maybe a man can answer this one for me...

a man tells you that they want you to be more aggressive and they not have to be the one to initiate things all the time.

so you start initiating then they turn you away everytime as if it turns them off.

what's up with that?

I have no idea....

he must be gay....

he dont know what he wants,or he is gay,or he jsut wanted to see if u would

or he just playing games

What did you hit him with

yea what's up with that??? I've had that happen too

ummmm as in?

I don't understand that.. if I had a lady, she would always be able to come to me anytime she wanted.. I would never turn her away..

I think he needs medicine

Bipolar maybe?

a very indecisive individual for one thing

i dont get it

Me either

Maybe you two women just don't have the right man...

I haven't got any in about a month & 1/2

it was just a question in general here.

not really sure there is a "right" man...but then again, what do i know haha

Sounds to me like he falls under the "controller" type. A guy behaving that way perceives the woman not being interested and, of course, complains about it. When a woman caught in that situation initiates the love making, he gets to "deprive" her, hence, maintaining his "control". I'll add that I'm thinking a guy like this also is demeaning ("you can't do anything right") and makes all the decisions for the couple.

Many women have been raised to expect the man to initiate making love. A man who truly wants more intitiation on the part of the woman should discuss the matter with her, then readily accept her overtures when she initiates things. Any other reaction is all about "control". Run from a guy like that as fast as you can!

lol quit bragging

very good answer, you could be right about that...

Are you dating Derek?