I would relocate since I'm a nice guy like that. If I know I love the woman truely I would do anything to be with her.

STAY PUT!!!!!!!! Been there, done that, lost the t-shirt in the ensuing divorce.

my question would be why would the party that has the business opportunity/expansion be the one to move?

Why can't he relocate??

...you take the words out of my keyboard...

Forgot to mention that the business went right into the crapper too.

if you have to ask, stay put

He will not relocate to a larger city.
He has a very ill grandmother.

Single_Rob - I am the type of person that asks people for input because if you can see things from anothers perspective you can always learn something. I do not doubt the relationship. I have a problem with uprooting a whole life plan in progress. I also have to consider his circumstances and not just my own. (His business, family, and preferences)
So you get to a point where there are crossroads and both paths are in front of you that offer different positive things and different compromised things and even negative things. Its hard to choose between your head and your heart. Ideally having both would be great but that may mean years .. which is another issue that could cause relationship issues or may destroy it. We both would have to work hard to keep what we have.

let him relocate,i did it for a woman,it lasted 3 months,then it was over. lucky my business is mobile,now if someone wants me they will come to me,all i ever asked was love me as yourself, besides i have a very nice house.