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In case anyone is wondering Im not "P"
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I agree with everybody. You encouraged it. When it comes to typing on the internet they are just words on a screen. There is no facial expressions or even vocal tones to indicate it was a joke. Unless you indicate that you are just joking not everybody it going to know.
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Hm...well its interesting that you openly talk about masturbation with this person but breast size is crossing the line? Perhaps said person was a little confused as to your intent? I would never talk like that with someone whilst I was dating someone else. To each his own, I mean no offense just puttin in my two bits.  I understand, however, you all are reading edited version. Now, what typically comes from a guy's mouth after asking a woman her breast size? Also, my boyfriend is comfortable with my being flirty. 1, it is a part of my job, which I have been doing for 10 years, so it has become a part of me and 2, he loves knowing I flirt but I don't let it get out of hand. He flirts too. And I don't mind. There's a difference between flirting harmlessly and trying to engage in cybersex or any other harmful behaviour. I have done a lot of research on said topics. I have seen many therapists actually claim that flirting with the opposite sex can help in a relationship if not taken too far. http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/flirtingguide.html |
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I agree that you opened it up to lead to that...but it's also hard to know because P isn't here to give his side
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Edited by
elsathebloody
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Fri 03/28/08 11:50 AM
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I think you are missing the point that you are saying this started innocent. It started with you talking about masturbation and the other person wanting to continue the flirtation. How did it go wrong, you ask? It went wrong when you decided you could flirt and the other party couldn't. I think that might be called hypocrisy. I wouldn't go so far as to call it hypocrisy. I joke with my friends about this kind of stuff. But to do it with a stranger is not only stupid, but asking for the same things you're saying in return. How can one assume a stranger is joking when they're A) talking online, so you can't hear sarcasm etc and B) you don't know what they're like and don't know how they mean it? |
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If I had a dollar for every guy who asked my breast size on line, I'd be rich! |
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Hm...well its interesting that you openly talk about masturbation with this person but breast size is crossing the line? Perhaps said person was a little confused as to your intent? I would never talk like that with someone whilst I was dating someone else. To each his own, I mean no offense just puttin in my two bits. I understand, however, you all are reading edited version. Now, what typically comes from a guy's mouth after asking a woman her breast size? Also, my boyfriend is comfortable with my being flirty. 1, it is a part of my job, which I have been doing for 10 years, so it has become a part of me and 2, he loves knowing I flirt but I don't let it get out of hand. He flirts too. And I don't mind. There's a difference between flirting harmlessly and trying to engage in cybersex or any other harmful behaviour. I have done a lot of research on said topics. I have seen many therapists actually claim that flirting with the opposite sex can help in a relationship if not taken too far. http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/flirtingguide.html but regardless of what he said after the boobs etc...YOU mentioned the masturbation first |
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Hm...well its interesting that you openly talk about masturbation with this person but breast size is crossing the line? Perhaps said person was a little confused as to your intent? I would never talk like that with someone whilst I was dating someone else. To each his own, I mean no offense just puttin in my two bits. I understand, however, you all are reading edited version. Now, what typically comes from a guy's mouth after asking a woman her breast size? Also, my boyfriend is comfortable with my being flirty. 1, it is a part of my job, which I have been doing for 10 years, so it has become a part of me and 2, he loves knowing I flirt but I don't let it get out of hand. He flirts too. And I don't mind. There's a difference between flirting harmlessly and trying to engage in cybersex or any other harmful behaviour. I have done a lot of research on said topics. I have seen many therapists actually claim that flirting with the opposite sex can help in a relationship if not taken too far. http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/flirtingguide.html So now you admit that you are trying to engage in cybersex but yet the breast size question was going to far?  And we can only read what you give us to read. Nothing else. |
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If I had a dollar for every guy who asked my breast size on line, I'd be rich! Id have about $3.50 |
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If I had a dollar for every guy who asked my breast size on line, I'd be rich! Id have about $3.50 You have only been asked for the size of one breast? |
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Edited by
elsathebloody
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Fri 03/28/08 11:54 AM
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Hm...well its interesting that you openly talk about masturbation with this person but breast size is crossing the line? Perhaps said person was a little confused as to your intent? I would never talk like that with someone whilst I was dating someone else. To each his own, I mean no offense just puttin in my two bits. I understand, however, you all are reading edited version. Now, what typically comes from a guy's mouth after asking a woman her breast size? Also, my boyfriend is comfortable with my being flirty. 1, it is a part of my job, which I have been doing for 10 years, so it has become a part of me and 2, he loves knowing I flirt but I don't let it get out of hand. He flirts too. And I don't mind. There's a difference between flirting harmlessly and trying to engage in cybersex or any other harmful behaviour. I have done a lot of research on said topics. I have seen many therapists actually claim that flirting with the opposite sex can help in a relationship if not taken too far. http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/flirtingguide.html but regardless of what he said after the boobs etc...YOU mentioned the masturbation first I agree And talking about masturbation is NOT flirty, it's very sexual. Flirty is saying "You're beautiful" or "You're very sweet" or "You make me happy" I know those are cheesy but I can't think of examples. What I mean is flirtation that's friendly is never sexual. |
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I think you are missing the point that you are saying this started innocent. It started with you talking about masturbation and the other person wanting to continue the flirtation. How did it go wrong, you ask? It went wrong when you decided you could flirt and the other party couldn't. I think that might be called hypocrisy. I wouldn't go so far as to call it hypocrisy. I joke with my friends about this kind of stuff. But to do it with a stranger is not only stupid, but asking for the same things you're saying in return. How can one assume a stranger is joking when they're A) talking online, so you can't hear sarcasm etc and B) you don't know what they're like and don't know how they mean it? True, but then again, I had assumed that he had read my profile after I asked him to. And that when I told him I was playing games with my friends on JSH, that he would have looked at the forums. Unfortunately, I am learning that not everyone can be free and flirty without reaping some consequences. Case in point, there are a few members here on JSH that I "flirt" with on a regular basis. But not once would I ever think that they would take it seriously. Not only that, I have seen some hard core flirting here done by other members. So why is it they can flirt, but I can't? Explain to my silly and apparently dumb A*s as to why my flirts are treated differently than some of the more shocking flirts I have seen? |
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flirting is one thing...talking openly about masturbation is another
JMO |
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Edited by
yellowrose10
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Fri 03/28/08 11:56 AM
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saying things like hi sexy or little flirts like that are fine in a relationship.
describing sexual acts..is another |
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Hypocrisy (or being a hypocrite) is the act of opposing or not purporting a belief or behaviour while holding the same beliefs or behaviours at the same time, or vice versa.
(Wikpedia) Herein lies the issue. You flirted. He flirted back. You decided he crossed the line. Why are you so upset, and do you really think for a minute we all do not think you asked for it to go there as you started talking about masturbation? |
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Edited by
Totage
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Fri 03/28/08 11:57 AM
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I think you are missing the point that you are saying this started innocent. It started with you talking about masturbation and the other person wanting to continue the flirtation. How did it go wrong, you ask? It went wrong when you decided you could flirt and the other party couldn't. I think that might be called hypocrisy. I wouldn't go so far as to call it hypocrisy. I joke with my friends about this kind of stuff. But to do it with a stranger is not only stupid, but asking for the same things you're saying in return. How can one assume a stranger is joking when they're A) talking online, so you can't hear sarcasm etc and B) you don't know what they're like and don't know how they mean it? True, but then again, I had assumed that he had read my profile after I asked him to. And that when I told him I was playing games with my friends on JSH, that he would have looked at the forums. Unfortunately, I am learning that not everyone can be free and flirty without reaping some consequences. Case in point, there are a few members here on JSH that I "flirt" with on a regular basis. But not once would I ever think that they would take it seriously. Not only that, I have seen some hard core flirting here done by other members. So why is it they can flirt, but I can't? Explain to my silly and apparently dumb A*s as to why my flirts are treated differently than some of the more shocking flirts I have seen? I see what you're saying, I think your flirting was misinterpreted as an invitation to cyber. Your intentions were just a harmless flirt, but he misunderstood that as a cyber seduction. |
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If I had a dollar for every guy who asked my breast size on line, I'd be rich! AMEN!!! It is almost a daily thing... |
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saying things like hi sexy or little flirts like that are fine in a relationship. describing sexual acts..is another That's exactly what I said in my last post. We must be soulmates! *messages you and asks you your boob size* 
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If I had a dollar for every guy who asked my breast size on line, I'd be rich! Id have about $3.50 You have only been asked for the size of one breast? Yup. He only had one arm and didnt wanna get in over his head. |
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By the way, I flirt all the time in here.
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