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It is frustrating because I get a dozen of them every day. Are they from people 3-4 states away...or who have no profile...or have their real name on their profile? They are most likely scammers.... That's all *I* ever get messages from.... 
They are never from here. The vast majority are from Texas. But CA and the East Coast are frequent. Many from Manhattan NY. I suspect that for many people not in North America Manhattan and TX are common enough in the media that it stays with them as a city they say is theirs. And like you I would say 99% are scammers who think old ladies are either rich or are easily duped out of their money. |
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welcome
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It is frustrating because I get a dozen of them every day.
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There are valid reasons to contact someone despite what they may say on their profiles. They should explain that to you in a message which you should read (as you expect them to do for your profile) before you delete and move on. I do read what they say AND check their profile before deleting |
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When a person puts something very specific in their profile it is there for a reason. So it makes me wonder why it is ignored. So ossicle reasons:
They didn’t read the profile They don’t know basic geography They don’t care They think you forgot what you wrote They didn’t think you meant THEM They were so taken by your photo or profile that they simply could not help themselves (or so they tell me) They have excuses (age is just a number-it isn’t; distance doesn’t matter when it comes to love-it does because of the time and cost factors) Got any others to add to the list? |
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I have sat behind the controls of a plane and flown it. The pilot landed the plane but I then taxied it down the runway back to the hangar
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Don't matter just curious
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If I was a female I would be scared to death to contact you. You need to change your photo since the one you have is way too dark. And re-do your write up since what you have will be very scary to a lady. You do not have to lie but just don't be so violent sounding. Good luck to you. No don't redo your profile or your photo. If this is who you are then just be exactly who you are. If the ladies are scared then they clearly aren't right for you and should stay away. |
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Hi Everyone, Hoping to meet women from Ottawa to date or just be social with. 
Here's the thing. if you want to meet interesting women you need to put some interesting things in your profile. |
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It can snow during Christmas and then go away AGREED!!! |
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Let it snow. Let it snow. Let it snow.
Just for today. Then Let it melt. Let it melt. Let it melt. |
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Am I Wrong?
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And just what will you do with yourself the rest of the time? No one has sex 24/7. You have to have something interesting to do besides work, eat, sleep and have sex.
And I doubt with that attitude you will find anyone who wants to be your sex slave. |
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Nice , Mean or in between !
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I was the "nice" girl, the "sweet" one. Well that is what everyone said. And it is true. I would rather bite my tongue off than say something to hurt someone even if I thought it was the truth and they deserved it.
When angry or upset I now go off and think about what I am upset about and if it is valid how do I calmly make my point without bitterness. I want to be assertive not aggressive. |
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What's Your Excuse
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He couldn't leave his house alone. Not a dog or cat or a pet rock. Not even him. But his HOUSE Sounds like he had more problems than in just not wanting to meet you. You're probably better off without someone with deep issues like that. Hope he gets some counseling. I totally agree |
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What's Your Excuse
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He couldn't leave his house alone.
Not a dog or cat or a pet rock. Not even him. But his HOUSE |
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Trust
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In this kind of interaction on the internet building trust starts with what you put in your profile and your photo. How can anyone learn to trust me if I give a photo that is misleading because it is old or in some way hides what I really look like? People who post a photo from years earlier, of someone else, such as posting a photo of a woman instead of the man you say you are are lying, well unless they are trying to show they are across-dresser or transitioning. Or wearing hats or sunglasses.
We build trust by what we say and matching it with what we do. Lies or half-truths made simply to make a good impression will eventually be found out. Then any trust a person has started to have in you is broken. Yes some people might overlook it but is still done. Either a person likes what they see and read or they don’t. Finding the right person for you starts from that first impression and has to be earned from that point on. Be honest. Be consistent. And not only be honest with others but be honest with yourself as well |
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Lack of courtesy
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I have a problem with replying. Sometimes I do politely tell them I am not interested and why (they are too young, not in my area, not in my country). Then they want to argue with me. Age is just a number, I would travel to be with you, I will move to your country... The other day a guy in his 40s wanted me to reconsider. He didn’t care that in 25 years he would be just retiring and I would be 90 years old and most likely wear diapers. He was going to take care of me. Yea right. Tell me another fairytale. They don’t mind driving for hours to get to me only to spend more time driving than actually spending time together. And the money!!! And they don’t mind giving up their jobs, family and friends just to move to another country. Of course they don’t consider the immigration process a problem. I get this over and over. Yes they are scammers or just dumber than a rock. So getting a reply from me really depends on my mood and if I want to run around these circles again and again. Believe it or not I do have a life outside of this site. Do my apologies to those I do not send a message to and the rest... well no response IS a response MsLeeHM.. You said: "Age is just a number, I would travel to be with you, I will move to your country..." If you politely say "no thanks..you are too far/ much yonger than I am looking for" and they come back with what you said..they are clearly scammers.. The only messages I get (other than one from a nice guy the other day commenting on something I wrote in the Forums)...are ALL from scammers..and I send them a copy-pasted message.."You are 700+ kilometres away, and nothing in your profile interests me... Not interested" If they come back with that nonsense about distance/ age is no concern..I send that to them again...because they all say the ssame thing...it's like they have a script. The third time they reply..I block them. *IF*, OTOH..a legitimate guy from 2 states away messaged me, and could tell me *why* he was looking for women this far away (not that BS the scammers say), and we actually had things in common abnd he could chat intellige ntly, then i would absolutely talk (chat) with him. But, in all my time on the dating sites, ~anyone~ from 300+ miles away has ALWAYS been a scammer....and I have no time for that nonsense. You are far more patient than I am. |
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Maybe because so many, both men and women, have given up on living when they get into their later 50s and above! Anytime someone says "I'm too old for that" what it really means is they have given up on living life to the fullest. Given up on living life to the fullest? Not me! My attitude is “The best is yet to be.” No kids. Minimal work. Few responsibilities. Why on earth would I want to give up? Mind you I have no interest in men my daughters’ ages. I want a man who is at the same stage of life I am at. All the time we want together plus all the time we want to pursue our individuals interests. |
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Lack of courtesy
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Denime - i look at the profile when someone contacts me. You have indicated you want an intimate encounter, which in any language says one night stand. So if you contacted me, I would not reply. You are only going to get replies from those INTERESTED in an encounter with you. I would definitely not respond to anyone wanting intimate encounters |
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Lack of courtesy
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I have a problem with replying. Sometimes I do politely tell them I am not interested and why (they are too young, not in my area, not in my country). Then they want to argue with me. Age is just a number, I would travel to be with you, I will move to your country...
The other day a guy in his 40s wanted me to reconsider. He didn’t care that in 25 years he would be just retiring and I would be 90 years old and most likely wear diapers. He was going to take care of me. Yea right. Tell me another fairytale. They don’t mind driving for hours to get to me only to spend more time driving than actually spending time together. And the money!!! And they don’t mind giving up their jobs, family and friends just to move to another country. Of course they don’t consider the immigration process a problem. I get this over and over. Yes they are scammers or just dumber than a rock. So getting a reply from me really depends on my mood and if I want to run around these circles again and again. Believe it or not I do have a life outside of this site. Do my apologies to those I do not send a message to and the rest... well no response IS a response |
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I think too much. But that's why I need someone who's both intelligent and can make me laugh. Okay this stopped me. I have asked a lot of men this question, “What are you thinking?”. I always get this answer, “Nothing”. They all insist it isn’t that they don’t want to tell me. They all say they really aren’t thinking anything. It is like their brain is turned off. I cannot fathom a brain that is turned off. Mine is always thinking about something. It might be nothing important but it is still “something”. |
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