GOD that must be so,,,,so,,,,,INSANE to have to lesten to all the time,lol,lol

Tell it to hush, or your going for a transplant....lol

Maybe with a transplant I could make better decisions.

TRUST ME, YOU are NOT alone in making right and wrong decisions, WE ALL DO..
But MANY ladies I have met are ALL with their own privacy.
And closed to talking about life and their past troubles or happies..
And with this internet dating some can get involved with many as friends, BUT 'thoughts' of maybe more through time?
And then get involved with someone for a short new week of dating and then figure out that they need to get RIGHT with all and them selves.
And they don't want to lose ANOTHER, before THEY are sure that the NEW, is going to work out!
And THAT sounds like where you were here and weighing the relationship in your mind.
And NOW you have acted on what you think was the right choice to do.
HEY,,,THATS ALL WE CAN EVER DO..lol WHAT WE FEEL IS RIGHT!

I hope all works out good for you.
And the one you had to say bye to, if he was REAL, and doesn't find another, later,,,he will still be there for ya...

Hey (((Myr))),,,this ones a tough one,,,but what keeps goin through my mind is,,,

"Two wrongs don't make a right"

Committment.

When one is committed and the other is not, it won't work. Pretty simple me thinks

Trust is a hard thing to acheive, even harder to fix.

Personally, like others have said, if I was in a committed relationship, there would be no "secrets". Including my email. and opening my bills. Hell,,he can even pay em if he wants

Just a thought

Maybe you need more "you" time to figure out what it is YOU want?

Actually what it sounds like to me is your really not sure what you want to do. You need to look at the situation of what it is really like with the ex. Are you happy? Is he the only one that crosses your mind? Do you really love him? Does he give you the attention that you need? Does he satisfiy your needs?

If you answer these all yes then go that way 100% if you have doubts and which to me it sounds like you do. With out even bringing this other guy into the pic for you have not meet him. Sit down and have a good ole heart to heart talk with yourself and your heart.

If you have doubts about the ex there is a reason for those doubts deal with them, and either move on without him or move on with him in your life. A relationship that is not 100% both ways will not work out.

And yeah if I had one that dumped me I would have some doubts for at times when trust has been broken and your heart has been hurt it is hard to get that same feeling back again.

So all comes down what is it you really want deep down and yeah follow your gut.

Thank you soooo much!

there's your sign!


the 'ex' is NOT the right choice!!

This would throw a big red flag out there for me! You are in your 40's so why would you even let a man control who you can talk to? Are you really that scared of being alone that you have to keep the other man around just in case? Girl, I think someone has really torn you down!!!
I would hope that you got rid of the ex because if he is trying to control you already, whats it going to be like if you moved in together? Its just emailing people, but I hope you were atleast honest with the other man? If not, you were being a player and thats just not fair to you or him.
You really need to trust your gut feelings and I think you know whats going on BUT you are just ignoring them. You are a very pretty lady so stop worrying about being alone!!! Dump the ex and stop letting him tell you what to do..you are you own person, you control what you do, no one else can control you. Start looking for those red flags and stop thinking about being alone so much.

i think your not sure what you truly want yet, if you are honest with yourself, you need to take a step back and really think about the next step...but i wouldnt be happy with somebody snooping into my private stuff..but then again if you have nothing to hide

Well, you've heard it from both sides now.

But you haven't heard this:

Maybe it's time for you to delete your profile and concentrate on the relationship at hand.

Why do you still need to be a member of a "DATING SITE"?

OK...I Understand, for the friends and advice. Maybe you could go into shadow mode and change your profile to read you have met someone and you are currently working on a relationship. You can have your cake and eat it too...Maybe.

Your current boyfriend will certainly have trust issues now. Do you care? If you do, let him in on this site. Allow him to see your account and your Emails. You are in a relationship and you will eventually be sharing everything else anyways. Maybe he won't leave you. Maybe the damage can be reversed.

Take your time , sounds like he may have trust issues, but who knows..

1 No he shouldn't.

2 I would have in his position.

3 He shouldn't have admitted it.

Well Mommy,today I emailed the "email guy" to break it off , except I started crying like crazy and ended up telling him I fell in love with him. I told him the whole story about my x and suddenly I felt much better. So I actually think I did the right thing today! Funny thing, the email guy said he fallen in love with me too. Now for the really hard part...I have to tell my x its over. But I will be honwst with him.

OMG, reading your post was like listening to a good friend of mine. You hit the nail on the head with everything. Thank you sooo much!

The snooping in the emails is definitely wrong. But if there was an interest with the guy you were emailing, then I'd have to say you're pretty even. Except for the one that received the emails. If there was an interest, did you think how it would affect him? If not, I'd say he got the short end of the stick.

Well, I did it...I just told me x boyfriend I need to break things off... it hurts me too, but at least I feel I did the right thing.

have your cake and eat it too

good for you Mary!