first nothing is going to change overnight we did not go into debt in one year and certainly will not come out of it in a year. This is a process, and unemployment will change from state to state it's in inevitable. We can't blame Obama for " doing nothing" because it's impossible for him to make a significant difference, not only this year but in his entire term. I honestly think that it will take 1 -3 pres (depending on their actions) for things to improve drastically.


im a hardcore liberal and i don't exactly support this bill but if anyone's to blame, blame the Bush's! and the stupid bush administration. As a dem i felt obligated to squeeze that in somewhere haha

Thank-you!!! im not even muslim and i get called a terrorist all the time, it's about time the shoe is on the other foot, these people get called a terrorist a couple times and they get so wound up! let them try to go to an international air port and have everyone stare at u like ur a freak or something!

in a way yes and no... Look if you feel so strongly about a subj then u should do something instead of bitchen about it....All talk and no action get's u no where... First off i think every american should vote cuz it's our duty as citizens, but the truth is less that 60 percent vote for our president!!! It annoys me that people sit there and ***** about things when they were to lazy to make a difference and perhaps have things turn out the way they would have liked... so yes if u didn't vote shut up and get over it! or start a petition or a referendum do something, cuz bitchen gets u no where!


oh and did anyone here about Sen. Lewis a democrat getting spat on and he was harassed and called a N***a! how rude!

same i don't claim any religion, im just respectful! ^^ couldn't have said it better myself

i slipped on ice and busted my face i got 12 stitches,it was an interesting exp

That sounds really interesting, I have read about a lot about india's ancient culture and science. I believe that would be a very successful business, but the introduction of those ideas are different than the introduction of arranged marriages. One allows people to view other options medically, one less invasive than the western medicine and one changes our society's norms .


the kamasutra is amazing it's one of the many things which makes me proud to be indian. India has an amazing history and culture no argument there and it should be learned, but i dont think it would affect the divorce rates in america at all; after america has studied many cultures, and adopted many things. Americans are egocentric in the sense that we believe we have the best way of life, introducing a new lifestyle would be interesting, but i can guarantee you that it won't change much. Take the Middle east for example, they have adopted things from the west that they like, and omitted the things they don't . Countries adopt ideas based on what works for them and in america the idea of independence and steering ones life won't change, we're kinda big on that haha

hhaahah oh, but tans are always sexy, for somereason everyone's into it now :-) i feel really lucky i was just born brown lol

thank-you! and btw i am not x-indian i am half; which as i said entails the best of both worlds according to my standards and beliefs. I think this forum has been very civil and healthy because everyone is expressing their point of view, and fyi that is the point of the forum!

well said! my opinion is no one really knows who god is, so why cant he/she or it be whatever makes each person comfortable?


im not atheist but i am not god fearing, im pro-evolution but in the off chance god did put me here he knows im not perfect and he knows why i think the way i think and why i do what i do because he would have supposedly created me! but personally i dont believe heaven or hell exists and if they do i think they are earth, hell being the torment in ones life and heaven being the overcoming of obstacles and challenges.

thank-you, im on the same page with you, embrace differences or the only type of people you will meet are the ppl like you, and thats just no fun hahaha.


im a big fan of indian food, what style did u have?

sorry if im raping this forum but i love this topic , it's one that has been with me throughout my life from grade school-college. i dont mean to sound judgmental, of course i believe that what other ppl do is not my business but i cant help but to raise the question, if given the option would people in other parts of the world (not just india now) like to change their cultures if they could,what i mean is that we really dont get to decided our culture it basically chooses you. I'm interested i seeing if a traditional indian family told their daughter that she could marry whom ever she deemed worthy ( ie blacks, whites, Chinese, etc...) would she say oh no you chose for me or would she be tempted to find someone for herself ?

oh sexyindn is how i see myself... i think every part of me is "sexy" the way i think, look, and feel. and im indian so the second part is self explanatory ahah but by sexy i mean im confident and to me there is nothing more sexy then honest, confident and true to oneself!

i agree you cant look through windows! like a said in one of my previous posts, now culture, legal system , society etc is perfect. EVerything as pros and cons and it's up to us as indiv to access them and see what works for us.


I love my india i truly do but im the first to admit the society has flaws, i love america and yet again no one on this forum can deny that american society has flaws as well. the issue with me is that i want india to be better becasue i know it can, i know that sounds judgmental of me but there is so much culture and history that country has to offer and the fact that not everyone manages to see the beauty of that. People tend to always look for the flaw, and if that's all people see then imagine what ppl think when the look at america? a bunch of materialistic, superficial, egocentric, dumb president electing *** holes! but personally i agree with them but thats the beauty of america that people have the freeedom to do what makes them happy and say, and think as they wish. americans are free to find themselves, and In indias case people see villages, slums, and curry , there is so much more to look into! yes i dont agree with arranged marriages but i do love the fact that family is the center of ones life regardless of the fact of wher u are.... I thinks ones self is one's main priority and that works for me, i am an indian american like i said i've experienced both cultures and think we could learn a lot from them, and vise versa india could learn a lot from the west; the world can learn a lot from eachother and mayb that will minimize the amount of haters!!!

Cheating discreetly less taboo than diivorce


well cheating is horrible anywhere in the world but like i said the diff gender roles apply in this situation, yes if a man is caught cheating it is frowned upon but if a women is caught cheating she might just lose everything ...... everything varies from location in india ( life, family, home etc....)

Sounds like you have wonderful family.
So I am curious about your moniker..


i love my family to the grave, dont get me wrong there are so many imprefections with my family and i strongly believe had i not been born in america i would not be the strong willed independent person i am today. i may still be very passionate and maybe more respectful towards my elders but i think a part of me that i admire wouldn't be there.

a) what is a moniker haha

b) and i love the fact women are gaining a foot hold in the world, no society can ever succeed with half its population uneducated!


lets give all the women an applause right not for having the right to be on a comp w/o supervision and i hope that all of you can follow your dreams as i am able to follow mine! u deserve it hell u guys go through a lot more than men do! (preg, and aunt flo lol) mad probs for dealing with men for as long as u have!

i agree 100 percent but i do think that by not having hte option of disobeying ur parents going against their wishes you aren't so much an individual but a piece of clay your parents have molded to their desire ?

hahaha no actually being fair skinned is a plus in most parts of india. i dont think you want that type of marriage though it's very risky doing an inter-racial arranged marriage because both parties are expecting somehting diff. not saying there arent good indian guys but u def need to look for yourself lol cuz there are def some pigg headed ******** (that goes for all over the world not just india haha)

basically what im saying is that i don't think it's healthy for and individual to live with his parents, your 40 year old friend should prob move out and get a job and a place of his own. Personally my parents can live with me, i cant live with them and there is a diff. in one scenario in one i support them which a child should do (after all they did wipe your ***) and in the second your parents take of you.



AS it pertains to the other cultures that ur talking about it doesn't pertain here because not all of those cultures practice arranged marriages and they all have diff roles (ie gender, and family). YOu must understand that all asian cultures are similar and very unique at the same time, gender, family, age, etc... play a very diff role in diff parts of the world, just because there are similarities doesn't mean they can be lumped together

Everyone brings up very good points, the cast system does affect how people are raised therefore affecting how people think. Yes i know the culture is different all over india but generally they are the same,and the general consensus is that arranged marriages are better because "children" are to young and unwise to make the decision about a suitor along. In my opinion when a person is responsible and ready to find that special someone they should do so on their own because it is natural to behave differently around the entire prospective in-law family. Hypothetically let's say all arranged marriages work perfectly, but living with your parents does affect the nuclear family structure. AS an indian man you know what goes on in the traditional family life, aka roof.Im not saying that its impossible for it to work but it does tend to a create hostile living situation. Many generations under one roof does create some hostility; all my aunts and uncles have arranged marriages and my uncle and his wife and hteir kids lived with my g-rents and there was a lot of conflict between the generations when it came to traditional values. My aunts however were in-lawless in the sense that their inlaws are in india so they have what i consider a nuclear family and theres a lot less tension. from what i've seen vwhen you are free to live your lives as ur own family, it doesn't drive you away from your parents it just allows you do what you feel is right as an adult. Being an adult is one of my main points, you can't fully be an adult and live with your parents because to ur rents you're always their child. People need to experience life and learn who they are and you cant do that from your house and you can learn about married life under your parents roof, because in indian society if your marriage doesn't match the social norms ,idol gossip begins and there en lies the drama which will begin among the generations.


you cant trust your parents to make decisions foryou because thats what children do haha i dont meant so rude it's just my opinion and i believe you can maintain the closeness with your family without living with them, and gain a sense of independence as well