So true Bill for at the end of the first meeting you will know before it
is over if you want to see them again or not. Heck I feel if you meet
someone even if it is not what you want at least have a good time and
enjoy each other conversation you did before you met so no reason you
can not make it at least a pleasant meeting and then just tell them you
think it would be better just for friends don't just blow them off hell
we are all adults no reason why we can't act like adults.

yeah I told you guys this before but that happend with me I met some one
from here and found out that what I thought was was not.

Yeppiers ya did and even tried to be friends but some don't want that at
all. So you never give your all till you know the person a little better
I'm talking one on one better lol

O ya I would be up front about we are not the match.Leaving them in
limbo to figure it out is pritty rude.

In June 2003, I fell in love with a guy over the internet, who lived up
north. We talked as well as typed and he had a web cam, as well...we
would talk and type then talk and type for hours and hours at a time. To
make a long story, short, he flew down to TX and helped me to load my
things up and I moved up there, where he had a job and a ministry... in
Aug. 2003...I moved into a house, not too far from his house and we
dated, face to face until Sept.2003...we got married and I must say, I
was happier with him than anyone else, in my life. But he had a
problem...he only stayed with his wifes for 2 to 3 years and then he
would move on to a new wife...I found out, way too late, that I was wife
number 7...He told, all our friends, that I was the best wife he ever
had and that he loved me but he wanted to go on to wife number
8....Weirdest thing anyone could ever say, if you ask me...It took me a
while to get over him and I am glad it is over, afterall.

Yeppier got that right, But so many do that or keep talking to them but
never mention meeting again duhhhh all deserve for others to at least be
honest with them.

Well Dream its sad it happen that way but you never really even know
others even when you live with them at times.

Damn,I couldnt even tell someone I was,in love with them ,even if I was
face to face with them for a month.I cant know that fast!Thats me
anyhow.

That's true, Tx....to just ignore someone after you have been talking on
the phone or chats or e-mails, and not tell them WHY is one of the
meanest, evilest thing anyone can do....to leave a person hanging is one
of the worse things you can do...I just had that done to me, by my last
bf....but his freaking lost.

Bill alot feel the same way as you do on that one hell I don't tell
people after talking to them casual I love ya some do and really don't
mean anything about it its just natural for them not me I tell my kids
that my family that and very few close friends. But if I tell a guy that
they got me hooked all the way its scary to tell someone that cause you
dont know how they will take it at all or will they pull back when you
do tell them that. Sometimes it's a never endeding battle ya damn if you
do and damn if you don't.

I heard that Tex.Got all kinds of friends that I love.I tell them
too,but I do make it clear its as friends.Im just not inlove with anyone
now.Alot of ppl try to jumble the two togather.Cant do that,they are not
the same!

Ya got that right!!

I think you can love someone you have not met. But I think falling in
love starts when you do meet.

Dream, what the heck were you talking about with that guy? You said you
typed & talked for hours a day but you didn't know he was Married SEVEN
times (nor did you know WHY)? What questions were you asking him that
were more important than that?

Based soley on your past experince can I suggest a History Check by a
decent P.I. for any future Fiance'?

me? nope don't think so and hope I don't come off shallow but that's my
honest answer

I dont think so at all, It takes time to really get to know someone on a
personal level, Anyone who says they love you without taking a good
amount of time to getting to know you inside and out, the good and not
so good, they are very insecure and I would say run run and get some
therapy.

and an aids test

I was always told, "Have a relationship with someone you like, not
someone love".

I don't think you can love them without meeting them. You can build a
foundation but love come with time. Lust is much fast LOL

SLUG...TY for you advice....matter of FACT....THAT IS what I did with
this last bf...LMAO!