She is everyone's therapist

LOL .. no babe not analyzing. It just 'came to me' altho I have counseled a lot of people.

I do agree. I think probing for deeper stuff in many cases is pure bullsh*t. Sorry but I do.

And like I said at beginning of this thread ........ I had never gone to one until a couple months ago. And the reason is not 'publishable material' I thought it was pretty funny actually.

So ya .. I'm no expert on therapists. Trust me on this one. But I am a very private person and she has been great at getting me to talk. She agrees that the reason I came turned out to NOT be the reason I stayed.

I know .. very vague ............

indeed, guys have a hard time talking about internal stuff...
but i think its more just the admitting that they might 'need' help...
...kinda like the asking for directions issue...

I don't see Deb as a therapist because I do believe in credentials. But I do see her (and she's my best friend on here) as someone who can listen VERY well. She loves people. It's a given.

I gave up counseling even though I have my degree because I am the most IMPATIENT counselor you've ever seen.

You tell me your troubles. I tell you what to do. You take your "homework" with you. If you do not come back with it 'done' or give me the .. "but but" or "IF" or whatevaaaaah I'm soooooooooooooooooooooooo done.

Like I said .. it's not my gift

Ok Madam, let's go to the couch so I can analyze you!

ahhhh sugar your an easy one.....and your my chica I am honored you intrust me sweetie.

you silly boy you

Oh this is going downhill fast

Are we surprised?

Nothing on JSH is a suprise anymore

i think therapy can be a great thing if you have the right connection. i feel there has to be a trust/bond with who you are talking to. also the person has to be open to try new things and go with the suggestions of the counselor.

You are correct Madam! I trusted the therapist I saw after I was divorced and I was open to new things but the one I was hesitant with was after a while the therapist thought I had progressed enough to join group therapy. Now that is hard! To be open with your inner most thoughts in a group? But it made me a better person for it. It made me into the loveable, sweet, kind, adoreable, romantic, gentleman that I am!

Actually I totally agree with Kitt as to the need for a connection. My counselor is turning into my friend as I said. The one I was originally going to go to I didn't have that with.

As to Poetry's comment on group therapy. Never would I do that. I am sooooooo not a "group/team" person, and it would not be good for me because I would never share in that setting. That's just bottom line.

But glad it made you the person you are today Bill.

Well Judy, don't get me wrong, I was uncomfortable with the group therapy, at least at first. But over time it was like a few friends getting together and talking. That is how I looked at it and I became more comfortable looking at it that way. Some of the people became good friends and we still see each other from time to time. Friends is the key here, feeling comfortable with someone. Kinda like I feel towards some of the people on this site. I feel I could share things with them, things I normally couldn't share with ones not as close. Some of these threads are good therapy. Not that I need therapy anymore because I do not, but I feel good about some of the people in these forums and I would hope they feel that way about me.

Hear ya brother ..

And between friends online and R/L and the forums in a community such as ours, much 'therapy' goes on for sure.

any nighttime couch users?

Yes, Yes, and very good...thus far anyway.


As you know Judy, I have been with a therapist for a while now, and while it has taken some time for me to 'open up' and talk about the issuse at hand...she has also taught me how to deal with several issuse I had goin on. I can honestly say, that without the therapist, I probably wouldn't be in the frame of mind I am currently in today. My diagnoses..Major Depression/recurrent/severe.....but you'd never know that would ya

I think I would rather have cancer than major depression.

(((((Ruthie))))

well .. i wouldn't say that unless you'd had them both, but I know what you mean.

The demons in our own heads are H E L L

Having had both, I honestly don't know which is worse. Though, a side effect of most cancer therapy is depression, so you get two for the price of one