^^^
I re watch it last night Ms. Mel,
beautiful & cool movie-

I cant get over this hahaha:

Cusp of Eternity - Opeth
http://youtu.be/JHq9yMXw3iA

I am a huge fan of the image Ma'am
Dark & Cool

My Personal Guidelines:

1.One day at a time.

No matter how bad or good the situation is,
do not rush things, take it slow.

No matter how bad the situation is,
always choose to hope, sleep first.

No matter how bad the situation is,
always choose to live, breathe first.


2.Strive to mind your own business.
Adhere to laws. Respect authorities.

While man can find ways, to challenge the
law & authorities if they felt the need,
it is because they are built to lead & protect.

Never forget u are a woman, there is a line
between bravery & foolishness,
no matter how important it is to u,
if u want to be not encumbered,
if u want safety & peace of mind,
Mind your own business.
Adhere to laws of man & have a
healthy fear & respect of authorities.

3. Never stop learning.

No matter how old u are,
there are still a lot of things
in this world that u can learn,
for u to be a better version of who u are now.

Never demean - something, someone or an incident
that u will fail to see what u can learn from it.

4. Practice good sportsmanship & objectivity
whereever u can, whenever u can.

Just as u strive to give meaning to your life,
before you leave this world,

if your day ends with unhappiness, strive
to be objective, be a good sport, do your best
to separate your emotions from what u are dealing that day.

if your day ends with happiness,
savor it, be grateful with it, celebrate it,
but dont get too caught up with it.

U will not know what will happen the next day.

5.Be loyal.

The best gift that u can give to people
who brings smiles, laughter & goodness
to this world is loyalty.

U can never be like them,
u have darkness in you,
u hurt more people with
your words than make them smile.

Be loyal to those who deserves loyalty.

I would like to approach this post as a "date" meaning still getting to know period.
1st date, 2nd date & so on.. no relationship yet whatsoever-

"what's with dating alway's ends badly?"

For me, Lack of Sportsmanship & unwillingness to let go.

I know this sounds bad, but to be upfront,
& this is just my experience in the real world,
it may not be the same with other women
it is always the men who were not
given the chance to date me,
that treats me so bad,
that I will also use the word
"disaster & feud",
I am torn between relief that I have
not actually dated them & a nagging
feeling that, had I have given them
a chance to date me, would they really
not be this bad at sportsmanship?



1.setting of wrong expectations
leads to conflict rather than friendship.

I really do not like trial & errors
when it comes to love, so if the man is not
serious & has other priorities, I prefer
not to waste his time & my time.

That is why even in Mingle, if u get past
through my filters and my response
to the poem or song u have instant messaged me is
a cold "thank u for reading my posts in the forum.
all the best. Live well"
it means I have read all your posts in the forum
and I surmised we are not compatible.
I use my best judgement to stay away from
u because I do not want to waste your time
& my time in getting to know u
and ruin your chances of dating someone else.

It's up to the man how he interprets &
reacts to my upfront response,
if it is disaster or moving on peacefully.


2.giving in to outside pressure &
& my unwillingness to justify oneself.

While it is okay for me to justify myself
from time to time in the forum & show my
vulnerabilities, that is because
I am very aware that I am thousands of miles
away from everyone & I am relatively safe.

but

I refuse to justify myself to a man
I dine with, have a good conversation with,
shared laughter & good music with,
if he folded on me because of outside pressure.
I would always surmise, he is not the one
for me. He cannot lead me.

It's up to the man how he will
treat me after, once he knew that
he had given in to outside pressure.
If he is a good sport or really bad at sportsmanship.

3.Inability to accept that no matter
how suitable u are to each other,
if love & chemistry is non existent,
it will not work out between u two.

I have no precedence of this in Mingle yet,
since, I still have not tried,
but in the real world,
inability to accept that u are not meant for
each other is really hard and it needs time.
Not being reminded of each other
everyday is really one of the best
course of action, to get it over with.

Prevailing attitude in this part is
keeping my distance, allowing time
to let both of us know, that it is for the best.

Forest Of October - Opeth

Ever since I am in graveyard shift/night shift I am very particular with time.

If it is past 12AM, it is morning for me.
6PM to 11:59PM is still evening.

Say first coffee break is 9:45PM to 10PM-
Sometimes I will still opt for an orange juice or
fruit shakes, because it is still evening hahaha

Say lunch break is 12:45AM to 01:45AM
Most of the time, I will opt for breakfast food
to get me through the shift.

Say 2nd coffee break is 3:45AM to 4AM
Most of the time, I will prefer black coffee.

Please do not make me promise to judge u -
Base on how people see u.

Please do not make me promise to judge u -
Base on how others see how good or bad u are.


Please do not make me promise to judge u -
Base on how others implied how good or bad u are.

I do not have it in me, to judge u that way.
I have been judged that way so many times,
that I refuse that u will have to go through with it too.

May I promise instead to judge u -
Base on your words & posts.

May I promise instead to judge u -
Base on what your words & posts implied.

May I promise instead to judge u -
Base on how u treated others in the forum.

If only I could see myself from the same vantage point that I observe the world; I might judge my behavior and expressions more critically, and others less.”


― Richelle E. Goodrich, Making Wishes: Quotes, Thoughts, & a Little Poetry for Every Day of the Year

Picture is out of the question for me.
I find out earlier in my stay here
that there are people adept,
who are good at stealing pictures
to represent themselves.
So after something happened last august,
no, I never check pictures again.
If physical appearance matters to me that
much anyway, then I should have stick
to real dates in the real world,
than try to know someone better through the forum.

What makes u get in touch?


On my first week here,
I sent my first mingle poem -
to 2 guys, 1 unemployed in his profile
& the other cool in his blurb.
I still dont know at that time
how mingle works & what is
suppose to be an online dating

After that,
I can only remember 4 times
that I get in touch with a man first
and 3 of those are not because I am
interested with them:

-1 is the male administrator back then
when I broke a rule in the board.

-1 to say stop & give him a clue what to check
so he can distance himself.

-1 because of mingle songs issues

-1 when I added someone as a mingle friend.

No matter how attracted I am to a man in the forum
and how his posts stimulates my mind and imagination,
part of me always rebels that I will be the first to get
in touch.
Part of me always says, it should be the man who will
make the first move.

Then my filters will remind me.
Filters are one of the best things here in Mingle.
They protect u and never failed u.

So what made me add a man as a mingle friend?
Because that is the best that I can do, when I am
interested in getting to know that person.

His view on things that matters to me.
His principles & how he handles other people
around him, which will tell me if he is
compatible with me or not.
For me the biggest turn off are those
that are too literal.
Those who could not be even bothered to
think, what could this mean?

Compatibility is important to me.
But the most important thing for me is
if I understand his takes & he understood my takes.


Right now, I am content getting to
know someone through his posts
in the forum.

It encourages me to express more
myself in the board.



^^^^ I agree with this.

there are just posts from someone that
interest me & makes me feel alive,
there are just posts from other
people that makes me smile
and wish I can hang out with them
in person.

I will never be unaffected,
I am built to feel more,
I am built to dare more,
I am built to express more..

I refuse to be jaded.
I refuse to give up hope.




In Due Time - Killswitch Engage

Pacing aimlessly,
With my mind in unrest
Unsure of what may come.
What have I done to bring this down on me?
Helpless to make this undone

All in due time, see the world through different eyes.
All in due time, the shadows will give way to light.

How much more can I give of myself,
as these walls close in on me?
As I slip down into this despair
(into this despair),
There is nothing to attain

What victory
(what victory)
When my soul is weak,
(is weak)
where does my help come from?

All in due time, see the world through different eyes.
I see the world through different eyes.
All in due time, shadows will give way, give way to light.

All that we suffer through leads to determination.
The trials we all go through gives us the strength to carry on.
Something within us burns, desire feeds the will to live.
A reason to believe I will see redemption.

All in due time, see the world through different eyes
I see the world through different eyes
All in due time, the shadows will give way to light.
All in due time

http://youtu.be/kgPt2mZooss

^^^^ sad but cool.
thank u for sharing this
song to Mingle.

I sometimes asked myself
why I cant help being -
-interested in American Politics
-interested in their books, music & movies

then I get to watch movies like these
that gave me an inkling why...

..was it a choice or a decision?
..was it really black & white or
are there grey matters that needs to be addressed?

..was it just "cause for the moment" or
do they really care?



1. Escape Plan of Sylvester Stallone

Dr. Kyrie: Doctors are men, who prescribe medicines of which they know little, to cure diseases of which they know less, for men, of whom they know nothing at all.

2. John Q of Denzel Washington

John Q. Archibald: Who was driving?
Mitch: Huh?
John Q. Archibald: The car. Who was driving?
Mitch: I was. What's that got to do with anything?
John Q. Archibald: Why's your girl all banged up and you're not?
Mitch: What do you call this?
[shows light scratches on arm]
Lester: [laughs]
Mitch: What are you laughing at?
Lester: Somebody get this fool a band-aid. I don't want you to bleed to death.
Mitch: Scr## you man. This Shi# hurts.
Julie Bird: His airbag went off and mine didn't.
John Q. Archibald: What kind of car do you drive?
Mitch: Mercedes 500.
John Q. Archibald: You drive a Mercedes 500? Oh. What year?
Mitch: 1986. It's a classic.
John Q. Archibald: Mercedes didn't make passenger side air-bags till 1988.
Lester: [laughs] *Busted!*

3. American Hustle of Christian Bale

Rosalyn Rosenfeld: I knew that Pete was going to go over there and knock some sense into your head. I've been reading this book Irving. It's by Wayne Dyer. The Power of Intention. And my intention in sending Pete over to you was that so you could come up with this plan. So, you're welcome.

Rating?
I also do not know why, even after more than 90 days here.

BTW, Welcome to Mingle!

If u want a platform online
that can toughen your psyche,
can make u think, laugh ,
express yourself & u want to check
how others see yourself
based on your posts
you are in the right place!

Mingle can do that for u

We boast great minds in our Politics,
Current News & Event-
u dont even have to participate
to get entertained-
If u want to learn how to be
politically correct & how things
operate here, that is where u
should start hahaha

Our most intellectual forum
is the Jokes & Funny Stories
For the life of me,
I did not know a joke can be soooo
mysterious, deep & more
complicated than calculus
hahaha u would know what I mean
if u stay here for a while.

I will leave u to find out
where u will go, if u want
to stroke your ego & feel bad
doing it hahaha.

It will always be up to u,
what will u allow
to go inside your head
and get under your skin,
in all things,
if u are just diligent,
u will learn without
failing,
without hurting yourself.

Best of luck!

Still Single -
Still dating within the city
I am in if I have the time
& inclination.

Still stubborn & will insist on
no male minglers in
instant messages,
unless I have an important question
about what is in the forum.

Still just expressing myself
in the forum.
Still content in getting
to know someone
on what he posted on the forum.

Life is still good being single.

I am very sure that you too are also here in Mingle
Just hearing your voice last monday after all these years
made me roar with laughter and thought of these









Please remember 6th grade & senior year








See you soon.
I hope for your sake,
I can be the friend now
you deserved to have
years ago.

^^^

the songs literally rocks Ms. Storm!

Song No.5 & Song No. 8 in my Top 10 Metal Songs

For these past few days,
the moment I woke up & before I sleep
only this -

http://youtu.be/LXBi61qHRcY