So I met this great girl on here a couple of nights ago, and we've been talking back and forth often since then when we've both been on. We seem to have clicked quite a bit already, but I kind of wonder if we're going too fast. I say that because we've already been talking about a connection, seeing each other in person (we live on opposite sides of the country) and like maybe it's meant to be and stuff like this. Don't get me wrong, we both do feel something here, and maybe it is meant to be I don't know. But at the same time, I'm starting to think maybe it's too soon to start talking about that already, when we've only known each other 3 days now. Any thoughts?

My speed story is a bit similar. Two months of daily contact. emails and phone calls. Usually him calling. We shared an immediate connection and attraction via email, phone and pictures. We even talked about possibilities. Just wishful thinking and maybe lots of flirting I think.

My profile at the time stated, "looking for long term leading to marriage." His stated, "friendly guy looking for friendship." He contacted me. Why? When I asked him why he said he just sent an email to me and I replied. He dodged the question.

Then he travelled here for almost a week because of work. We saw each other almost every day. We talked on the phone the same amount, perhaps more. All was good. He kissed me first. I kissed him first the following day. I let him know I liked kissing him. We had a very nice time when he was here. No sex either. He is coming out here again in a month.

He went back home and called the same amount of times for a few days. Then it dropped off to one call every 3 or 4 days and now it's very few emails.

I did my best to keep it "Friends Only" (we both think he needs to learn how to have a woman for a friend and not a wife or lover) but I like this man. He said his life is too messed up with a messy divorce now done (1 yr separated by law then 1 year since decree) and trying to get his life with his kids in order. He has them 1/2 time for now but he wants full time when he can get the money together to pay the lawyers. He said he is stuck in the "life suck's section" and he is in financial ruin and has nothing to offer a woman.

Okay, I get this. But I don't need his money or things to be his Friend. I want what he can give me and that is an intelligent and caring Friend that listens and talks to me like he trusts and respects my opinions and differences. An extra plus for me is he is active and lead a healthy lifestyle (except for th estress of divorce). I'm willing to be a Friend and take the time for him to get his act together. I'm willing to go slower. Yes, I am interested in a future with this man, but we both know it's not practical for now. I did ask him what he does with his time now that he is not calling me as much. He tells me he is just busy trying to get the house ready to rent out the basement and be able to pay off some bills. I believe him, but wonder what else is the reason for him cutting me off like this. Why can't he just call for 10 to 20 minutes? I don't need the marathons like we were having in the beginning. It's nice but not practical.

So my advice is to take things slowly and let it all play out naturally. Be carefull not to speed it up as he and I did here. It's very easy to do when you find someone you click with. It just hurts when someone pulls back for any reason. Even when it's just "Friends."