... ....... Yeah, I think that is the right attitude .. For me the thing is, had I stayed with my husband, I would have missed out on all the stuff I learnt during my second relationship. And sure, I would have had different things with and from my husband, but... the BIG 'but' for me... my 2nd partner has been a pro drummer, so he was all about music, pro sound & pro lighting etc. etc. (he used to work in show-business for some 20 yrs). And I learnt SO much from him! If it wasn't for him, I would NEVER have gotten on stage to sing, to perform, to become the MC of an event etc. and find out just how much I like doing all that! And that may sound trivial, but doing such things, is a crucial part of ME of who I AM. I just never knew until I was with him. I discovered that I liked playing drums myself, so I got my own drum-kit. My son got into music because of my ex as well, had his own band, wrote the music and lyrics, he was the lead singer, learnt to play guitar and blossomed, he turned out to be an unbelievably good performer! That kid belongs on stage! Stage animal, lol, hope he'll get back up there some time! Just a few things, but these were and are SO important and I would never ever have known, nor have had the chance to explore this side of me, if it hadn't been for my 2nd partner. So would I want to trade that in for 25 yrs of LT commitment? The first thing that I feel is "NO WAY!!" Geezz ... clarity at last, lol, thank you JustFun. I guess I sometimes need a drummer to wake me up
.Even if your son doesn't make a career out of music,he already has a talent and passion that will help him through life,and something he can always fall back on.
So still a big YES from me.No changes,i have my experiences and they all make me smile now
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Edited by
Justfun_1
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Tue 11/18/14 09:17 AM
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I wouldn't change anything.Like many on here,i have been through the heartache etc,got over it,and had some harmless fun.I like who i am now and i know the kind of person i want to be with.There is no substitute for experience,so if i find her to share our life and experiences that will be wonderful,if not,life is still good...
But in a nutshell,i don't think i would have wanted to marry young and still be together,even though i wanted it then. It seems to be as confusing as we want it to be...
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Topic:
What do you think?
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Does she know you left ? Maybe she's still enjoying herself
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Topic:
HELP LOL
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he's looking for a 'bunsh' this time
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Topic:
black chick white guy
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When it comes to people,i'm happily colour blind
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Topic:
cheating
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Love can blind people into giving second chances,but the fact of the matter is,when the TRUST is gone with that person,it has truly gone...
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Topic:
time to pay up..
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Okay,maybe a little off topic,but the principle is the same.I would always at least offer to pay the tab because that is my nature.But times have changed,so i wouldn't spoil the occasion by being too insistent...
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Topic:
time to pay up..
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All good points no1,and also a fine line in some cases.Because i am aware that many ladies have had bad experiences when the guy has paid the tab,ie,the guy now thinking he has scored for the night lol.I now pick up the tab and ask if she minds if i pay for it.You can still be the gentleman by being a little insistent while being humourous,tell her she can pay next time if she insists
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Topic:
New here! Hello from the UK
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Well, obviously, I didn't mean YOU!!
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Topic:
New here! Hello from the UK
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Hello and welcome,from a dull English man
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Topic:
Player!???
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Someone who 'plays' on the emotions of others for his/her own advantage or agenda
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Topic:
Romance dead?
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I'm not stamping on you Op,i am expressing my opinion on what was written previously
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Topic:
Romance dead?
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I was brought up with good manners,and how to treat a lady.I often get compliments for those things,but while grateful,i also find it a shame that my ways stand out so much to warrant such compliments.
As for those things making a woman weak at the knees ? That is very shallow,the above mentioned are should be natural and selfless... |
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I spoke to soon,it's hit and miss now...
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Same here.I just signed in and all i can get is the community
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Same here.I just signed in and all i can get is the community
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Topic:
sexy
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A lady who knows how to flirt and seduce my mind without being crude or too slutty...
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Topic:
Stockings
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During childbirth the doctors thought my mum was giving birth to a bank robber until they realised she had left her pantyhose (tights) on
So that's how some charming robbers learned how to steal the ladies hearts at VERY early age? LOL
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Topic:
Stockings
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During childbirth the doctors thought my mum was giving birth to a bank robber until they realised she had left her pantyhose (tights) on
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