here's an example that a guy I talk to told me to mention.

we flirt by things like I'm hiring to hire and he wanted to apply for the job. Of course there isn't a real job. it's more like a boyfriend app because of my profile. we flirted back and forth acting like it's a real job.

nothing sexual was brought up though

I never assume anyone has read my profile. I assume they didn't. Always. Even if they said they did, 99% of the time that is a lie.

we have given you are opinions and explained why. You just have to take it for what it's worth

And a brief aside now to the OP... Time for me to get serious for a second. It might seem as though I am being stupid and smartass on this thread at the moment, but it is not without a point!

This is PART of what we do on JSH We are all adults (most of us anyway) out here. If you are having trouble dealing with the realities of flirting on an internet dating site, then why stay?

You see why I like you so much Peccy?

Cause you just said what is a given here....


There are unspoken rules.

Do I have to write a contract every time I decide to talk with someone?

I am sure that Peccy understand I am all talk and no walk. I am dating someone.

And if I wasn't but Peccy was, I would respect that too and just talk but not walk.

Lilith, you need to understand that a person can flirt however they chose. Again, there are unspoken rules that apply.

Maybe I should have some of my buddies join this convo and let y'all in on me.

But I will ease them in.

I have a lot of friends. If you read my profile, it clearly states I write erotica. I have shared said erotica with said friends. NOT ONCE DID THEY CROSS THE LINE AND TRY TO "CYBER" WITH ME.

There are unspoken rules that apply.

Some people are hip to them and know what they are. Some don't.

I leave my IM open because G-d only knows if the next person to IM me is Peccy or another of my friends.

And again, everybody, how many times do I have to say, conversation was edited?

My point is that you never should have posted a private IM on a public forum.

I assume people are intelligent too, but I usually get proven wrong..... I don't mind the breast question, but the masterbation discussion.... nope, wouldn't have gotten into that one, unless I wanted to carry it threw.... That's just me tho.....

Lilith, you need to understand that a person can flirt however they chose. Again, there are unspoken rules that apply.



then why are you upset that he chose to "flirt" the way he did?

no actually your point several times has been that I crossed the invisible line by being a flirt and that I am the hypocrite.

You are just now pointing this don't post PMs.

But whatever, you are you, I am me. We agree to read behind invisible lines and disagree on the topic.

I agree with you.

I am upset with what came after the question about my boobs.

I wish I could post it here, but after Lilith's adamant advise to not post PMs and the fact that I have met many people here I find friends, I chose not to post it.


Thank you though.

you and your friends know your boundaries...this guy didn't because of how you opened up the discussion. Myabe he just thought he was flirting like you? we haven't heard his side of the story

I think I have 34 a cups now you all know my boob size

chicken

moobs cool

This was my solution to your never ending problems with men being sexual. Here is my quote from page three.


My stance was and is that if you ask for it, you can stop it at any time. Them chalk it up to an experience and move on. But don't come in here and whine about it. I don't care how edited it was. You brought up masturbation.

ok ok it was me applying for her "job" so did I get it or what???

I still agree with lilth

when anyone asks for opinions...that is what you get even if you don't agree with what is said. take all the advice and think about it...otherwise it would be just you coming in and asking us to tell you we think like you do.

If you already know the answer...then you don't need opinions

JMO

ugh...you are fired...I had to do your work

I'm in the 1% again