Has a lot to do with trust and what they are doing.

And in some cases who they are spending the weekend with/where.

I would not be real happy about a guys campout where I know a couple of the guys, nortorious cheats, would probably bring a bimbo along/out to the campsite even though I trust my partner I don't trust them.

Did I see it as a favor for my ex to go to his "gross" sisters house alone YES.

People often think going your separate ways disavows certain marital privileges and responsibilities.
Three of which can really come back to bite you in the well you get the idea.

One is co-mingled debt. You don't have a to live together to be on the hook for bills a spouse runs up. Especially ruining your rental tecord. The collection agency can't find one they go after the other. Usually the one with assets even if they are other than the debt incurred. Cash strapped cities are doing this for taxes and unpaid utilities.

If a spouse living separate has assets you have to recover from them first before you can seek entitlements. This is particularly true for older or disabled.

Child custody rights/responsibilities do not just go away by living separate. Particularly onerous are laws designed to protect children that say spouse of record is presumed parent weather biologically true or not. So disappeared spouse becomes preggars guess who is on the hook for child support? And these kids can just be dropped off on your doorstep sometimes years later with HUGE problems and you have to deal with it.

Some entitlements for retirement sharing hinge solely on how long officially married. Common issue for military who discover wife who went/stayed "home" and held off divorce ten years get half of pay.
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Sooooh glad I put the Trash out last night so I can stay in this nice
warm bed.

Nice facial features but very unflattering photo. Hair is all but lost in this photo. Eyes look wild when with a slight smile combinded with nice mouth could be be very engaging. You need photos bare minimum four showing interests if you are not a big talker/writer.

Text of your profile is half hearted.

"Young,employed, Dad who likes quite life and occasional game on TV seeks petite lady for friendship and light dating. " would say the same thing and work to your benefit not against it.

Add one sentence started " My Irish blessings are; , .
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Welcome back to Mingleland. Join the forums in upbeat way get seen/get picked.

Sorry I have to get a tablet.

Sorry double post

I get there are RARE situations that it is grossly unfair for a variety reasons to force through a divorce and in many situations loss of marital benefits (insurance/credit) on one spouse or the other or even dependents.

Sometimes extended periods are needed for education or equity to accrue in upside down mortgages.

Especially if critical care hangs in the balance as it often can when families fall apart around a major illness.

Many people don't know there are situations you can NOT divorce an incompetent spouse. Or get a settlement if they have not selected a medical power of attorney.

Or when divided income may mean a morgager calls in a debt for critical shelter or transportation.

Are these "arrangements" fair to the greater community who live by the standard rules?

Probably not to the unfortunate person who trips into these "stand by" relationships but then our legal system doesn't have much flexibility to offer true justice in all situations. And some don't care if their short or longtime status I'd a convienance.

I do think it is very difficult for children to cope with these unique situations and parents have to have pathy and selflessness in conducting their personal lives. And I think it sends a poor message about " promises" and core values about human value when a spouse becomes a non-person if they are incapacitated.

Which is why I strongly recommend keeping your personal lives off the very public web.

People who think their kids do not have to "account" for their out of the norm behavior are really kidding themselves. The degree of children being publicly shamed for their parents "choices" is anything but funny. And is becoming a serious contributor to school failure, drug an alcohol use, and suicide.

Relationship "rules" have exceptions and real life isn't a one answer fits all deal.

This makes think of a Senior Class prank.

A actually pretty well liked coach finely bit the dust of his illustrious bachelor days and married a local gal from a big Catholic family in a Huge Church wedding.

With volumous loads of gifts the young couple received several nice sets of King Size sheets.

So with a small washer at home the coach decides to help his bride out and take them to the schools industrial size machine. Of course,such to their dismay they disappeared.

Only to reappear sewn together furled down the front side of the down town hotel with quite large neatly basted on purple and gold letters "Class of 72 Rocks !!!!"

Sharing custody is neither.

If anything it is cool.

But; EXPECTED behavior so not giving any Brownie points for doing what you are suppose to do if u love your kids.

I get that separated is sometimes a requirement in some jurisdiction's even when the divoce decree has been cut but not "dried" so to speak.

BUT I am not so desperate that I have to deal with someone who doesn't have the good common sense to at least get all the way out of the skillet before he wants to jump into the fire.

If someone has kids and is dragging them into something "new" before they can even catch a breath I can get hostile. It .takes me so angry I will not just delete whatever they "throw up" in my email immediately I will block them if they get around my settings.

I have a special affinity for horses but I clearly understand the damage they can do to even small plot's of land when they are allowed to over breed or trample and "mess" on land over long periods in less land than can support this large an animal.

Too many people are overly romantic about keeping these horses alive in what too often deteriorates to a deplorable situation for animals and humans alike.

What I can't under stand is if I must have my pet (dog) licensed and spayed if I do not want to pay a hefty tax why do not the owners of these horses or the owners of the property they roam and breed freely on have to do like wise; eben and especially govement owned lands. Believee if these departments lost funding or were forced into receivership they would be "cleaned" up.

I am pretty certain the horses would be selected for their best genetic markers and bloodlines to sustain herds and fewer foals would be created by selective sterilization. A horse hardly suffers by not being overbreed.

But yes I truly believe there are HUGE descrepencies between truth and fiction that are being put out on the subject.

If women didn't have to carry their offspring it wouldn't just be the few Gents sweating bullets. ROFLMBO

Looking at baby beef here in Mingleland and thinking how I could match them up with their Senior twins at omy upcoming class reunion
I don't who it would scare more. Lol

First cousins Baby Doll!

Lol PHD if I did not think this is just blarney with you I would send you a Virtual Smaaaaaaack!

Well when it gets down to the real nitty gritty I think this is how I roll but when I am out and about just what we used to call "skirting and flirting" withy single friends I have been known to toss my version of Blonde's tactics. I have always been a little less brave on line because too often it interpreted as all bets are off as far as being a Gentlemen

Thanks sorry it went IP incompleate. O will learn to write a hard copy first draft. Lol

Shelties are so pretty

I vaguely remember dance parties. I don't know if they are just that uncommon now days or housing has gotten smaller or what maybe the whole liability thing or people crashing parties uninvited and out of control guests trashing the place but you don't even see that many "Parties with a purpose" anymore. Sad used to be great fun.

Short, sweet, profound.
Excellent.