Unfortunately the real answer is why can't more men be like you daleray
and also look exactly like whatever "type" they need to make it happen
for them. There are kind sensitive men to spare out there sitting home
alone on Friday nights. My cousin is a kind sensitive man who rides a
Harley, shaves his head, has a whole bunch of bad looking tattoos and
never lacks for female company. It's all in how it's packaged. I used
to be a thin, decent looking musician with a lot of self centered
hangups and angst to spare. I dumped that great girlfriend I described
for an actress who then dumped me for a film producer so I started going
out with a psycho ****tail waitress. That was a loooooong time ago.
Finding women isn't a problem, it's finding sane women at my age who
haven't been so burned by life that they can still be decent company.
Good luck in your search. You seem like a really nice guy.

No, she's not with him. She married a guy she worked with and they
lived with her mother for fifteen years.

Look at what you posted. I don't like that it rings true, but a simple
rule to follow is, the simpler you make the relationship the easier it
will run. Don't wine and dine, just be yourself, and let them take it
or leave it.

For what it's worth, I wish you peace, and sleep.

I once had a great looking girlfriend who was eight years younger than
me at a time in my life when I was working a day job and playing
sometimes six nights a week in a band. I neglected her and maybe spent
$20 on her a year. She was loyal, loving, giving, and understanding.
She cooked for me and was always ready when I wanted her. She rarely
complained to me about anything but she had a guy friend she complained
about me to all the time. He was there for her while I wasn't but she
never dated him. Bad guys win.

I say I don't believe in either major party so I can get yelled at from
zealots on both sides.

Yes it is true that all men are also evil if just one woman gets dumped.

1) End all inequality and intolerance of others based upon religion,
race, sexual orientation, gender, and heritage

2) End drug abuse and all profiting from illegal drugs

3) End all wars, guerrilla fighting, terrorism activities, and the arms
trade

Maybe I'll start asking about politics. I had a woman I was dating
start screaming at me because she thought I supported some political
writer. She was mistaken.

You shouldn't make blanket statements based on just one woman. Wait
until two or three have used you up and tossed you aside.

On hobby sites it just makes sense to hide a bit behind a made up
persona but on a dating site I don't see the point. Yeah, I look like
the pic here and I yam what I yam. I don't get any mail, but that's
another story.

Hmm, I couldn't do a fake profile. What if he got more emails than me?
I'd be so jealous.

Elvis will never die.

I brought a trainload of baggage to my second marriage and so did my ex.
It was probably doomed from the start. Now that I have time off from a
relationship I'm sorting through both disasters to try to understand my
role in it all.

Ok, Jess,
I'll go you one deeper. I get your point. I disagree, but I have been
saying for years that the world is engineered for men. It might tick
you off for me to say this but why do women come to men to open jars?
Because men designed the jars. Not saying all women aren't as strong or
tall but my mother who is 5'3" tall spent her life in a world designed
for a 5'10" or taller man. Why does she have to get a step stool to put
things in her cabinets? Because a man designed the cabinets. Why
don't all large companies have day care on the premises? Because men
set up the corporate world.

I don't totally buy into the conditioning thing. I've heard people say
that kids aren't prejudiced or hateful, that they have to learn that
behavior. That's nonsense. If you've ever watched over a group of
three year olds they are selfish, mean, and belittling to anyone who
doesn't conform to their idea of the world. You have to teach manners
and sharing, it doesn't come naturally. I think gender conditioning is
just a simple label being applied to something that is much harder to
explain. Some people fit the historical model, some don't, respect them
either way.

Assuming it's a cell phone, don't ask for the number, tell her your
number and say call me now so I can store it. That way you won't get a
number for Pizza Hut. I'm usually pretty busy so it takes me a week to
get back to anybody.

Yesterday heading into McDonalds a man saw me coming and held the door
open for me. I remembered this thread and laughed to myself as I
thanked him. Then it hit me and I suddenly felt so dis-empowered, just
kidding.

I too was raised Baptist and can't remember any of them who could get
along including my crazy Southern Baptist family. Most repressed group
I've ever been around.

Sorry, was talking to my daughter, yes, wine and cheese is a wonderful
thing. I also used to live in the Napa Valley area in California. You
can lose yourself every weekend wine tasting there.

Used to do wine and cheese dates when I lived in Colorado, drive up into
the mountains, good way to spend a Saturday afternoon.