It is Christmas. My son came home from Afghanistan. My husband & I are in a very hurtful divorce after 30 years. We have 5 boys together. 7 grand daughters. This is the first christmas in my life as a mother that my children have dis-owned me as their mother. It dosent matter that I have orders of protection from their father. It dosent matter that they have seen and been subjected to the physical and verbal abuse for 3 decades. What matters to them is that I broke the family up. I am the one who is selfish because I don't want to live like this anymore. It dosent matter that this man, my husband, their father, brought home his girlfriend and introduced her to them when they were younger as their new mother, right in front of me as I was cooking their dinner. This is an absolutely true story. I can't believe I stayed as long as I did. My children refuse to even speak to me. They are in my house sitting on the couch, waiting for the theater to open up so they can go & have a christmas together. I am so hurt. They will realize that this decision was the best. Again, thank God for my friend. I pray that 2012 is better. In fact, I think I will make it better myself. I refuse to wait for it to happen.

Just getting some things off of my chest...

As a New York Italian, we celebrate everything over food lol. All problems can be tackled over good food with friends. Some of my best memories. Merry Christmas to you and your friend :)

A very Merry christmas and a happy new year to you as well Penny :)

So its Christmas Eve....today so far I've made cranberry bread, vanilla layer cake, brownies, choco chip cookies, christmas cookies, got the sausage stuffing for the bird, the spiral ham ready to go, lasagna with home made sauce, presents under the tree and the 2 yr old grand daughter is my taster tester for the day :)

It's gonna be a glorious Christmas for family and friends.

I wish all of you the best holiday :)

A very Merry christmas and a happy new year to you as well Penny :)

A very Merry christmas and a happy new year to you as well Penny :)

Yes she does. It is so true when they say you can count your real friends on one hand. We never know what is right in front of us. We are always trying so hard to take care of everyone around us that we don't realize we need that one special friend. That's all we need. Everything else will fall into place if we are solid in our minds, our spirit and our knowledge to never take for granted our gifts.

Have a wonderful Christmas.

Mary

I wish you both a very Merry Christmas. This Christmas will be my first without my kids and my husband (ex) and it's quite an adjustment. Thank God for our friends :)

I am so happy to hear that. You never know what will happen, so we must always appreciate who we have. She lived 10 blocks from me our whole lives and we never knew....what a gift :)

I didn't know that something was missing until I met her. I didn't know there was a hole until she came with the patch lol.

Merry Christmas

This Christmas I have my best friend...

Thank God for her. It has been the most horrible year. She has been with me thru it all.

Divorce. Lost my job. Drama. She has been there with me thru it all. She never judged me. She never talked about me behind my back. She never asked me for anything, well, only one thing...my friendship. I have never given friendship as I have to her. I've never had a friend like this before.

I've only known her for two years and yet I can talk to her as if we've been friends my whole life.

She was there for me when I took a new job. She was there for me when my kids, (grown) stopped talking to me because the marriage fell apart after 3 decades.

I thank God everyday that I have the support of my friend. I only wish women going thru what I have gone thru would be as lucky as I to have someone so important to support them.

I think that is my Christmas wish from my deepest feelings in my heart, that you women would find or have this amazing friendship. This sisterhood. That you will always have someone that you know will never hurt you, never take advantage of you, always be there for you. No questions asked.

What a wonderful Christmas it will be for me and my friend.

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then I have to agree with you. I have met my share of boring guys....was married to one for 29 years.

thats so sad u feel that way. Some older man must have ruined it for you....older men are exciting, passionate, and yummy with the right toppings!

I think an older man, 45 & up, are more mature, more considerate of their lover's needs, more patient, more skilled. I know not every older man but I do find that men younger than their 40's are more materialistic, perhaps a little more selfish...I also believe the same with women....as I hit my 40's I found that I am a more attentive lover, more compassionate, more passionate...

very good advice. its just that when ur alone for so long, someone comes along and notices you, pays attention, u feel pretty, wanted, desired, stir up feelings you have long forgotten. excitement. fun. and you've been out of the game so long you forget what the game looks like, the head games, the lies, the deception. to get to the point of trust is so much harder. disheartening really.

ok, u ready for this??? I spoke to him...gave him a 2nd chance....went for coffee, he told me that he's "separated", of course, i understand what that means...but then he admitted to me that he stays in the house with his wife, sleeps on the couch for the past 2 years....his youngest child is 3. wants a "F" buddy. came right out and said it. then he tried to neck in the car in the parking lot behind the diner! OH MY GOD! SEE YA!

what is wrong with people? WHAT HAPPENED TO LOYALTY? WHAT HAPPENED TO THOSE VOWS YOU TOOK SUCH A SHORT TIME AGO?

I deserve better than a rumble seat lol.

I feel sorry for his wife. I've been on the receiving end of that kind of relationship and it's a horrible feeling.

And you are the ultimate catch! I love your sense of humor