Here for the long haul!

I suggest you might look at the Forum Thread "First Date Tips." Looks reasonable to me.

If you can't afford to pay for the full date then you have no business dating. If popcorn and a video is your speed there is nothing wrong with that. I do agree with Pleasure Pirate, and add this. You should choose something within both of your comfort levels, financially and socially.

If all goes well then a second date will absolutely happen. When that happens and she is a kind person, she might offer to spring for that one. But don't expect it. Just enjoy, listen and learn.

However, if you find you don't get to the second date then you need to go back and review, rewind and learn. Be honest with yourself. Were you trying too hard? Did you present a false self? You know, different from your picture/profile/emails/chats? It could also have nothing to do with you. Then you don't need to dwell on it for very long.

I have been on a few dates that although they were pleasant, I knew they were not for me. Hey, I know how to treat people and being kind is always right.

But when the guy shows up 5 or more inches shorter, heavier, un showered, with half his face drooping I have to wonder, "Where is the guy from the pictures that asked me on the date?" Unbelievable!! Then when those guys try so hard to impress me and start pawing at me I get the creeps big time. I will end the date nicely as long as he is respectful enough. Sometimes I tell him right there it's not a match, best wishes. Other times I wait to let him down, usually the next day. It's never easy if he is a really nice person. But there is no point in dragging it out. That just really would not be kind.

Just be glad this girl did you a favor and didn't waste any more of your time and money! Don't be bitter. Don't try to be or do something you are not. Be the best you can be for the best lady that will eventually come into your life. That won't happen if you are bitter or you expect SOMETHING! You just need more dating experince, even if they are only 1st dates. Kind of like playing sports, you have to keep at it to get any better.

Chin up and Good Luck!

Oh I think I just got swayed cuz the people I was hanging with at the time were all meat eaters. Without paying too much attention I found I was eating meat. At first it was only Chicken. I couldn't stand the smell of Beef. I thought it smelled like Urine. Things changed after a few years.

Now I love Beef and only like the terribly fattening Fried Chicken. I find the older I get the more it makes sense that I go back to my Vegetarian ways. So, be careful.

I can go days without meat but I eat way too many Carbs in Bread, Rice or Dessert forms.

Hey Tod, I see you are a soon to be chef. Got any main dish ideas here. I'd cook with you if I could. It's always more fun for me to cook with someone that loves to cook or eat.

Cheers!

When I was a poor college student I was a Lacto Vegetarian. I ate all the Carbs I wanted, but I think I've only gotten worse. Thanks for the recipe though. I'll try it cuz it has Pasta! Yummm!!

Oh my gosh! Did you see that Ad in this post for Low Carb Foods?

I ask and it just appears! How wild!

And it's for a store in my neck of the woods. Now I can go and buy up all the Carbs I want and believe I am eating all Low Carbs! yeah yeah!

I'll pass out next week after I eat them all!!

No doubt you will find me on the kitchen floor OD'd on Oatmeal Raisin cookies!

greghearts you are mind kind of man!

Now what can I do for real food? You know, big entree, main dish? I already do broiled meats and steamed veggies with LOTS OF RICE! Carbo's again.

Need other options.

Oatmeal Raisin...one of my favs!

I'll make you cookies, but I might eat half before I get them to you!

Good suggestion. I can do that! Thanks!

Oh some Carbs are good I think, but I really LOVE them. LOVE them TOOO much!

Does anyone have any Low Carb - No Carb recipes that are really tasty?

I am a Carb Junkie and need help quick! When I think of eating, it's always Carbs. I usually go for something quick and easy and that always seems to be someting with Bread, Rice, Tortillas...you get the picture. The Atkin's Diet should be good for me but I couldn't hang for more than 2 days! I'm a pretty good cook (according to my friends and family) so I can handle most recipes.

Anyone got any reasonable and fairly easy suggestions?

I so love these! My 12 year old niece made these for our Xmas party and I was shocked. Shocked that she had the interest to do it (very easy recipe). Schocked that it tasted so delicious. Yumm...salty and sweet. Enjoy!

By the way,I sent him an email this morning and wrote exactly what I wrote in my original posting. Honest, direct but kind.

All of you agreed with me that that is the best way to go.

Thanks for all the responses!

Good luck to all of us!

Your recent post is a bit off the original question of "Guys, how would you best like to be told when there is no match?" You do however; bring up some good and interesting thoughts as to why some people feel it necessary to lie about their age or anything at all. You also bring up an interesting and common perception as to why people attract a certain type. All valid and all easy to find examples to fit the notion of "Like attracts Like."

Since this older and obviously "age challenged" gentleman sought me out, I don't know what similarities we have other than we both like food and are Fat people. He treated my very nicely and mentioned all night how kind and sweet I was. This was a bit annoying because I was not into him! Thankfully he was also very kind and sweet. Really! He stated that he saw this in my profile and pictures. Maybe that was the draw for him, or maybe it was the Fat thing? Maybe he saw someone that he thought he could have a pleasant time with even if only for one dinner? Who knows? I like to think of myself as kind, easy going, sociable and adaptable to any situation. However, I do not think I have a BIG SIGN on my forehead that says "Lonely Desperate Sucker - Lie To Me." In my case with this man it was definitely not a "Like attracts Like" situation.

In cyber space we are open to attracting all kinds. It is one of the attractions and also one of the perils. I get all kinds of interests from all types of men. Even though I am very specific in my profile as to whom I want to meet, I still get strange offers every now and then. I will go out on a limb here and write that it is probably like that for most people here also.

I consider this truth challenged older gentleman one of those strange ones. I guess it's just the "nothing ventured - nothing gained, or Boys will be Boys" attitude that makes them try anyway. Or, maybe they are just trying to see if I am desperate enough to settle for someone less than what I really wrote that I am looking for? Ha! No way!

Thanks ladyliz. I agree.

And yes, we do find all kinds on the internet. That's for sure.

It was a bit hard, but thankfully he was a real Gentleman. I kind of felt sorry for him. Wondered if I was just a "I'm Lonely and Desperate" date? If he was any different I would have walked out. Thanks for the post.