Topic: ok...got a question...
Moondark's photo
Sun 03/23/08 11:23 AM
He doesn't know what he wants. So he makes excuses. Just a guess.

bad_girl's photo
Sun 03/23/08 11:23 AM
Good answer moon

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Sun 03/23/08 11:25 AM
He's an idiot?

bad_girl's photo
Sun 03/23/08 11:28 AM
Another good answer ((water))

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 03/23/08 11:29 AM
<---not a man but

maybe because he's really unsure with what he wants or in himself?

from a girl's stand point...what if we did the same? what would the reason be?

I put myself in the guy's place and that's what I came up with flowerforyou

sleeplessingermany's photo
Sun 03/23/08 11:33 AM
looks to me like a bad case of committment phobia. he probably feels threatened when you initiate things and then he runs.

been there, done that. my advice: RUN !

texasrose9's photo
Sun 03/23/08 11:37 AM
There is another possibility here. If the OP is referring to sexual advances, that is. He may not have a strong sex drive. He may use the excuse he wants her to initiate, so he doesn't feel pressured to initiate himself.... and then when she does, he is reluctant and becomes irritated because now he must respond in some way. I think the guy may have sexual issues.

madamx7316's photo
Sun 03/23/08 12:16 PM

There is another possibility here. If the OP is referring to sexual advances, that is. He may not have a strong sex drive. He may use the excuse he wants her to initiate, so he doesn't feel pressured to initiate himself.... and then when she does, he is reluctant and becomes irritated because now he must respond in some way. I think the guy may have sexual issues.


another good point.

SharpShooter10's photo
Sun 03/23/08 12:33 PM
Madamx, you can take the lead, get aggressive, make me service you, do any damn thing you want darlin, dont know how to answer the question for you tho, maybe you skeered himdrinker maybe he just thought that was what he wanteddrinker maybe his willie wasn't workindrinker
good luck and best wishes to ya always darlindrinker

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Sun 03/23/08 01:02 PM
When someone says to you....to be more aggressive and then they arent happy with that.......get rid of him!!!! Youre too much this your not enough that!!!!!! gaaaaaaaaaaaawd who needs that aggravation????noway grumble noway

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Sun 03/23/08 01:03 PM
Edited by Gypsy41 on Sun 03/23/08 01:05 PM
buy him a plastic barbie doll!!!bigsmile

MtnBkr80446's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:03 PM
Madam. I am at a loss on this one. Unless he does have the controller issues as another posted. Personally I like it when the lady takes charge it definately spices things up. devil smokin

FearandLoathing's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:10 PM
Probably control issues, keep doing what you do...forget them if they don't like you for that.

lilith401's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:10 PM
Maybe he simply wanted to know that you are interested as well and therefore put out the suggestion that you initiate. However, when you do he decided it was not at all what he wanted. It's not you, Madam.

I say very poor communicator, as well as a tad touch of passive aggressiveness.

madamx7316's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:11 PM
again my dears, this isnt about ME its a question in general. pretty much everyone knows i have an "aggressive" side haha.... but i have heard alot of women complaining about this and i certainly dont have the answer to it, so i brought it forward to see if you could shed some light on the issue.

madamx7316's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:11 PM

Madamx, you can take the lead, get aggressive, make me service you, do any damn thing you want darlin, dont know how to answer the question for you tho, maybe you skeered himdrinker maybe he just thought that was what he wanteddrinker maybe his willie wasn't workindrinker
good luck and best wishes to ya always darlindrinker



smooched smooched
i always do what i want pumpkin hehehe :tongue: bigsmile

bad_girl's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:12 PM
devil Nice to know

Madam. I am at a loss on this one. Unless he does have the controller issues as another posted. Personally I like it when the lady takes charge it definately spices things up. devil smokin

BigGlenn's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:12 PM

he must be gay....


Gay, Defineatly gay.

bad_girl's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:12 PM
laugh


Madamx, you can take the lead, get aggressive, make me service you, do any damn thing you want darlin, dont know how to answer the question for you tho, maybe you skeered himdrinker maybe he just thought that was what he wanteddrinker maybe his willie wasn't workindrinker
good luck and best wishes to ya always darlindrinker



smooched smooched
i always do what i want pumpkin hehehe :tongue: bigsmile

madamx7316's photo
Sun 03/23/08 01:12 PM

Maybe he simply wanted to know that you are interested as well and therefore put out the suggestion that you initiate. However, when you do he decided it was not at all what he wanted. It's not you, Madam.

I say very poor communicator, as well as a tad touch of passive aggressiveness.


another good thought on this.