The problem is how to do that. Seems I can’t send you a message.

Chat here and if we like each other, then meet for coffee only. After that we decide if we want to meet again. Then he gets the phone number.

We have got to get together to talk

sad case here. I am sitting with chocolate when I would prefer both

yes I want to find someone. No games. No FwB, or the Just-for-now.

It is perfectly okay not to talk if you aren’t ready. No one should be forced to talk because someone else says they are supposed to.

However, if you are in danger of harming yourself please reach out to someone you trust and let them know you need some support.

Yesterday I had a fellow who was 42 yrs old from the USA want to be friends with me. I patiently explained why I didn’t date younger or international.

After a few rounds of age doesn’t or does make a difference he offered up his single father and gave me his phone number and begged me to call him.

He could not understand that giving his father’s phone number out to strangers he talked briefly to on the internet might not be a good or smart thing to do. I just realized he gave me the number but didn’t tell me his father’s name.

I can just imagine that call:
Excuse me but your son who I talked to on a dating site gave me your phone number after I said he was too young for me. ..... No this is the first time chatted with him. .... I agree he shouldn’t be giving out your number and told him so but he insisted I call you. .... {click}

R2 When a person starts to attack the person I stress of the comments they resort to bulling behaviours and logical fallacies. They do this because they have no real comments to make only their opinion.

You attacked me, the person You made assumptions that have no basis in fact. The fact is that I am not now nor have I ever been a nurse. I have also never been a doctor or psychiatrist or ever even worked in a hospital.

I do have over 30 yrs experience working as a counselor with all kinds of abuse survivors and have seen them all make huge changes in their lives. Some had been misdiagnosed and had been on medications for up to 17 years but had never worked on their abuse issues until they came to me and dealt with the abuse. Only one of my clients made no changes and that was because of a dual diagnosis that hindeeed her progress using talk therapy.

I get no kickbacks from drug companies because I don’t prescribe medications. I don’t have a licence to do that.

R2 I have nothing more to say to you. You do prove the point that some people refuse to be helped. Medications can help people like you IF they take them.

Good luck dealing with your problems.

To those of you who were abused: Thank you to those of you who shared your success stories. Talking does hel. Don’t let R2’s comments discourage you. He has mixed two different problems and believes they can’t be treated. He is wrong. Even severe cases of sexual abuse can be treated and your lives can improve. If your anxieties or depression is severe medication can help but most often this is temporary.

Please look for a therapist who knows how to deal with sexual abuse issues. If you are ready to go the work therapy can really help. It is hard work. It requires remembering and dealing with the past abuses. But remember this: You are no longer that small child living through a nightmare that no child should ever experience. You are now an adult dealing with your memories. Not a child dealing with the reality oh your abuses with no support. But you did survive. You are here today, still alive and wanting something better for your life. You are a SURVIVOR. While therapy is hard work it isn’t nearly as bad as living the abuse and you now have support.

This topic is about sexual abuse. It is not about paranoid schizophrenia.

Therapy for sexual abuse issues can be extremely helpful. In survivors who experience severe anxiety or depression medication can help so that the person can do the therapy and learn the skills needed to have a successful life.

Schizophrenia of any kind is not a result of sexual abuse.

Do not mix the two. The long term effects of traumas such as sexual abuse are treatable.

Schizophrenia is a disorder of the mind. No amount of talk therapy will change that. Medication is the only thing that works. I have seen the difference in people when they are on their meds and the effect when they are not.

That is not to say a person with schizophrenia does not also suffer if they were sexually abused. All it means is that they have two different problems that require different treatments.

I know sign language

Absolutely correct. It is about power and taking it away from some one, a bullies way to dominate others. They use sex to do it instead of their fists and words although some abuser use all of them.

My brother suffers from schizophrenia. And he indeed suffer with it when he isn’t taking hos medication. Not all diseases show up on scams. But the FACT that when he is on his meds he is not suffering, can hold down a job, support his family, pay his bills demonstrates that he does have a mental disorder that medication can help. Without his meds he can’t do any of those things.

As for it not appearing on a scan, well you can’t see depression or PTSD on some scans but MRI will ick those up AND schizophrenia. It is very real and MRIs and medical treatments that work prove it exists.

Now go take your meds

Definitely a post I have written many times ‍♀️🤦‍♂️‍♂️

Takes a lot of patience for this

So let me get this straight. You are looking for a virgin who has never even held hands with, kissed or hugged a man. She should expect that until after the wedding there will be no hand-holding, hugging or kissing. Pretty much no touching at all.

I presume that since this is what iou are looking for you are also avirgin who has ever had any physical contact with a woman.

I highly doubt you will find that kind of a woman on any dating site. Even women who want to wait don’t want to be treated like they are contaminated or too dirty to touch.

I think you might be right when you say you might have to remain celibate.

I know of 2 men who were celibate until after they were married. From what their ex-wives said they were awful when it came to sex. One only touched her when he wanted sex and never any other time.

I am a genuine woman

Then you definitely aren't my kind of guy. But good luck

Or get out of bed before taking a photo. How about combing your hair.

And please take off the hat. You aren't fooling anyone and some of us ladies think bald is sexy.

If I was that kind of woman I would be on that kind of site. “Selling” myself as a sex object lowers my standards. I am a person first. If you want the sexual part you have to get to my brain and heart first.

I’m curious. On her profile what does she say she is looking for? Perhaps there are mixed messages there too.

Also a good connection online doesn’t necessarily mean that will translate to real life.

To be blunt here stop thinking with the small brain and think with the one in your head. Yea you got played last night. Don’t set yourself up to be played again... and again... and again

She said she has things to work on. If she said or did nothing else -- believe that one statement. She has A LOT to work on. Unless you love drama and the whole push-pull thing she has going on you will be in for a lot more days like this one.