Have you ever loved someone that never loved you back. Have you ever given all you can to that person only to have them turn around and call you their "friend." Not that there is anything wrong with friendship but seriously there comes a point when two people are just the right fit and that's all there is to it.

He comes and goes out of my life. Its always seasonal. And when it starts to heat up he leaves. This time to an ex girlfriend that he apparently can't let go of. I don't think I can handle this kind of heart break again....maybe I won't be there next time he comes calling....

let him go! if he was the one, he won't be i'm the one when its convient.

I had the same thing happen with a couple of girls. I let them go completely and never looked back. (although I DO think about them from time to time)

i have. I did the part will i stuck around, and i did the part where i wasn't there when they came back. I was happier when they didnt come back. Sometimes at night i would think about em, but i was proud that i was able to tell em off. It gave myself alot of respect for myself.

yup it can be hell. i know this girl that part of me still loves her. tougher yet she was my first. all i can do is move on since she cant fight her fears.

If you continuously let him do this he has no and will never respect you. People don't do that to those they respect. You have to set the bar for how you will allow yourself to be treated. If you set it too low you won't likely be happy with the results. Raise your bar and I think you'll see different results... Good luck..

Oh and no MAYBE you won't be there DEFINITELY don't be there, he doesn't deserve you!

i dont know how many times he has done this,it seems like a few,how long will it take you to realize that he doesnt truly want to be with you? i mean dam wake up , move on .

This is a completelay different guy and situation but your right I should probably wake my ass up huh?

You are so correct. For sure I have been settling. I just hate that you can't control who you love and who you don't. That is something I truly will NEVER understand. He doesn't deserve me or anything I have done. Just want the hurt to go away. I think I have been successful at masking it but to really get over it has been tough.

well yes i would, life is to short. keep your head up and remember,happiness is what we should all seek.

Nothing worse than being used as a convenience when no one else is there for them

You're too good to be on someone's shelf or back burner, which is, emotionally what you are to this guy.

You need to save yourself from this. It's so much easier said than done, but the pain just radiates from your post......if a reader can feel your pain, I can only imagine how much this has hurt you over and over again.

I've read your profile (I didn't just look at the pictures), and you sound like a person who deserves to be loved, not used.

I'm sorry you hurt so much. Your pic here DOES seem like you're sad. Although it's pretty.

Yea you can control who you love. You can love yourself. And leting some jerk do that, no matter how much you care about him, makes you not feel good right? Your taking that away from yourself.

besides, one thing i found, is that all the energy your putting into loving him, and thinking about him. There is probly some really nice guy out there that would die to be with you, that wouldn't do these things that you probly will end up falling in love with even more.

Awww thank you. :) I am a woman afterall expressing myself and feelings has always been a strong point! lol!

Could you point him out for me then? hahaha! I swear I am a "mark" or a stepping stone for some men that appear to be sincere and genuine then BAM!! I know its life, it just sucks, it hurts, and I am tired...

Like a drive through right? Grrrr, yes exactly!!

Thank you. :)

then stop the cycle OP

take action, make decisions, dont settle

good luck

Sure is Sweety...I was in that situation for 15 years...and married to him...please don't let it go that far