Lets see who gets it, add to the discussion please! I am seeing life differently now after going through a divorce and taking custody of my daughter. I wanted happiness with my ex, but she wanted fun, a line was drawn and crossed, now I'm left picking up the pieces alone, again. Now I can't depend on someone for the direction of my life, so what do I do now? I have taken it upon myself to go back to school and change my profession, I take my daughter on mini vacations, I for the first time in 4 years I am starting to feel some since of happiness, that doesn't mean that I'm not looking for a relationship, but this world is a judgmental place, an unfair place and that's ok, so I change what I can. I fix only what is broken, I don't use bandages or patches to get by, being a single father I want my daughter to know she is loved and have what she needs. What have you done lately to change your situation? By the way, I left my ex because she is immature and selfish.

I am a few years down the track from you, The rewards of raising your child alone are huge. My darling 13 year old is loved, balanced & tells me many times each day how much she loves me & thinks I am the best mother. A childs devotion is pure heaven

Sounds like you got a level head and are doing what a MAN should do.

For a first post...I gotta say I respect what you are doing Brother.

The kid comes first.

Everything else is secondary. Eventually, an actual GOOD woman will come your way...but, that is beyond your control. Till she shows up, I think you should do what you are doing....

Expanding your education and work force marketability....taking your love on mini-vacations....NOT fixating on a past that can't be changed....

You are doing the right thing my good man.

You have actually stumbled into a community of good people (the Mingletards)... who share a lot in common with you.

Welcome Bro....everyone else here can relate in one way or another. Just be you and drop into hang out with us occasionally. This place is a great support.

Peace.

I'm currently hoping to land a media studies placement at a University. Fingers crossed. Failing that, I have many other career options. Also, trying to slightly distance myself from my over-protective family. There's being protective, and then there's smothering. It can get a bit much. . I hate having to admit it. However, it's making me uncomfortable. Feel like I can't breathe, as they always have their noses in every part of my life. I just need a bit of space from them. Re-evaluating life choices can be therapeutic

Simple....tell them to "back the F off"...but, don't make it sound like it is negotiable. Seriously....sometimes respect and equality is taken...not given.

You hit the nail right on the head, I look at my decision from the future, when my daughters older, I want her to see the commitment I gave to her and in turn plant that seed her, breaking the dysfunction her mom tries to instill in her. This is where good people come from another good person.

Thank you!
Sounds like you got a level head and are doing what a MAN should do.

For a first post...I gotta say I respect what you are doing Brother.

The kid comes first.

Everything else is secondary. Eventually, an actual GOOD woman will come your way...but, that is beyond your control. Till she shows up, I think you should do what you are doing....

Expanding your education and work force marketability....taking your love on mini-vacations....NOT fixating on a past that can't be changed....

You are doing the right thing my good man.

You have actually stumbled into a community of good people (the Mingletards)... who share a lot in common with you.

Welcome Bro....everyone else here can relate in one way or another. Just be you and drop into hang out with us occasionally. This place is a great support.

Peace.

I am quite a few years down your road, gq85. I've already raised my son and daughter. I let them see for themselves how their mom was, in other words I didn't whine about her or put her down to them.

You will find raising your daughter is the sweetest part of life. But don't be like me, I didn't take care of myself (as far as searching and finding someone) and balance is key, as long as your daughter is first.

I finish school this year and will be going back to work in a new field. Late to change but better than nothing! Keep on trucking.

see, sometimes I can be sincere....