Community > Posts By > Justuw8nsee
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Girls suck!
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Boys suck too.... gently for sure...sometimes a little stronger... and at all the right spots... and at the right times.... Oh wow!..... |
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Girls suck!
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are there any cutties out there any where that are acctually NORMAL??? I believe the answer to your question is YES!! lol! |
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Just sad....
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Thank you all for your thoughts on this topic. I do appreciate them ALL!!
I think letting go of a person and situation like this would be hard for alot of people. The realization that maybe I don't think enough of myself to stop tolerating this behavior has been hard to swallow. Sounds like I need to take some time out for ME! |
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What happens in that time?
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I've never been married. Engaged but never actually took the plunge. I'm still crazy and demanding at times...lol! But usually just sweet. :)
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BORED BORED
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Yeah twenty minutes left and I am out the door!!!
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Nothing worse than being used as a convenience when no one else is there for them Like a drive through right? Grrrr, yes exactly!! He's not trying to marry me that's for sure. Matter of fact we have never even been commited to eachother other than friends. you are allowing this so , you are to blame also!! from what I have seen here, your either a booty call for him or a safety net. if you want something more than that, stop the cycle and do something about it..... your the only one that knows what that may be!!! hahaha! How about both can I be both? lol! Oh geez so why is it that men aren't attracted to the ones that provide the safety net/best sex they've ever had? :) (insert snicker here) |
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Just sad....
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WOW, I thought I was over the relationship I had like this until I read your thread. It has been over twenty years. I can tell you that part of the draw for me was the challenge of making him love me enough to give up everything for me. It never happened, I was the taboo for him, a haven he could run to when it was comfortable for him. Oh, I was the only one that truly understood him etc... Many years later, we are friends of sorts, occasionally he tries to tell me that he made a mistake, but I am glad he did. i still feel the pain, angry and resentment Isn't that something? I really hope he does realize what an ass he has been but chances are when he does it will be to late. Isn't that how the saying goes? |
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Just sad....
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You said she is everything you have ever wanted and this guy could literally have nothing monitary to offer me and I still would love him. That's how I know its unconditional. I can't promise I won't be there again, and I'm not saying I wouldn't be stupid for being there. But loving him just hasn't seemed like to much of an option for me...? Yeah, it doesn't have to make any sense -- and there's always that "Dead End" sign hanging over your head -- but the good times are SO good....so much better than the best times with ANYBODY else -- that it can almost seem worth it....almost.... I just don't see any realistic way that I could ever meet anyone as smart, as funny, as creative, as everything, as she is. I've been with many other people, but they all seem like cardboard cutouts compared to her. She's not just different from anyone else, she's their polar opposite. And that's intriguing, and exciting, and always desirable. Everyone else, by comparison, is a yawn, maybe a yawn and a half. I still hold out some hope to meet one more truly substantial person in my life, someone who offers more than "I don't know what to write here." But they are so rare....there are so few "outside-the-box" people where I am, and to try to be mainstream would just kill me. Well that truly is a shame. Seriously, I mean its good that we are both able to step outside of our funk though to try to enjoy someone eles's company. lol! I actually have been in other relationships that I enjoyed thoroughly. Just seems everytime HE comes back I melt. Maybe because we haven't ever been commited and that is somewhat challenging for me...who knows?! |
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What do you
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think of those that question your faith or, morality? I'm thinking who the hell are they? |
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Just sad....
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Nothing worse than being used as a convenience when no one else is there for them Like a drive through right? Grrrr, yes exactly!! He's not trying to marry me that's for sure. Matter of fact we have never even been commited to eachother other than friends. |
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Just sad....
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Have you ever loved someone that never loved you back. Have you ever given all you can to that person only to have them turn around and call you their "friend." Not that there is anything wrong with friendship but seriously there comes a point when two people are just the right fit and that's all there is to it. He comes and goes out of my life. Its always seasonal. And when it starts to heat up he leaves. This time to an ex girlfriend that he apparently can't let go of. I don't think I can handle this kind of heart break again....maybe I won't be there next time he comes calling.... I've got one of those too. Every time she gets in a jam, she suddenly can't live without me. As soon as the problem is solved, I'm not needed anymore. And it's my own fault for putting up with it -- but she is so intelligent, so creative, so everything I've ever wanted in a person, except for the consistency and sincerity parts. And I keep telling myself maybe next time, it will be different. And I know it probably won't be. But I also know I'll never find anyone better. You said she is everything you have ever wanted and this guy could literally have nothing monitary to offer me and I still would love him. That's how I know its unconditional. I can't promise I won't be there again, and I'm not saying I wouldn't be stupid for being there. But loving him just hasn't seemed like to much of an option for me...? |
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What are you
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Working at a bank and telling the TRUTH! lol! Which right now means quite a bit to some people!
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Halloween
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One of my employees tells me that he and his wife are attending a Halloween party in 2 weeks. The theme of the party is "Heaven and Hell" His costume thoughts were pretty typical as in wearing a pair of angel wings and horns. Or a Halo and a Pitch Fork. I told him to dress as a marriage certificate. Heaven in the beginning Hell at the end. hahahahahaha! Wow! That's awesome! |
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Just sad....
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Thank you. :)
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Just sad....
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Nothing worse than being used as a convenience when no one else is there for them Like a drive through right? Grrrr, yes exactly!! |
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Just sad....
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If you continuously let him do this he has no and will never respect you. People don't do that to those they respect. You have to set the bar for how you will allow yourself to be treated. If you set it too low you won't likely be happy with the results. Raise your bar and I think you'll see different results... Good luck.. Oh and no MAYBE you won't be there DEFINITELY don't be there, he doesn't deserve you! You are so correct. For sure I have been settling. I just hate that you can't control who you love and who you don't. That is something I truly will NEVER understand. He doesn't deserve me or anything I have done. Just want the hurt to go away. I think I have been successful at masking it but to really get over it has been tough. Yea you can control who you love. You can love yourself. And leting some jerk do that, no matter how much you care about him, makes you not feel good right? Your taking that away from yourself. besides, one thing i found, is that all the energy your putting into loving him, and thinking about him. There is probly some really nice guy out there that would die to be with you, that wouldn't do these things that you probly will end up falling in love with even more. Could you point him out for me then? hahaha! I swear I am a "mark" or a stepping stone for some men that appear to be sincere and genuine then BAM!! I know its life, it just sucks, it hurts, and I am tired... |
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Just sad....
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You're too good to be on someone's shelf or back burner, which is, emotionally what you are to this guy. You need to save yourself from this. It's so much easier said than done, but the pain just radiates from your post......if a reader can feel your pain, I can only imagine how much this has hurt you over and over again. I've read your profile (I didn't just look at the pictures), and you sound like a person who deserves to be loved, not used. Awww thank you. :) I am a woman afterall expressing myself and feelings has always been a strong point! lol! |
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Just sad....
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If you continuously let him do this he has no and will never respect you. People don't do that to those they respect. You have to set the bar for how you will allow yourself to be treated. If you set it too low you won't likely be happy with the results. Raise your bar and I think you'll see different results... Good luck.. Oh and no MAYBE you won't be there DEFINITELY don't be there, he doesn't deserve you! You are so correct. For sure I have been settling. I just hate that you can't control who you love and who you don't. That is something I truly will NEVER understand. He doesn't deserve me or anything I have done. Just want the hurt to go away. I think I have been successful at masking it but to really get over it has been tough. |
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Just sad....
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i dont know how many times he has done this,it seems like a few,how long will it take you to realize that he doesnt truly want to be with you? i mean dam wake up , move on . This is a completelay different guy and situation but your right I should probably wake my ass up huh? |
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Just sad....
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Have you ever loved someone that never loved you back. Have you ever given all you can to that person only to have them turn around and call you their "friend." Not that there is anything wrong with friendship but seriously there comes a point when two people are just the right fit and that's all there is to it.
He comes and goes out of my life. Its always seasonal. And when it starts to heat up he leaves. This time to an ex girlfriend that he apparently can't let go of. I don't think I can handle this kind of heart break again....maybe I won't be there next time he comes calling.... |
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