We're all responsible for our own feelings and if we let them go to far without encouragement or it being mutual the other person cannot be blamed especially if they were upfront and honest... In my opinion even if they were led on it's silly to fall for someone you've never met... Feelings can happen but we have to stay realistic about the whole thing...

Thanks and THIS is how my HEART feels but she MUST feel different on what I was REALLY saying,I think?
I was talking of a START of deeper thoughts, and she talked of FALLING?

It happens to a lot of people... But the bottomline is if we're honest then we didn't mislead them and we cannot stop or make someone feel what they feel.. they do that on their own.. It's just the opposite of caring deeply and they don't return the feelings.. You can't make someone love you nor can you make the not love you...

I am responsible for my emotions, and I am not responsible for anothers...

I ask, why? To any kind of statement relating to emotion... "I really like you."..."Why? Why do you like me, what do you like about me? Why do you feel that way?"
Then I can see what is about me, and what has nothing to do with me, but is the other person's requirements.

Same with the love thingo... "why do you love me? What is it you love about me?"

I ask, I need clarification... I require understanding, and for both people to be on the same page, at all times, and if there is an unhealthiness, a dependency , an unbalanced scenario building, it can be addressed...

THATS what I thought I was trying to do, address it before it went where I didn't want it to go with such short talkings to each other?
And NOT feeling we even really know each other very well?

I've had a few guys do that and we still are talking, but I was able to tone it down. For me it's if crudeness starts, I'm out period. Some fall in deep like, very quickly. I hope you and she can still be friends. :)

I think I can't type MY type, and pain to someone is pain, and life is way to short to hurt people even if you ment not to.
And to understand some is to have to feel all their pain they have been through and only people with a real compassion to hear anothers heart can FEEL that through words in type.
I have lost good friends here to death, and some who just want to hurt me by not speaking to me.
I have met a lady here who I trully loved ONCE, just to find out she was NOT the person she lead me to believe she was.
I have found so many great friends here and love them all.
Im far from a perfect person I make alot of mistakes daily.
But I preach being REAL because THAT means so damm much to me to BE and to have.And IF that has hurt anyone, I can't BE ANYONE else, im only who I TYPE IAM...

he loves me he loves me not he loves me he loves me not......eeney meeney miney.............moe~

Sounds like you didn't mean to hurt anyone. We all should be true to ourselves. What I was meaning don't wory too much or send her a nice e-mail or card, explaining you meant her no hurt.

Most of us have experienced real hurt and the good ones don't want to cause someone else to feel that. Sounds like you are compassionate.

I don't know exactly how it was that you hurt that person. This is just a mode of introduction, what comes after this in the real life is a completely different story.
How many times have i heard" i really like you as a person, but I'm not attracted to you otherwise" ( this is the polite version of those who care to comment).

so, IMO you are being fair by saying up front that in real life, things can be different.

true be that ....

honestly, just let things go where they go. RELAX. it will all shake out in the end.

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