It has nothing to do with getting over myself. I have preferences, as I am sure you do. I can't stand the smell of smoke; I won't kiss someone who has been smoking; I don't want the smell of it in my house. Why fall for someone when you know there is going to be one huge issue. And I would never ask someone to stop smoking for me.

Most men will not take the time to get to know me because I am fat. I don't get upset over it; it is their choice.

I heard all the action is at: "Mutual Match" Hiker told me she is swamped with them....

It's not an issue if you care about the person is all I'm saying. But you will never know if you would care about the person if you refuse to get to know them over something petty like smoking or weight or much of anything else outside of major thingslike rape, or things allong those lines.

to a large extent I agree with you; but I detest cigarette smoke. So if this did turn out to be some really great guy, I would end up with a life filled with irritation and friction. I am not here to change anyone else. If I already know I am gonna be cranky about something, there is no point in putting the guy through it.

no, not since I killed them all the other night. What a fire we had!!

Thats good , so M/M's burn well

Hello, I heard this is the place to have fun and exciting conversations. So here I am. Nice to meet you all.

Everything looks fine. Of course, I'm an Ole Geezer.

My husband was a heavy smoker & at the ripe old age of 57, he can't do anything but sit in a chair sucking on oxygen. It's been that way for almost years, & for several years before that, he couldn't do much. He's useless as a husband & father. He's made life miserable for me & my kids, not to mention what he's done to his own quality of life. My profile says 'no smokers'. Why would I ever want to get emotionally involved with another person determined to kill themselves? The point of eliminating smokers is not to discriminate against smokers, but to protect myself from a repeat of what I've been through one. People all have their reasons for their preferences. Live & let live.

Kat, I read some of your profile. Girl, before you know it you will be overloaded with men. Young, smart, intelligent and beautiful!! What more could I guy ask for?

Maybe that's why I get no responses because I smoke!!!

If you post in the forums you'll probably get more mail.

Some people have allergies, and cigarette smoke irritates allergies. Or they just would prefer not to smell cigarette smoke. Either way, there are tons of men who don't smoke, so that's not her problem. Welcome, original poster, good luck.

WoW you people amaze me

I would've sent you a message Kat, but I live too far away and your filter kept me from doing so.

howdy and welcome to JSH


don't change your profile.you know what you want,so don't settle for anything less

Hello and welcome Katt AND Stevirox ... I hope you enjoy your stay here at JSH ... its a pretty cool place to hang out , and well, just be yourself

hello & welcome Katt AND Stevirox to JSH have fun.. it is a great community you going to be in..

if you have time stop by JSH morning show

That's how it worked for me. Once I had established myself as a "presence" in the forums, I started getting lots of e-mail, made some great friends. It would be nice to hear from someone less then 897,000 miles away, though. Or from someone who might be an actual dating possibility, although, after 15 months, I doubt if such a person exists here.

Katt,
Try removing the restrictions from your mail preferences and that will help you make more friends and find someone as well. Yes, you will have to stick to your guns about the people you meet but give everyone a chance to get to know you that way. Also jump into the threads and have some fun, if people start seeing you there they will respond by showing interest.

Good luck and have fun!
Vicki