Physical, mental and emotional attraction, as well as sexual compatibility are all important, but the deal breaker for me is whether or not they can hang with the family. I've been with too many women who I would not feel comfortable introducing to family and friends, and it's been a pretty reliable indicator that they were not a good match.

Having read all of this stuff, I'm drawing the conclusion that you are too adult for a guy your age, and not really in a good way.

We're talking about young guys who are still trying to have as much fun as possible. All of that crap about responsibility and getting the bills paid is like nails on a chalkboard to your average twenty-something guy (probably a lot of girls too). It isn't even about sex or any of that "spreading your genes" caveman s**t. You are busy living the way adults are supposed to do in a rational world, but expecting a relationship from people who have yet to reach that level of maturity. If you're busting your arse to support yourself, it's great for your fiscal success, but it can be hell on a relationship unless the man in your life is as responsible...and understanding.

The fact is, the way you live (admirable though it is) is probably pretty overwhelming for the guys you have dated.

Why they cheat their way out of it is another matter. I would agree with the notion that the coarsening of our culture has a lot to do with that. There's a lot of poison out there, and I suspect that most people under 25 have bought it and scarfed it with out reading the label. Changing THAT will probably take an act of God.

All the best.

Isn't Jose SORT OF a pain med?

Aggressive as a general thing is not all good. I think the key is to always be active-minded with your better half, and be aggressive (or assertive) where it's fitting, and know when to back off when that is the right thing to do.

That's to do with any of it. Sex, feelings, ordering lunch from a clueless bunwad at the Taco Bell....anything.

If you really want all of that stuff, you can buy a rubber girl at any porn shop in your area.

I'm just sayin'

It takes a real butthead to think that his woman needs to have the "perfect" shape or he's outta there. I prefer to have my women un-screwed with. It makes life better for all of us. I've always *****ed about stupid young girls who buy all of that crap in the magazines, but we men have been just as terrible about it.

Better to go natural and not have to deal with any unwelcome surprises.

I like women, but I have always placed myself in situations where few single women abound (which doesn't say much for my band). I figured I might as well give the much-vaunted inter-thingy a chance, and see if something good comes from it.







A little sex would be pretty close to awesome too!

I think it takes patience. There are a lot of hornballs and lonelyhearts on here and they have about a snowball's chance of really clicking. The onus is really on the guys to realize that; unless they are looking for other guys, they are going to have to invest a little time and caring in the women. This is not "findabangpartner.com". At least that's the impression that I get.

Good written humor requires good wordsmithing. To wit:

Step 1: Good written humor requires good wordsmithing.

Step 2: You are on the internet; the same place where you can find naked pictures of Britney Spears (during the ugly years) and Cr4ppy w4nk3r 5p3l1n9 l1k3 7h15.

Step 3: Case closed!

I seem to do better with older women (by about 8-12 years), although it drives my family insane. Of course, the older I get the less I give a rat's ass.

What I want to know is what's the cutoff point for "younger" man these days. I had the sneaking suspicion that I'm getting too old for your average cougar.