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Perhaps that person is happy with what they're doing? Maybe they don't want to cause rifts and tell you that they like what they're doing, they are perfectly happy and to get off their back.. I haven't looked at your profile but my first assumption is that it's a male you're talking about.. Which is usually who won't argue will just appease you with what you want to hear... IF you're not happy with their job and you want more out of them then my opinion is you should be with someone who has the same drive/desires as you... It's not fair to ask someone to do all that "you" want in life if it's not what will make them happy... Why can't you move up and do what you want to do and let them contribute what they do? Why do they have to contribute all that you do? If you love them you'll accept them for what they offer you in all aspects of your life, if not then you'll never be happy and if they do things to try to make you happy they'll never be happy.. That doesn't sound fair or right to me... I'm not saying what you want is wrong by any means.. I completely understand your desires and drives, but maybe the person you're trying to bend to your will isn't the one that can help you/walk side by side with you to achieve the goals/desires that you have... I agree with you a hundred percent but it's not like I have not expressed my feeling to them. I have told them it would be better to go our own ways...but they feel the need to try and hold on. I would be happier as just friends at this point in my life. Unfortunately, only "you" can make that change.. If you're not getting what you want then you are not happy... If you set a timeline and both agree to it and it's not met then what choice do you have? I'd rather be single than unhappy... I'd rather hurt someone for a short time for their happiness and mine if that's what it must be.. Of course that's me... Not everyone's cup of tea... Your thoughts are very true, I have to make a decision that will be fair to the both of us. |
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Perhaps that person is happy with what they're doing? Maybe they don't want to cause rifts and tell you that they like what they're doing, they are perfectly happy and to get off their back.. I haven't looked at your profile but my first assumption is that it's a male you're talking about.. Which is usually who won't argue will just appease you with what you want to hear... IF you're not happy with their job and you want more out of them then my opinion is you should be with someone who has the same drive/desires as you... It's not fair to ask someone to do all that "you" want in life if it's not what will make them happy... Why can't you move up and do what you want to do and let them contribute what they do? Why do they have to contribute all that you do? If you love them you'll accept them for what they offer you in all aspects of your life, if not then you'll never be happy and if they do things to try to make you happy they'll never be happy.. That doesn't sound fair or right to me... I'm not saying what you want is wrong by any means.. I completely understand your desires and drives, but maybe the person you're trying to bend to your will isn't the one that can help you/walk side by side with you to achieve the goals/desires that you have... I agree with you a hundred percent but it's not like I have not expressed my feeling to them. I have told them it would be better to go our own ways...but they feel the need to try and hold on. I would be happier as just friends at this point in my life. |
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Personally I would rather see the person I am with making less money but happy rather than making more money and being miserable. I guess what I am saying is I would love the person more than money.JMO That's how I have felt up to this point...but there are basic needs that have to be met, how much should you take up the slack? |
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Body odour. Bad manners. He slept with your friend. He slept with your non-friend. He slept with your non-friends dog. He slapped me. He slapped my mother....wait nope not that one. Those are some very good reasons!! 
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No matter what huh
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Etrain is it really that easy for you to move on? Just wondering...
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Hi all,
I just wanted to pose a question to you guys...If you were in a relationship for years with an individual who has not made any strides in their life; by that I mean being comfortable in the same type of job that they have had for years (not making enough money) to lead a decent life together. Yet the other person is continually making strides in their life (post-graduate school, searching for more meaningful/gainful employment) and enjoying what life has to offer. Do you stay with someone because you are comfortable with them and not fully happy with the relationship? The issue has been brought to their attention but it's always the same reply..."I'm gonna do this...I'm gonna do that"... extensive lies to hold on to the person. When is enough actually enough? |
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Come on Chicagoans!!
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thanks for joining our growing thread..I hope that you are enjoying our wonderful city. This thread is not a good representation of our lively city!
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Come on Chicagoans!!
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I have been gone for a minute and things still moving slowly around here...I wonder what the problem with us Chi-town-ans? Do we really not like each other...
 Well I'm still hopeful that we will get ourselves together 
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im finding there are a lot of young men who like older ladies lol thats ok i like em all!!!!!!!! I get a lot of the 20 and 21's myself. I'm like WTF lol. If I was looking for a young stud I wouldn't be able to find one to save my life.  
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Come on Chicagoans!!
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quiet, I'm here, ok, now you can chat sorry, just wanted to say that, anyways, wassup Well on this thread, you will pretty much be talking to yourself! But I'm doing great how about yourself? 
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Just ask JustAGuy - part 6
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If a guy cheats more than once, will he continue to cheat? Or should I ask, will he ever change? If he cheats more than once....chances are that he is not going to change. Some guys just don't know any different. Or they get some kind of thrill out of it. Or they are just plain old insecure with themselves so they need the reassurance that they find by being able to have more than one woman at a time. There are many reasons for men cheating. Just depends on the guy. It really is very disappointing, especially when you think of all the time you have invested with an individual. I just don't want to do it anymore. Thank you for your reply. I just needed to ask someone about it. Well...answering questions is what I am here for. Sorry my answer wasn't more good news than bad.
It's alright I'm here for some truth 
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Topic:
Just ask JustAGuy - part 6
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If a guy cheats more than once, will he continue to cheat? Or should I ask, will he ever change? If he cheats more than once....chances are that he is not going to change. Some guys just don't know any different. Or they get some kind of thrill out of it. Or they are just plain old insecure with themselves so they need the reassurance that they find by being able to have more than one woman at a time. There are many reasons for men cheating. Just depends on the guy. It really is very disappointing, especially when you think of all the time you have invested with an individual. I just don't want to do it anymore. Thank you for your reply. I just needed to ask someone about it. |
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Topic:
Just ask JustAGuy - part 6
Edited by
ZeeZee
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Wed 03/11/09 11:41 PM
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If a guy cheats more than once, will he continue to cheat? Or should I ask, will he ever change? Doubtful, but possible. Rarely do people change if they do something multiple times, habits and all that stuff. That's what I thought...sad really 
It can be. People tell you that they're going to change and don't. My thing is, if your not serious don't drag someone behind your mess...let them go. |
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Topic:
Just ask JustAGuy - part 6
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If a guy cheats more than once, will he continue to cheat? Or should I ask, will he ever change? Doubtful, but possible. Rarely do people change if they do something multiple times, habits and all that stuff. That's what I thought...sad really
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Topic:
Just ask JustAGuy - part 6
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If a guy cheats more than once, will he continue to cheat? Or should I ask, will he ever change?
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Come on Chicagoans!!
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lol who you telling, what's been going on?
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Come on Chicagoans!!
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 Man this site is jumping!!!!  
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Topic:
songs that make you think...
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That's it...I really liked that song...It's so truthful
I can't think of the artist name wright now but some of the lyrics are... I'm a *****, I'm a mother, I'm a child, I'm a lover, I'm a sinner, I'm a saint something something something LOL... well I think that song has all the elements!
meredith brooks i think, b**ch is the title |
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Topic:
songs that make you think...
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I can't think of the artist name wright now but some of the lyrics are...
I'm a *****, I'm a mother, I'm a child, I'm a lover, I'm a sinner, I'm a saint something something something LOL... well I think that song has all the elements!
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