If love was that easy, then their would not be marriage. Marriage is the unity of two loves, my answer is no, there is also a physical part.

I have been in love with a woman and her child, even married her, now we divorced and she turned him against me...most importantly I fail in love with the thought of loving him and taking him /her as a packaged deal I would walk through fire for. A man has accept your children and know his wants come last, yours and your children's come first!

I think things through before they happen, so when I left her, I had already made amends in my heart.

We all have fantasies and that's ok, but even so, if your really happy in your marriage, I wouldn't go through with sleeping with another woman if I were you. Its good that you can talk about it, but get it out of your system, especially if you wouldn't want him to be with someone else. If you do expect a divorce, cheating is cheating no matter how you ok it in your head.

Thank you!
Sounds like you got a level head and are doing what a MAN should do.

For a first post...I gotta say I respect what you are doing Brother.

The kid comes first.

Everything else is secondary. Eventually, an actual GOOD woman will come your way...but, that is beyond your control. Till she shows up, I think you should do what you are doing....

Expanding your education and work force marketability....taking your love on mini-vacations....NOT fixating on a past that can't be changed....

You are doing the right thing my good man.

You have actually stumbled into a community of good people (the Mingletards)... who share a lot in common with you.

Welcome Bro....everyone else here can relate in one way or another. Just be you and drop into hang out with us occasionally. This place is a great support.

Peace.

You hit the nail right on the head, I look at my decision from the future, when my daughters older, I want her to see the commitment I gave to her and in turn plant that seed her, breaking the dysfunction her mom tries to instill in her. This is where good people come from another good person.

Lets see who gets it, add to the discussion please! I am seeing life differently now after going through a divorce and taking custody of my daughter. I wanted happiness with my ex, but she wanted fun, a line was drawn and crossed, now I'm left picking up the pieces alone, again. Now I can't depend on someone for the direction of my life, so what do I do now? I have taken it upon myself to go back to school and change my profession, I take my daughter on mini vacations, I for the first time in 4 years I am starting to feel some since of happiness, that doesn't mean that I'm not looking for a relationship, but this world is a judgmental place, an unfair place and that's ok, so I change what I can. I fix only what is broken, I don't use bandages or patches to get by, being a single father I want my daughter to know she is loved and have what she needs. What have you done lately to change your situation? By the way, I left my ex because she is immature and selfish.