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Sat 04/08/17 07:39 AM




Yea but he sure makes the bucks being that kind of crazy.

Now if I could figure out how to make crazy pay I could take a teal retirement.

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Fri 04/07/17 08:52 PM
This conversation reminds me of an old song; Perfectly Lonely.

People are human beings before all else and the little things that you think a person should fix to measure up to being with you are the exact ly the things that are going to trash the relationship when they figure out you temporarily "lowered" yourself to be with them. Maybe they don't leave you at the moment but they get fed up a and often become submissive aggressive until they have the opportunity to show you the door; usually when you least expect it or you have fallen off your mighty self appointed throne.

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Fri 04/07/17 07:58 PM
I sure hope I always go into said relationship as forever. If I ever get to the temporary lover thing I hope I just stay single.

The whole moving in/breaking up thing is just too exhausting to set it up from the get.

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Fri 04/07/17 07:39 PM
Edited by PacificStar48 on Fri 04/07/17 07:43 PM
I would be very careful about anything or one on Craig's List. Victims Are Us for con artists of all types.


Your recently widowed/eating your grief you just drawing a big old target on your back.

If you are retired at 54 you want to be really careful you hang on to what you have or you can find yourself scammed and broke by 64 begging for someone to rent you a room




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Fri 04/07/17 07:07 PM

Well my great grandmother never like them and always said "If you were so sorry you wouldn't have done it in the first place."

Personally, I think she had a good point so I never apologize because after I was old enough to understand what she meant they all started sounding like hallow excuse to me. Only used to placate someone in hopes to get back in their good graces.

This.

90% of apology is just an attempt to slide by doing the same thing again

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Fri 04/07/17 06:40 PM
I have figured 95% are ripped off photos or where someone lost a bet and their photo was used by the oil rig or cellblock to chat up board females. They try to hard yo hey phone number to sect.

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Fri 04/07/17 01:39 PM
I think for many having their picture taken had such bad association that it really is painful.

A lot of kids never really have that experience of having a loved one pushed by love and pride ever take the pictures of their lives.

Many never get school pictures, and the few times their pictures were taken was when they were put in some institution; foster care, a hospital, jail. the military, some Jobs where they are more worried about inventory than people.

A lot of people have dental issues they will never be able to afford to remediate.

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Thu 04/06/17 08:19 PM
Swapping some chit chat in emails before you want to have a meet and greet coffee date in a public place makes serious sense to me.
However; where/when did it get to be fashionable to ask for every kind of
Vetting from credit history, to psychological testing, to a comprehensive autobiography on everyone in your family right down to the dog.
Is a casual date that big a deal other places?
I get how some of that stuff comes into play when a REAL life in person relationship starts development but a date?


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Thu 04/06/17 06:44 PM

If you are making the same mistake again and again, it usually means that you've misidentified your real problem.

There is a difference between TRUST, and CLOSING YOUR EYES AND MAKING ASSUMPTIONS. Many people don't seem to realize that.

It seems that many people fear that love is magic, and the magic will go away if they don't blindly allow anyone who says "I love you" to get away with ANYTHING.


AMEN to this So True as painful as it may be to admit.
TRUE LOVE does not inflict pain on a mate out of selfishness. Which is the core of any lie.

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Thu 04/06/17 04:05 PM
Edited by PacificStar48 on Thu 04/06/17 04:23 PM
When someone rocks your faith in relationships it takes a conscious effort to heal. And usually takes some time.

Liars exist everywhere but there are some places they seem kind of pervasive. One place I find you can pretty much count on bumping into liars are places I kind of call fantasy playgrounds. Places people drink, gamble,vacation, or go to do something out of the norm like business conferences even sometimes where people put on an out of the ordinary social front like weddings or company parties. Of course being on line where people usually edit out their faults.

If you go into those environments with the blinders off they can be fun but just know the real world view is probably a safer place to do your search.
I think if you realize you have been have been given two of several of your senses and apply that at least with one not filtered by your heart or your hormones.
Usually liars have tells if you are just willing to spot them. I know people sometimes fib to spare feelings but if someone pulls those little lies on others you can bet the y are going to do it too you.

Think about the people who have lied to you, don't just obsess on one, and I bet you see times when they lied to parents, running buddies, employers. Often they tell lies that they don't even need to tell.


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Thu 04/06/17 03:30 PM
Would be my luck. Lol

Too funny love this forums


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Thu 04/06/17 03:23 PM
Puppy chow

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Thu 04/06/17 03:09 PM
Since at 20 yrs old you probably want to put something to suggest that you are an employed emancipated adult.

Even if you are an Olympian in training/youth coach you want to use a different lead shot.

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Thu 04/06/17 11:50 AM
Is there a character limit on forums or just my cheap phone server?

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Thu 04/06/17 11:23 AM
Dang would not upload.

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Thu 04/06/17 09:34 AM
The weather reports have been touting something vengeful bearing down on us. Gully washers and hateful winds. I and my aching bones would prefer more cool spring but in lie a lamb out like a lion. One last temper tantrum of winter.
I will grudgeingly believe it as I pull out of my nice warm bed. Let the puppy sleep a few extra for the both of us.She is getting lanky now takes upuvhore to than the little velvet newborn I Carried

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Wed 04/05/17 10:21 PM
Being around widows 25+ years now it is pretty consistent that kids have problems if parents date; especially in the first year.

Son's get the added social burden of being told it is their job to take care of their Mom now.

I think it has a lot to do if they actually live at home still or still think of it as home if they have less than what they want for housing. If they have a spouse things get a little better.

I personally think discussing your sex life with your children or adult children is as inappropriate as talking to talk to them about there's with them once they are adults. That is what your doctor or close friends
Are for. What goes on in ones bedroom is really between the people in it. If you state that clearly and end the conversation no if's, no but's, and no maybe's the stew will settle done.
EVEN if one has a spell of adjustment brain freeze you can just make it clear you have the privacy train back on the track and the conversation's over.

I think the idea of offering your ADULT children the option of private greif counseling is considerate, if you can afford it, but that is usually available for free through
Peer groups, hospice. And their own medical insurance or county mental health here in it the USA.

In cohabitation with adult children you probably want to be a lot more discreet than the sitcoms on TV. And honestly if some guy can't afford/isn't committed to the "intimacy exchange" enough to rent a room he probably isn't someone you want to be doing the deed with. Yea o get it is probably not as comfortable as to enjoy your own bed but hey invite your kids to take a vacation so Mom has some privacy. You have a right to that as an adult when they are an adult. Even if you want to be home alone to run around I'm your birthday suit. Lol




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Wed 04/05/17 09:06 PM
Actually the text is not bad. Would help if the structure was a little neater.

But you are killing yourself with your photos.

Sad because there is no particular problems with your looks. The body language hurts you. Lighting is terrible. You want to make an artistic statement or try yo create a persona you don't do it in your leadshot. This is where people seek dates not make a media appearance.

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Wed 04/05/17 08:53 PM
Sure. You are busy in your life and suddenly Someone you don't know comes into your life; sometimes forward from the sidelines and it kind of sneaks up on you. You already like them it is easy if things start yo Aline.

I can think of a couple of people in Mingleland that were we local I would seriously consider

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Wed 04/05/17 08:09 PM

I have a few that I could probably do some damage to for hurting people who didn't have it coming but the longer I live the more I see Karma catch them and do much more severe punishments than I could inflict.

Are their people I would like to apologize to that I haven't yea a few. Sometimes you don't get the chance or they don't want to hear it. I think you force an apology then you wrong them twice.

And I am sure I should Thank a few more. When I was younger I missed a chance to thank someone significant and it made a big impression on me so I tend to say it a lot. It is just nice . Feels good. And because I know how rare they often are they mean a lot.

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