So my son is almost 30
I've been a widow for only a few months
He is not happy at all... that I am dating... He seems to think that 60 year olds should be stuck at home knitting and that a 'love life' should be over..
He is not happy at all... that some other man, may be in his 'dad's bed, fooling around with his mom..
Yes, we've had a talk... I guess time will change his view, I hope..

The sons are right to have their feelings and need to be accepted and allow them to work through their uncomfortableness as its normal and appropriate to resent the new men. Assure them these feelings are ok with you and proceed as this is your sons issue and does not belong in yours so continue with your dating and ask your son to deal with his feelings and if he cannot suggest he get professional help to work through these feelings he has..

I am in the same boat. At 58 years old my Son is 34. I have been widowed for 5 years, and my Son has a cow about me dating. He finally told me, he is afraid if I find someone else I will forget all about his dad. I had to explain to him after 30 years of marriage, its not that easy to forget about someone, he will always hold a special place in my heart. That I will never forget him.

that ^^^^ was some damn good advice

assure him that you love him

that will never change

but you are both adults

"Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness" is not man made .

As a widower/ widow. You fulfilled your promises.

I think its a timing thing. You say you have been a widow for only a few months. Your son may just be having a difficult time with losing his father , then his mother dating soon after.

I think in time he will accept it, if he doesn't , well frankly that's his problem.

Awwwww, well you have had the talk and time is a healer...

Good luck :)
Both of you

hope he understands and you get to date

i think son's are a bit more concerned about their mom's dating
they cannot accept the fact that their mom can see someone else apart from their father

whereas i have observed that when it comes to the father seeing an other woman, they even meet the person in face very civilly.


i thought this was happening only in my country or the ones similar in mentality.


now i can see that it is not the country or area, it is the men mentality..

i hope both you ladies will meet wonderful accompanies
of course there is not much chance (still not impossible) to find the perfect match at the very first trial
but still i am wishing that you will enjoy every moment of your relationships..

Being around widows 25+ years now it is pretty consistent that kids have problems if parents date; especially in the first year.

Son's get the added social burden of being told it is their job to take care of their Mom now.

I think it has a lot to do if they actually live at home still or still think of it as home if they have less than what they want for housing. If they have a spouse things get a little better.

I personally think discussing your sex life with your children or adult children is as inappropriate as talking to talk to them about there's with them once they are adults. That is what your doctor or close friends
Are for. What goes on in ones bedroom is really between the people in it. If you state that clearly and end the conversation no if's, no but's, and no maybe's the stew will settle done.
EVEN if one has a spell of adjustment brain freeze you can just make it clear you have the privacy train back on the track and the conversation's over.

I think the idea of offering your ADULT children the option of private greif counseling is considerate, if you can afford it, but that is usually available for free through
Peer groups, hospice. And their own medical insurance or county mental health here in it the USA.

In cohabitation with adult children you probably want to be a lot more discreet than the sitcoms on TV. And honestly if some guy can't afford/isn't committed to the "intimacy exchange" enough to rent a room he probably isn't someone you want to be doing the deed with. Yea o get it is probably not as comfortable as to enjoy your own bed but hey invite your kids to take a vacation so Mom has some privacy. You have a right to that as an adult when they are an adult. Even if you want to be home alone to run around I'm your birthday suit. Lol

Ok.. the other side of the coin is if these women had daughters instead of sons their daughters would be encouraging them to date...yup..

It's a big girls club..lol

Just wait until we have our first date Kitty

They will be over the moon then.

it happens, and its normal. he'll get over it