If you felt that someone was falling for YOU on here.
And YOU BOTH have never met.
And YOU asked then NOT TO LET THEIR FEELINGS GO THERE.
Because YOU don't want then to be hurt.
Because of the fact that YOU have NEVER really MET face to face.
And if and, or you ever did, THEY might FEEL differently about the OTHER in person?
Would THAT BE "WRONG" to tell THEM "THAT"?

Because I feel like I've hurt someone that I really did want to know better, but wanted THEM to NOT BE hurt by what or where LIFE might trully change their feelings?

No, but i wouldn't be so harsh about it.

All in all is depends on what you think is the right decision.Sometimes the best thing to do is the hardest.

nah, i would approach it differently though..

Hmmm

You did the right thing in being honest. Tell them you never ment to hurt their feelings and youa are sorry about it but jsut wanted to be honest.

try to be a little more delicate...you know women have sensitive feelings

well being honest in a nice way is best

ditto

yep

Actually, it did sound like he was being tactful. But it the person's feelings were already engaged, I don't think it would have mattered how nice and kind it was. There would still be hurt feelings.

Not that my advice means anything,but I just kinda got out of that except for the fact we did meet.But I was falling faster then him,and he was very honest with me,and first I was upset but that was just the rejection.After having time to think I appreciate him more now and the fact he was honest.And we are still good friends

I think I may NOT have made my words in a SOFTER MANNER!
GOD, I hate this talk in type stuff, because its so hard to be who you are in the manner to which you talk to how one reads your TYPE!
I can't even make me right, she left.
IM so tired of interpretations in and through words that can be expressed or percieved in their mind differently than you ment them to be heard. I just THINK to damm much..

I agree with that assesment. And seriously some people just don't hear it unless you tell them in a direct, honest and less than delicate manner.

*huggs* it'll be okay

You cannot ease the pain love causes or "lessen the blow". You must open yourself to the feelings, and not try to stop something from happening based on the circumstances and the fact someones feeling may get hurt later because of distance & what not. If something was developing...you shouldn't try to "kindle the flame"...even though in the end someone may get "burned".

LOVE HURTS. Its because we have to open ourselves completely to fully love~it also makes us completely vulnerable. You cannot ask feelings "not to go there"...to try to protect yourself. Feelings are what they are...FEELINGS.

My 2 cents!

No because it's keeping it real. People act one way on the net a lot of the time and meeting them face to face is a whole new world. I don't believe letting someone get that close to me or at least try not to. Because the simple fact of what you said. What happens if you met and you not attracted to that person. It changes everything. Hurt or not, being real and up front is the only way anyone should be. The sad thing is, some are not and will hurt the other person. Hell it happen to me the first time I met someone off the net. I seen pic's etc etc. when i met them after driving 12 hours to go meet them. They were nothing like there pic's So how fair is that to me or anyone that has been through this? IAM KEEP IT REAL NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS ON HERE!!!!!

You can't ask someone not to feel something.. it's their responsibility to worry about that anyway. As long as you're not leading them on if you don't feel the same way, you're not doing anything wrong by having a connection with them.

Thank You and I know you can't stop the feelings but should not the feelings of falling be over alot of time and thoughts given to each other through more than say 20
emails to 30 emails?
I mean like it takes ME ALOT of TIME involved to feel CLOSE, FALLING takes me ONLY through MEETING and SHARING the real touch of that other.

T-That I so agree with. E-mailing is just a small beginning. You are friendly and charming and she may have jumped to conclusions. Just keep being a nice guy because nice guys are great!