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what is love to you?
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In my opinion love is having enough compassion for the person you love, whether it be parent, child, friend or lover, to truly understand them. To see things as they seem them, and to love them in whatever fashion they need it. To me that is love.
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what could i do
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Look dude. You do realize that getting a chick is about two things.....appearance and attitude? Appearance isn't about having the perfect body, or a high paying job. It does require good hygiene, but mostly when I say appearance I am referring to you being comfortable with how you look. How you dress. A lot of times, people try to dress like something they aren't just to impress someone. That doesn't work in the end. Attitude is...well...if you are a goofy dude like me, then you rock it goofystyle. You have to like who you are, and believe in the things that make you the person you are. If a chick can't like those things about ya, then she aint worth the time. You definitely rock it goofstyle! My hats off to you! Im sorry I have no advice for you as I seem to have the same problem, But I do have a great deal of compassion for your situation. Letting people know you from inside the box is hard, but it sounds like you are doing the things you need to do. It will happen, the question is will you let it? Good luck my brother. |
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Dont know if there is anyone still interested, but Im here to defend my honor if anyone wants to argue the hypothetical existence of the nice guy. And I'm here too...battling beside you against these...heathen cavemen....We're like Batman and Robin  Your Robin
BAM...... BANG...... POW....... Holy cow Batman! Us against the world.... AGAIN????? 
See what you got me into Butman??? Your a terrible influence on me. Now Im just a gentle man... |
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Hello my friends, Im here if anyone would like to heckle me for awhile. Im getting to where I think you about half like me. Its nice to be a part of something, even if its something as twisted as us... Oh stop it, you're making me admire you....
Admiration??? I dont think I have ever been admired before. Its kind of a nice feeling, warm and fuzzy, that you very much. |
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Dont know if there is anyone still interested, but Im here to defend my honor if anyone wants to argue the hypothetical existence of the nice guy. And I'm here too...battling beside you against these...heathen cavemen....We're like Batman and Robin Your Robin
BAM...... BANG...... POW....... Holy cow Batman! Us against the world.... AGAIN?????
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Dont know if there is anyone still interested, but Im here to defend my honor if anyone wants to argue the hypothetical existence of the nice guy.
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Hello my friends, Im here if anyone would like to heckle me for awhile. Im getting to where I think you about half like me. Its nice to be a part of something, even if its something as twisted as us...
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I am back to help seaweedon...these people just don't understand us...our gentlemanly ways...they fear what they don't understand...we are true gentlemen
I am truly glad that we are in a league of our own, and that makes 2. |
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aaah, to be... Evil wicked mean nasty deceitful ugly bitter and hidious......nobody will "expect" things from me, so i get extra kudos if i save their neck. if i'm pleasant to other entities, they are pleasantly surprized, for being in league with a true monster that is protective and loyal to them against bullies is always a welcome commodity from what they tell me, so i'll continue on the present path for now...(sardonic smiles and laughter) 
Brother you are amazing at capturing your inner monster and putting him into words... Once again thank you for your wisdom. |
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I am relatively new here and would like some ideas of things to do that are interesting and atleast somewhat thought provoking. Any ideas would be appreciated. Thank you.
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The most amazing revelation I have ever had was when I really understood that not everyone thinks like I do...
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By all means, speak your mind, that's how people get to know you. But seriously, don't advertise yer a nice guy/gentleman by claiming you are such. Let them see it through your other words. Just some friendly advice. 
umm..I agree with you here.... advertising???I don't think so... He is putting his real feelings and thoughts about a real life issue ... and getting known..... I'm back and forth here and e-mailing.... He is for real.....even behind a monitor screan.....sigh....... Thank you my friend. And to think you didnt think I was the real deal at first. 1 down the world to go... Im still here. |
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We do appreciate nice guys and gentlemen, they just so rarely come packaged in the same guy who has complete confidence in himself and doesn't let women walk all over him. I understand. I guess you really have to walk on someone to know if they will accept it huh? |
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By all means, speak your mind, that's how people get to know you. But seriously, don't advertise yer a nice guy/gentleman by claiming you are such. Let them see it through your other words. Just some friendly advice.
I am what I am... |
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Truthfully most of us aren't used to men opening the doors, removing our coats, etc. It's something I rarely see or have experienced in a long time. I'm sure there are plenty of ladies & gentlemen out there but I feel it's a dying breed in both sexes. I usually see this in the older generation. Rarely do I see this type of respect in the younger generation. She picked the steak house,,and as we entered to when we left,, She lead,,,and upon me asking her at our seating, if she preferred me on her side,,or across from her,,she quickly stated OH,,ACROSS I need my elbow room,,,,giggle, giggle,,OK,,so now she is a smoker as I ,,and I lit her cigarette and then later, after we ate,,I missed lighting another one for her,,,she let me know that.. And as I said I was sorry but we were talking and that went right past my notice,,(that she needed a lite),, So WE then got talking about courtesies, and when asked if her ex,,had done that for her,,she replied,,of course! So as we talked deeper into all that he had done,, WHICH,,was EVERYTHING,,I simply told her SHE had lost a very GOOD MAN there,,when they Divorced... Then commented again on my be-half,, I said, there is a fine-line between doing something for someone out of respect and compassions,,,verses,,Being TRAINED! And as I followed her to the door,,she grandly stepped aside when reaching it,,so as I could open it for her..in which I did.. THAT,,was our only time to meet or see each other.. I am the type of man to always do for my lady,, BUT,,thats through feeling she is caring and inwardly appreciated that there done,,as they say and show theirs through words,,like thank you,,or,,,that was sweet,,it in THOSE WORDS,,I DO,,not because the woman, IS EXPECTING IT to be a GOD SEND DUTY.. I have NEVER demanded my lady to DO,,,ANYTHING!,,, Nor,,have ANY DUTIES,,that our solely HERS TO DO... I believe that a working relationship TAKES BOTH,,to give and take in it..and WE OUR THE SAME,,50/50,,, When I feel her LOVE,,through her ALL,,of what I do for her. then I shall always be her door opener, and her lite, and her drink getter,,,,but IF,,,my small wants get over-looked,,then WE ARE NOT in that 50/50 relationship equals... I don't want to CONTROL HER,,nor HER CONTROL ME,,, WE,,,just love each other both enough that WE just DO when we CAN ALWAYS for EACH OTHER....wink,,,,,THATS MY GOOD RELATIONSHIP. anyway???,, You said it all I tip my hand to a true gentlemen... |
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Chivalry is not dead, it's just had the crap beat out of it. Word of advice. The ol' I'm a nice guy/gentleman routine puts up red flags in most ladies' minds. You(not you specifically) either come off as desperate or a BSer. A woman will know a nice guy/gentleman by the way he speaks and comports himself around her. I agree wholeheartedly! But since I am not around any of these ladies, all I can do to comport myself in the appropriate manner is to speak my mind, and hope someone out there care see me. |
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Thank you so much for believing you are a lady. I agree with you in all you said. Its just a shame more ladies dont see themselves that way. Thank you.
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Please don't laugh at me for trying to find someone who understands me.
sorry i laugh at almost everything and everyone, i can't help you with that request. by the way, you might want to use the correct 'plane' in your first post if you're so big on vocabulary.
Yes I failed spelling and my spell check helps alot. But it interests me that you noticed. I really figured you for kind of glossing over things. Apparently your deeper than that. Im impressed. i don't like to either and, most times, i don't bother - unless someone sounds like they think they are smarter than anyone else. Honestly people, I AM NOT TRYING TO SOUND SMARTER!!! I AM NOT LOOKING DOWN ON YOU!!!! I like all of you for various reasons. I am just trying to be me!!! You seem very nice. Most people are just f!cking with you brother. Just lighten up a bit....... 
I dont mind people messing with my mind, I just dont like the way it makes me feel inside. I know most people dont consider the feeling of those they are talking to, but I do, and some of the things that have been threaded to me in the last two days have shown me that in this I seem to stand alone... But hat its not the first time. Im a survivor. You stand alone? Brother everybody on here for the most part is single and lonely. Try to have a little fun with folks. The forums are a good way to get to know people. There are some really nice folks on here. I wish you the best.....
Thank you bother. I guess I felt like I had something to prove. Thanks for the acceptance. |
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Please don't laugh at me for trying to find someone who understands me.
sorry i laugh at almost everything and everyone, i can't help you with that request. by the way, you might want to use the correct 'plane' in your first post if you're so big on vocabulary.
Yes I failed spelling and my spell check helps alot. But it interests me that you noticed. I really figured you for kind of glossing over things. Apparently your deeper than that. Im impressed. i don't like to either and, most times, i don't bother - unless someone sounds like they think they are smarter than anyone else. Honestly people, I AM NOT TRYING TO SOUND SMARTER!!! I AM NOT LOOKING DOWN ON YOU!!!! I like all of you for various reasons. I am just trying to be me!!! Does it surprise  you to know I have high blood pressure?
Im good, and tonight i can honestly say that I like this place. I dont feel so alone. Guess I just kinda had to be the new guy for awhile. Thinking of venturing out to other peoples posts. Kind of scary.
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I don't want to train or teach no more men.... Been there done that.. I had 2 sons....to train and teach, teach and train,mentor... At my age..if a man hasn't gotten it by now.... Forever let me live in peace...even alone in my rocker... 
Ok I truly hope you find what you want and need. Someone as cynical as you are has surely been through alot and deserves happiness. Actually not cynical.... With all I have done in my life...I chose the humanitarian way....be nice to all.....the ones who use u as a doormat...I delte...toxic...I don't need them in my life... My son said to me when he was about 12.... Mom....you are the rock and glue to the family.... And you always fix things for everyone.... Well try driving a car and figure out what to say while your head is spinning around..lol I told him..I agree and I am happy you see that I am the rock and glue..I hope you follow my path.... Then I told him..I don't fix things for everyone..what I do, do is find resources for what ever ppl need...it's all a matter of if they grab for them or not.... I will admit...my son is very upset with me...he remembers this..he remembers his life with me...But I fell.....due to a heart wrenching fear....that he didn't expect....my fear for my sons life in a war zone... I have been working diligently on me....for me, for him,and my other son....to get back to who I was and who they know....what ever.. Point..I don't have energy to be a trainer or teacher to another adault..... my mouth is dry and I'm not even talking..lmao... I'll be back later when I can articulate my drop dead point.... even with BAD SPELLING....spell checkkkk is for the weak and worried .......ugggggggggggg You seem like a lady with alot of wisdom to speak. I would very much like to hear more from you. |
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