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When Plans Fall Thru...
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I usually plan things away from home! So I get stuck with nothing. Someone else prepares the food. Also I don't have to do any work! 
I think my family would have me committed if I stopped bringing cupcakes to events. 
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Happy St. Patrick's Day
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JanDarling
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Sat 03/17/18 12:26 PM
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Please don't encourage them anymore, they won the rugby 
Have a good day 
Can’t get my image up. 
I was going to tease you with a dancing leprechaun.
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When Plans Fall Thru...
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what are you supposed to do with 18 green frosted cupcakes? I know what you’re thinking, and I didn’t eat all six...I gave four to the neighbors kids on their way to parade.
What have you been stuck with when plans fall apart? I was stuck with an extra ticket to a Cirque du Soleil show in Montreal, Canada when my friend was unable to come and join me...sigh...chitzoo!!...aarrgggggg!!!... Offered it to the hotel staff...the front desk person could not attend but she gave it to a friend of hers...a five foot, ten inch model...WHAAAA!!!???...er...uhhh...OMG! pinch pinch until i was black and blue...hmmmm...well, at least blue...i did not speak much parlez vous but the party was on!!...amazing how effective hand gestures can be... had a great time...and so did she... One door closes and a model walks through the other?
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JanDarling
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Sat 03/17/18 11:22 AM
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I don’t know the technical definition of lust or any religion’s stance on it. My own experience has been that physical attraction inspires lust, and that a listy marriage is a beautiful thing. I think it’s easy to confuse lust for love in the early stages of a relationship. I believe that’s the best reason for taking a relationship slow in the beginning; taking the time to get to know your partner well before indulging in the physical draw to each other. In my opinion there is no better relationship than one balanced in lust and love. That is pretty cool that lust is not a problem in marriage. For me it is the emotional bond, not the physical bond, that makes me lust for them physically and emotionally. It is hard to get to know people because I start to like them too much, and while I don’t act on lust, I know what I want more than I know what they want, which makes it hard for me to form a consensus with them and think considerately about them. If I’m holding hands with someone it makes me feel connected and satisfied. In my experience dating, lust is a problem and I want to not cause lust in the person I’m with, but do want to know enough about them before going after them. Taking things slow (and not kissing or fondling them, I’ve never done that because everyone knows that is questionable) is a good start. Where I live there is no conventional way of dating and the Nobel Prise question is how does one do that. I consider balance as optimizing just about anything. If you don’t kiss her, she may not realize your romantic intentions, but if you get handsy too soon, she will think you’re just after sex. On your end, if you don’t kiss her, you may not know if your physical attraction is real or idealized. If you get too handsy too soon, your physical ambitions with her could cloud your judgment about the level of care you feel for her. Walking a middle line can be a challenge, but one you’re usually thankful for in the end. IMO. 
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I don’t know the technical definition of lust or any religion’s stance on it. My own experience has been that physical attraction inspires lust, and that a listy marriage is a beautiful thing. I think it’s easy to confuse lust for love in the early stages of a relationship. I believe that’s the best reason for taking a relationship slow in the beginning; taking the time to get to know your partner well before indulging in the physical draw to each other. In my opinion there is no better relationship than one balanced in lust and love. JanDarling, loved your answer, although I know nothing about a listy marriage. Lust is it another label for hot steamy fireworks between two people that didn't have the right mindsets for each other. Or just the old hit it and quit it satisfaction. We can come up with many I'm sure. Arfvedson, I think you need to have sexual attraction to lust after someone. I meant lusty marriage. And I haven’t even had any green beer.
Why should lust be reserved for the uncommitted? Married couples deserve bootie calls too. 
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When Plans Fall Thru...
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what are you supposed to do with 18 green frosted cupcakes?
I know what you’re thinking, and I didn’t eat all six...I gave four to the neighbors kids on their way to parade.
What have you been stuck with when plans fall apart? |
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Triggers
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Also...
Gingerbread smells like Christmas. We decorated our tree with ginger men and then started eating them all come Christmas Eve. Vinegar smells like Easter from painting boiled eggs. Cinnamon smells like Halloween. We were not allowed to trick-or-treat, but made candied apples to pass out on our front stoop. |
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Triggers
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The smell of pipe tobacco reminds me of Dad. A vision of his favorite pipe pops into my head the second I smell it.
Chantilly perfume was my Grandmother’s scent. It’s rare now to pick up that fragrance on someone, but now and then it happens and I swear I can feel Gran’s warm embrace. |
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Happy birthday to me =)
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Happy Birthday!
  
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I don’t know the technical definition of lust or any religion’s stance on it. My own experience has been that physical attraction inspires lust, and that a listy marriage is a beautiful thing.
I think it’s easy to confuse lust for love in the early stages of a relationship. I believe that’s the best reason for taking a relationship slow in the beginning; taking the time to get to know your partner well before indulging in the physical draw to each other. In my opinion there is no better relationship than one balanced in lust and love. |
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The theory of everything
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A great loss indeed!
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cam sex or hot line
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Girl?
Oh, no no no! |
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Stages
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Seriously though, everyone is different. I swear when I met my husband, it was as if we already knew each other. We skimmed right through most of the question marks and were almost an instant couple. Men I dated before him, I experienced an even more expansive series of stages than those your article talks of. Who knows why that is the case. Seriously...who knows?
Hi Jan  does your husband have a single brother or cousin ? Lol . I think the burying bit is more related to the stages of grief which we all experience too at one point or another. I just wish to experience one true and lasting love,the till death do us part kinda love and then and only then shall my skepticism end  I am so inspired by you 
I was just having a laugh. I knew what you meant.
It’s very sweet of you to say, but I think I just got lucky. And maybe I’ll be lucky again one day. 
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Do you still sing?
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Only in the shower.
And the garden, and the car and the grocery, and when I’m cooking, and mowing the lawn and in the elevator.
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spring is in the air! 🐇🐞🐦
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I have two baby chipmunks using my empty planter as a hiding place. They’ve been playing peekaboo with me. I believe they call it, pleas-don’t-eat-me-boo.
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Age and appearence
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I love it when people claim I don’t look my age. It makes me feel I must be living well.
I’m also not immune to a little vanity either. |
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Be yourself
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Maybe instead of telling people to be themselves, we should advise them that being the version of themselves that wants to be who they believe the person they want to like them to be, never works out.
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relying on friends
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Over the last year, two of my closest girlfriends have tried to get me out with half a dozen cousins, co-workers or their husband’s buddies. I had a chance to meet each of them once or twice before making a decision about whether I’d allow them to set me up. And each time I’ve been dumbfounded as to how little my best friends seems to know about my taste in men. 
Would you get your girlfriends to contact me...asap... Yeah, no so sure the Brit across the sea was in their plan when they bagged me to go online. 
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Corrupt
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I think yes, and no. I don’t believe most people vote for their own personal agenda with a “screw those other guys” in mind.
But most of us do see our own beliefs as what is best for most everyone and probably vote their agenda honestly believing it’s what in the interest of their country, without fully understanding the position it puts others in when their party or candidate wins and acts. |
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Doing all for health
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I alternate 30 minutes of cardio days with strength training, taking two days off a week. On my off days, I’m marathon house cleaning or doing yard work, so am active every day. I stick to real food as much as possible at home, but am not overly picky about processed foods when I eat out or with others. I feel it balances as a fairly healthy diet without much fuss.
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