I'm married and Bi-curious my husband knows about it and recently he's been bringing up the subject a lot ever since he started working at a bar. We are very much in love but stress causes us to lash out at each other a lot. I love him to death and I wouldn't mind experiencing what I've been fantasizing about since I was 17 but I don't want him to be with someone else, am I ****ed up for feeling this way? And should I worry about him cheating?

Let me see if I understand. YOU want to experience sex with someone else but not let him? Seems kinda selfish.

That is why I will never be in an open relationship. When you marry, once again, you are supposed to forsake all others and desires.

As far as him cheating, if he truly loves you he won't need another woman.

It's like the same thing with a different head. Have a threesome and dont worry about it. He will think your the greatest. And never want to leave you.

I had some friends who did this and were fine, and another couple I knew who couldn't make it over the matter and got divorced...
I would be careful with the matter.
Tread carefully girl!

my ex hubby way before we got married
wanted a open relationship

he went to bed with someone i went to school with
and he knew i was mad,, he stated i agree no i didnt
he did

i had a friend that had always had feelings for me
and he knew what was going on, and he didnt approve what my ex hubby(bf at the time) did
so i went to bed with that friend..

i told my ex hubby, and he was pist... why he went to bed with someone else and i couldnt..

nothing else happen after that, but we did brake up
several time before during and after we got married

we didnt celebrate our first annerversary.. we have been divorced for 23-24yrs as our son is 25yrs old

he got remarried about 20yrs ago
and just resently he expressed he wanted to have a fling with me
i told him streght out no

it wouldnt even be fair if i did
even if he wasent married i still wouldnt
he thinks hes gods gift


worry abut him cheating. you could yes

my ex hubby cheated before during and after we got married
and i put up with his crap

when i was pg with our son
i let a friend stay for she was having problems in
her marriage
that nite he tried to get down her pants
she brush him off all nite
she had a class she need to go to the next day
so she called me and told me what he was trying to do
while i was on the phone with her, i ask him, and he started laughing about it and said no... i looked at him
and i told him, i belive her more than i belive you
he didnt say much after that

we had been arguing alot and when i had to go to the hospitol i didnt want him around, so he didnt get to see our son untill he was about 3weeks old

Only you hold the answers.

But, the fact that you're questioning such, indicates that you may feel wrong for wanting something that if you're lover were to have would bother you. You may be questioning his faithfulness based on your own feelings/desires/fantasies, or you may have a rational reason to question him, that's something only you can determine.

I would listen to my gut though, and keep in mind that the heart is very foolish, so be very careful when listening to it.

I think you should get some joint counseling on the subject so you
both will be in a better position to think carefully about what you
are doing. Emotions it seems to me could get very complicated in
this situation so it would be better to get a professional opinion
to guide you through it so it will not end up ruining your marriage
and already established relationship.

Many people might fantasize about multiple partners, a threesome
orgies or being with someone of the same sex but the only way I've
ever heard of it working out is when everyone is basically in it just
for fun and it would have to be a lot easier if no one is married.

But neither of these two situations hold true for you.

1. It might turn out to be something that is not just for fun but
is also a serious emotional commitment for you.

2. You are married and there is already an established commitment of
your love and emotions.

So...think hard about this first. Discuss it with your closest
confidants - people you trust - and as I said maybe a professional.
Then before you do anything. Thing about it some more.

This is really dangerous territory for you.

We all have fantasies and that's ok, but even so, if your really happy in your marriage, I wouldn't go through with sleeping with another woman if I were you. Its good that you can talk about it, but get it out of your system, especially if you wouldn't want him to be with someone else. If you do expect a divorce, cheating is cheating no matter how you ok it in your head.

If your husband's presence disturbs your ability to fantasize, that can create a problem.

If I were you I'd play with myself in private, so I could have a lot of fun and get my rocks off clean and proper, and when i were with your husband, I'd give it all sytstems go at warp five, Mr. Sulu, in order to please him.

If he blows a gasket or two, or overheats... don't worry, the warranty will take care of that, and you can rest assured HE won't complain.