I guess I just get tired of fighting the notion that it's all so futile. When I was young, I had all the time in the world and was invincible, but these days, I wonder if I'm just too set in my ways and doomed to walk the planet in solitude.

every last one that write in this forum wish for love as I do, but even what is on our hearts the mind wil say don't say or do, or this will be the consequence....**** the conseqence....i dont care if anybody here give me back words of encouragement or affection, as this thing that cares what every other soul think about us keep us from REAL bonds that chnage things and REALLY help one another....the minds lies will always be sweet in the mouth but bitter in the belly....takes a few for what goes in the mouth to effect the stomach.....the TRUTH will always be bitter in the MOUTH, hard to accept, but make BLISS in the belly.....change us from the inside out, not the outside in....the thing that keeps all most from that that i can see is the desire to be good, to save ourselves from some mythical doom, for all to like us, but this thing i only speak for myself wrecked and stole all t hat i ever cared about...than i began to see WHAT was stealing form me! Just me

Oh you know...

But there are other kinds of soul mates than just romantic ones... Soul mates are people you have known in past lives...friends, family, lovers, and even enemies....those are all considered soul mates...

Soulmates have alot of energy between them... add sex to the mix...and it can be disasterous....

every romeo has a juliet, every tarzan has a jane, every adam has an eve, every samson has a delilah....history tell us all and if we look beyond emotion we can see it

Check out the book "Eat, Pray, Love" for an interesting definition. In a nutshell, it states that soulmates are not necessarily those who we end up loving for the rest of our life, but those who push our personal growth and we do the same for them. Could be someone we have known for a short time, but whose impression was so life-altering that they touched our soul and greatly influenced the journey of our lives.

Don't know whether I believe this definition (because it would make some people who I don't care for qualify as soulmates) but it's interesting.

Besides, I don't need to find someone to complete my soul...it's whole as is. So is my boyfriend's, and I much prefer the idea of us being whole and complete with two souls instead of sharing one.

**insert clapping emoticon here**

what if we just look into the very word itself....soul and mate.....each be a soul, and a soul change daily and grow just as a flower does....so than for each season or time there is another soul that we meet that is our MATE for that time or season....some will get food or energy from the same one long time or short time....there is no recipe that is the same for all, as each be unique so each recipe for life will be....why true wisdom will never tell another an act to do because they did it....each mans face is different and each mans heart be different.....even a childs hardest thing to learn....not to follow another.....every child born that did NOT ended up at the top of society.....what does every one that sit atop fame and fortune have in commom.....don't give a **** who dosen't agree with them...what the mind worry about casue we all care about others....but when we don't care what others think then all around PUSH/LIFT up the one that always wanted that.....it is jumping off the cliff, forsaking all, but of course one has to eliminate what they DONT want and then go for what is left....the mind will always give a conseqence....the important question is am I willing to take it if that happens or not.....every last human come to this in the mind and heart so what have we got to worry about.....this same expericnce has been live form before time and till after time....

I suppose that what sparked my questions about it are the fact that so many ladies include the term in their blurbs. I always wonder "what the heck?" because it seems so personal to them thus very elusive to me. Can you see a soul mate from a distance? Can someone, once they've become a soul mate, become an "un-soulmate" ? I still have very high regards for everyone that I've ever loved, I wish them the very best, and at one time would have used the term of soulmates to describe our relationships, but now our paths have seperated and I suppose it leaves me feeling ambigious about it all...

I just want to thank you all for your openess and wisdom in attempting to answer my questions and wish you all the best of luck in re-connecting with your own soulmates.

To me a soul mate is someone sees the real me, including the flaws & loves me as I am. His strengths would support my weaknesses & mine would support his. Even when we dissagreed we would truly understand the other's view, & accept that we have that difference without allowing it to cause a rift. We would build each other's confidence & trust in each other. In a crowded room our eyes would meet & we could communicate without words. The foundation would have to be natural, but bonding & growing trust would continue to enhance it. I have had the natural beginings of this a few times, but I think "baggage" interfers like static. (Sometimes mine, sometimes his). Somehow you have to rise above the outside interference & allow that bonding to grow the magic.

the mind will always seek to define to try to get what it wants, and therefore define what we wish to hear from it.....the heart will say the truth but our mind will say run.....and we do, till we SEE what it/we are doing to our own selves.....it is not evil that hurt men but the belief in evil within us that seperate us from all we love....every human has to have an experince that encompass both good and bad, night and day, cold and hot....or we would have no POINT of reference for what is true love....hot water cannot exist without first cold water.....so every ****ing last thing that is done around us is perfect, no matter if it be a bad or good thing....then one can know balance and NEVER have the hollow hole we each know of that is never filled by what the mind say to fill it with.....

anything built on give to get motive will fail, proven time and agian in every ****ing history book ever written, every movie we watch...the one with the motive for themself LOSES! Yeah, we all want another to totally understand us and love us for what we are uncondtionally, but this is NEVER found until given away without wanting **** in return....and this cannot be done until others are more important that us, and each see and hear truth in the heart but the mind block from saying or doing....and just what the hell is it getting society.....NOTHING

Wow...someone with even more angst about the subject than me...right on...

oh, not nothing....we are getting more and more disatisfied daily, lol....stones, can't get no satisfaction? On the other said of laying down and fighting for each our families and those friends we forsook cause they ****ed us lay bliss

Thank you

Wow, exactly what I think when I hear "soulmate". It really should be called unconditional love.

i think if each knew beyond all doubt that the whisper in our own hearts was us from the other side trying to tell us wisdom , and that that is god, and not some king or being sitting in a chair somewhere, to us we would listen and not run, and why it said to look within, and not to run here or there trying to find an ILLUSION.....why do we have twins born....to try to tell us...why do we DREAM....to try to tell us we are asleep, and when we die we wake up....everything here is no different than the way it is on the other side...the same GOOD things we like here we GET there but 1000 times more intense, and why these bods can't go there.....we ****in made this planet all together before we GOT here, and only came here each to learn wisdom to do it again later each on their own....every family here has a planet earth....can we not see that each other planet is an earth at stages of development to become an earth....the universe is infinite, that certainly would tell us that WE are each, and we can go back when we learn what we we sent to learn.....uncondtional love....why we need to....cause we all dont want a ****ing neighbor there to come hurt one we love!

sorry for ramblin.....u guys each are the ****ing best! Outta here

cos you feel complete ??

ok i dunno!!

If you've been with them longer than a week and haven't felt the need to purchase a firearm... chances are... they might be your soulmate...


Or not.