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Fri 01/01/10 03:56 PM



Real life is not like the movies.

Duh!!! Ok men. I know life is not like the movies. Please, if it were all us ladies would be so luv struck that these sights would be dead. What I am saying is the love that the couple shared in "The Notebook" is not just in the movies and I want to know where there is a guy who gets it. Have you seen the movie?
I am not expecting prince charming or Romeo, or even Brad Pitt's younger body. I am not asking for a physical thing. This is an emotional thing. If you can't understand what it is I am saying than my point is made. Men need to get a clue. I am not the only women who so much desires this connection with her man. Sit down watch the movie start to finish and see if you get it.
Trust me, when I find it that will be the luckiest man alive. I have so much to offer him.


The point is some women ARE expecting love to be like it is in the movies. And it's not. They ARE looking for "Prince Charming". And no man is "Prince Charming". When they find that life doesn't follow the script they have written in their heads they bail. Men aren't the only ones who need to "get a clue".

Point made and I agree. Just noting that I am not that women. :wink:

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Fri 01/01/10 03:43 PM



Married just means you have one piece of paper. Divorced means you have another piece of paper. It only really hold meaning for the IRS. Otherwise, it's just a piece of paper.

Yes and nO. Ithink it holds meaning for the couple if, and only if, both value it's meaning and respect the institute of marriage and divorce. Mind you I am the product of a married middle class couple who divorced. I was raised by my mom and her companion who have been together for 35+ yrs and find no value in a piece of paper. However, I married and did find value until he betrayed me in his heart. So Again I believe that it holds value only if the couple feels it holds value.


Interesting,,and true. We placed value on the marriage papers but did not place value on the divorce papers...we wanted others to be involved in and acknowledge our commitment, but we felt noone else needed to be involved in our decision to end it.

And yet the divorce effects and involves so many more people than the original act of marriage did. The longer together, the more involved besides the couple divorcing.

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Fri 01/01/10 03:40 PM

Real life is not like the movies.

Duh!!! Ok men. I know life is not like the movies. Please, if it were all us ladies would be so luv struck that these sights would be dead. What I am saying is the love that the couple shared in "The Notebook" is not just in the movies and I want to know where there is a guy who gets it. Have you seen the movie?
I am not expecting prince charming or Romeo, or even Brad Pitt's younger body. I am not asking for a physical thing. This is an emotional thing. If you can't understand what it is I am saying than my point is made. Men need to get a clue. I am not the only women who so much desires this connection with her man. Sit down watch the movie start to finish and see if you get it.
Trust me, when I find it that will be the luckiest man alive. I have so much to offer him.

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Fri 01/01/10 03:35 PM
rofl waving 2010...YHEA!!! New year with new adventures. Think positive and remember..."Attitude is a Choice". winking

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Fri 01/01/10 03:29 PM

Married just means you have one piece of paper. Divorced means you have another piece of paper. It only really hold meaning for the IRS. Otherwise, it's just a piece of paper.

Yes and nO. Ithink it holds meaning for the couple if, and only if, both value it's meaning and respect the institute of marriage and divorce. Mind you I am the product of a married middle class couple who divorced. I was raised by my mom and her companion who have been together for 35+ yrs and find no value in a piece of paper. However, I married and did find value until he betrayed me in his heart. So Again I believe that it holds value only if the couple feels it holds value.

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Fri 01/01/10 03:24 PM

let's not confuse being nice with being a wuss

Now see that is the misconception. A strong man can be good, nice, man and not be a wuss. There is nothing wrong with a man being in tune with his lady. Some of us women are strong and want a man strong enough to be with us and yet gentle enough to remember we are ladies. Maybe someone who thinks in this way is just threated by the strength of a women who can be his equal.

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Fri 01/01/10 03:20 PM

I guess it's good to wish for the best

but applying a work of fiction as your goal is kind of a exercise in futility

I agree if that was what I am doing. Have you seen the movie? Are you trying to tell me that there are no men out there who can love a women as this man loves her? On that point I would also disagree. I have seen it many times. As I have seen other love that isn't as deep. But dating is a process. I just choose not to settle for what will not make me happy and in turn not make the relationship work. What has happened that people do not believe in this.

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Fri 01/01/10 03:17 PM


See that is what is wrong with relationships. Think with you the heart not your other parts.


Think with your heart....but believe in some Hollywood fantasy???

What is wrong in relationships is that too many people DO believe in that Hollywood fantasy and find that real life just doesn't live up to it.

Then they get disappointed and start looking for the fantasy all over again. Only to be continuously disappointed.

Very interesting. I do not find the love that is expressed in this movie is a fanatsy. In the line of work I am I see many couples and I have seen this love many times. So it does exist and that is why I long for it. if I were to long for fantasy I would long for a man who only looked as though he stepped of the cover of a movie screen and who always knew exactly what to say and do. That is not what I look for. Just a true, deep, committed love that will endure. Guess to much to ask of some men. That is why I am still looking.

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Fri 01/01/10 08:33 AM

I seem to do better with older women (by about 8-12 years), although it drives my family insane. Of course, the older I get the less I give a rat's ***.tongue2


Very good answer.

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Fri 01/01/10 08:28 AM

women dont want good guys or nice guys. They'll say the do, but for the most part, they are all full of crap.


This is not true for all women. I want a nice guy that is compatiable with me. Still searching, still hoping and not just given in to the headbutten, bad mouth, disrespectful, deadbeat that thinks that because he talks the talk he can walk the walk. A real "good" man knows when he has a good woman and treats her that way.

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Fri 01/01/10 08:10 AM
My mind is not in the gutter with regards to this movie. I am the kind of woman who looks beyond the physical. Not say that it does not count. But in the long haul of things, it is the affair of the heart that matters most.

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Fri 01/01/10 08:08 AM
Very true, it is not out there but in you. It is in me. I can give this love. Just looking for a man who also has it in him...that is hard to find.

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Fri 01/01/10 08:05 AM
Some states take longer to divorce than others. Not always is someone who is seperated not done with that marriage. But it is true, you are either married or divorced. And you are either seperated & divorcing OR just seperated.

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Fri 01/01/10 07:56 AM
See that is what is wrong with relationships. Think with you the heart not your other parts.

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Fri 01/01/10 07:54 AM
Looking for a good man. I live just over the Wisconsin state line.

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Fri 01/01/10 07:51 AM
Grew up in Liberty. Now live in southern Wisconsin.

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Fri 01/01/10 07:48 AM
I am looking for a man who understands the love in the movie "The Notebook". Even though my friends say it is just a movie, I believe that it can be real. Without all that drama. I'm talking the deep love he has for her.
Is there any man that gets it? If you live in the corner of South-eastern Wisconsin I would love to talk with you.

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Fri 01/01/10 06:34 AM
I am looking to meet single guys in my area to date. Check out my profile and let me know if interested. :wink:

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Wed 12/30/09 04:10 PM
BIG RED FLAGS...
1) wanting to send naked photos
2) saying how much they love you
3) asking for money

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Wed 12/30/09 04:01 PM
This I know. I still sled, dress up for halloween and gret excited over Christmas. I plan to turn 40 in a blaze of fun...my birthday is in the summer.

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