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i'm thinking the fewer people u've been intimate with it more likely u'd tell Well that is true, but I also think some won't tell the whole truth either. |
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i'm thinking the fewer people u've been intimate with it more likely u'd tell |
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IF you start to hide your past in the relatioship now, what else do you have thats hiding ??..... be honest, be open ..  have a great day I believe this whole-heartedly, TwoTall. The problem is that the times I have been asked - I have given the truth - undiluted, unadorned, completely straight - and been punished for it in one way or the other. The truth is what it is - it cannot be changed without making it false. I have found most who ask these things dont really want to know. I'm not sure if it's a morbid curiosity on their part, or just the catalyst that begins the process of jealousy in those prone to it. <shrug> My advice? Dont ask, unless you really want to know. Dont tell, unless you know he really wants to know. In both cases, knowing why the question needs answering can help. Sometimes, withholding information, or refusing to answer a question causes a hella lot more problems (sometimes, over a long period of time) than just coming out with it would (even if it means an immediate explosion and break-up, I prefer this option). Good Luck 
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if the subject should be necessary to discuss I feel it's important but at least wait until you are somewhat established in the relationship. To have your "new love" start off talking about how many people they have been with in the past...I find that to be a big turn off (as in the case of the last person I was in a relationship with). OMG!!!! I lost count....needless to say the relationship didn't last but 3 months. Because that is all I heard about
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I have no problem with it.. Ive only been with 3 women my entire life.. 
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commication is best i want a best friend to be my lover,husband everthing
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My advice?
Dont ask, unless you really want to know. Dont tell, unless you know she really wants to know.  
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commication is best i want a best friend to be my lover,husband everthing |
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IF you start to hide your past in the relatioship now, what else do you have thats hiding ??..... be honest, be open .. have a great day I believe this whole-heartedly, TwoTall. The problem is that the times I have been asked - I have given the truth - undiluted, unadorned, completely straight - and been punished for it in one way or the other. The truth is what it is - it cannot be changed without making it false. I have found most who ask these things dont really want to know. I'm not sure if it's a morbid curiosity on their part, or just the catalyst that begins the process of jealousy in those prone to it. <shrug> My advice? Dont ask, unless you really want to know. Dont tell, unless you know he really wants to know. In both cases, knowing why the question needs answering can help. Sometimes, withholding information, or refusing to answer a question causes a hella lot more problems (sometimes, over a long period of time) than just coming out with it would (even if it means an immediate explosion and break-up, I prefer this option). Good Luck perfectly spoken , and WAY more articulate then I could have possibly envision myself answering .. EXCELLENT 
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On the other hand... if someone asks, it may be that they are looking into your character, not just being nosy. If he/she feels you have been around the block too many times, he/she might feel that he/she is just another conquest or that you behave capriciously with regard to sex. That could make or break a relationship, and it's that person's need to know the character of a potential long term mate.
But, if it's something they want to pin you down with or use as a device, such as guilt or jealousy, the relationship sinks, anyway. Then, too, there are many who did things eons ago they regret, but learned and grew from the past, who forgave themselves and perhaps got forgiveness from their higher power. So, why be a glutton for punishment? |
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wonder how many people would lie anyways
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wonder how many people would lie anyways Our past is who we are. If you lie about your past relationships and get caught lieing thats worst than anything your trying to cover up. without trust you have nothing.... no future. |
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hard lesson to learn
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If she asks, I have no problems being open and honest with her about things in the past. I'm hoping the person I'm with wouldn't flip out and be the jealous type or judge me, cause I wouldn't date someone like that... but.. given the scenario, that she wanted to know... I'd appreciate an open and frank discussion. I'm all about communication. (=
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I'll stick with my old standard, "No comment!"
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I'll stick with my old standard, "No comment!" |
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i would. but i just would not go into details.
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about [ few or many ]your past lovers? my past is owed to no one but myself.. I live with my mistakes, they're MY mistakes.. i owe no one any REASON for my past, only myself |
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No way in hell. The past is just that....the past. The more you dwell upon the past the more you doom your future.
And my past is pretty damn ugly! |
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I have no problem with it.. Ive only been with 3 women my entire life.. Thats admirable. why thank you dont get me wrong tho... I  SEX... I'm just more into the manogomy and relationship thing.
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