Ok.. this should be an easy one for everybody...lol... you just went on a meet and greet..... Be it coffee or a nice dinner or a glass of wine somewhere.... you both have mutually agreed to be there...
meaning...one did not ask the other one on a date so to speak... now at the end of a pleasant . whatever it is or wherever it is you went...lol...
the check comes.... the tab for the dinner or drinks...... now I automatically pay.. the tab.
.. I don't expect a lady to pay for her own dinner or drinks.... at least not all the time.... if she wants to kick in a few dollars on the third date then fine... pay for the popcorn at the movie...lol...
... but I have yet to go on one of these dates.... were the woman reached for the tab .. the bill.. the check... first... or even offered to pay for her share..... which is cool I get it....
... but I would like to know... do women get apprehensive.... when the check comes... do you pause and think to yourself..hmmm.. is he going to get this check..... how do you handle... yourself when it's time to pay up... honest answers please..... none of this , I always insist on paying my half crap.... because if that was true I would have heard it at least once by now...lol.... and women.. what do you think when a guy.. alludes to our insist that you pay for your share....
or perhaps the whole bill...ohhh..lol
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Actually if I'm meeting someone for the first time.. I make it very clear from the beginning it is dutch.. I have had them pick up the check anyway but I still offered to leave the tip...

I have more then once picked up the tab when I was dating someone or pay for the popcorn and drinks ect.... I don't see that the guy must pay all.. Heck at times the guy may be making less then I do and hour...Even if he makes more no one should expect for the guy to pay for everything...

It would make me stress if i didntt know how it was going to work out so i would offer to pay half. Times change.

you my beautiful looking person... .. are definitely the exception to the rule..
.. I would love a dinner date to offer to .. to go. Dutch.. somewhere in the conversation before arriving.. at the restaurant.... but it never comes up..
.. if you did offer to pay half.. I more likely would say... that's okay I will get this one... you can get the next one.... you're so pretty by the way...

I think about it I I alow time for him to offer to pay, if he hesitates then I offer to pay my share, I think it might offend the guyif I jump in and say I'll pay too quickly, iam old fashion , I don't expect him to pay on casual date but most men I know would be offended if the lady paid

Mutually agreed upon "meet and greets" are not dates...When the waiter asks, I speak up 'first' and request separate checks ...If the waiter neglects to ask, I speak up and request separate checks..... ...This goes without saying D...When it comes to meet and greets, how we cross our legs has nothing to do with who is obligated to pay the tab...It's 2014, wake the frig up!!!

..hmmm.. is this true.. my fellow men..
would we be offended... if she did not allow us to pay.... I always think right when the bill is about to come...
.. I hope this doesn't get awkward...
... and she just lets me pay... I have never had a woman... pick up a check yet.... when I was married my wife would pay . the check sometimes...
.. but that was generally because she . new I can never work out how much to tip in my head...lol.. it always made me feel a little bit like a gigolo... but she did pay...lol

All good points no1,and also a fine line in some cases.Because i am aware that many ladies have had bad experiences when the guy has paid the tab,ie,the guy now thinking he has scored for the night lol.I now pick up the tab and ask if she minds if i pay for it.You can still be the gentleman by being a little insistent while being humourous,tell her she can pay next time if she insists

yes quite right my comrade..^^
. some men .. fill that they are owed something. are entitled to some.. type of reimbursement... if they paid for the evening....

... is this quite common.. ladies..
your dinner date expecting... reimbursement.... so to speak..

.. I have met women for coffee.. I have met women for a glass of wine.. I have met women for dinner..
.. meet and greets.. take on all forms..
.. I have heard from many women.. who have gone on a meet and greet..
. the date pays the bill... and then gets very demanding.. that he is compensated..... but yes I will limit it to the main topic... you are truly the light in the darkness.

So when did this switch from a "meet and greet" to a dinner date?....Two completely different things....

Okay,maybe a little off topic,but the principle is the same.I would always at least offer to pay the tab because that is my nature.But times have changed,so i wouldn't spoil the occasion by being too insistent...

Look D, I'm not trying to split hairs with you, I just happen to think this topic is important (especially to the ladies) as it speaks, not only to proper etiquette, but to safety and plain old common sense...The purpose of a "one on one" meet and greet is to determine interest...It's not about getting laid, it's not about a free drink, or meal, or cup of joe...If everyone treated it like "what it is", it would save all of us who are sincerely looking for a match the trouble of wading through ten pounds of bull chit to find the right guy....

Never liked the feeling of obligation with a stranger. As in letting the man buy for favors later. Not.

who's trying to get laid.. ?..
and proper etiquette..
. that's what I'm trying to discuss..
.. is it proper etiquette to have . the man pick up the tab.... that is it that is all.... just curious how women view this.... getting laid on a meet and greet... you would have to be pretty slick...ohhh.. wait a minute...lmao..

Yup, I'm gonna be slick in a couple weeks.

I always pay.......I don't believe in making a woman pay when she's with me and i always treat them so good

I insist on separate checks on meet and greet. Both of you explained why. Dates are different. But the same etiquette still applies.
It's not about anything free for her and, in return, a compensation for him.
If I see it going in that direction I'll simply politely say thanks, but no thanks and walk away from either meet and greet or a date.