Honestly< No .
And I am working on that.
Its SO hard in the flesh.
I pray daily for God to Keep putting forgivness in my heart for all the evil I have indured over the years.
Wonder if I ever will REALLY forgive them?

ask God to soften your heart and ease your pain

Some time's one forgives but they never forget what someone
Has done to them and this is not a bad thing at all keeps

Us from hurting ourself's again !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thats it ... I do then I take it back/
Crazy aint it
How can I keep giving it to HIM and then take it back
hummmmmm...........

Forgiving is hard but for me forgetting was almost impossible. I found it hard not to be suspicious all the time and after so many lies and all the cheating (that was very well hidden) I just got to the point I couldn't love her anymore.

I think a lot of people misunderstand what forgiveness means.

It doesn’t mean to condone what they have done. That’s not forgiveness.

It doesn’t mean to accept that it was ok that they did what they did. That’s not forgiveness either.

All that forgiveness really means, is not to harbor hate against them.

That’s all it means.

As long as you harbor hate you are destroying yourself.

Forgiving other people really isn’t about them at all.

It’s about YOU!

excellent, applause, two thumbs up, whoooo hoooooooo

WOW!!!
I never thought of it that way.
WoW! I mean WOW!!!

It's really hard. I mean I've tried really hard but there is always something there that does not let go.
I pray though, to sincerely forgive

Hell no.........

i just prey on them!

Someone hurt me really bad from the ages of 9-12, I learned to forgive him but even though 18 years later i still have not forgotten what he did.

Bravo Abra...

Bravo!!!

letting go of the pain is the best way to release myself from those who hurt me. Forgiveness or not, they are not worth my time . I save that for the ones I love and who love me...

If the hurt stops, it's so much easier to forgive. When the person likes to bug you ..years after it's over, it's frustrating. Hanging on to anger hurts oneself, but griping to self is a big help.

I applaud Abra's wisdom and his statement here, and I would like to add to his comments from a biblical example.

There is a purpose for forgiveness, and that purpose is reconciliation. It is restore fellowship, trust, and unity between two people.

In order to achieve that, the offending person must repent. They must change the behavior that caused the offense.

That does not always happen, so what do we do? Do we not forgive them and eat ourselves up inside? Or do we forgive them so that we don't become bitter? What would Jesus do?

I suggest that by His example, we are neither to forgive or condemn, but rather, we are to reserve judgment in hope.

For example, when it came to the woman caught in aduletry, they brought her to Him, trying to trap him. They thought if Christ said to let her go, then the people would think He did not support the law given by Moses. He would be exposed as a fraud. If, on the other hand, He did not forgive her, then He would be seen as validating the unloving Pharisees and would lose his popularity among the people.

Trying to trap Him, they gave Him two options--forgive or condemn.

However, Christ did neither. He did not forgive her. Neither did He condemn her. He told her to go and sin no more. In other words, go and repent and be reconciled to God.

I believe that true forgiveness cannot be granted unless there is true repentance. However, if the offending party does not repent, we don't have to carry hostile feelings toward the person. We can let them go in hope that they will repent.

When they finally do see it, and they repent, we can completely forgive so that the relationship is repaired and fellowship is restored.

Art

I realize that there are things that people have done to us that had such impact that as adults we are still working through the effects. There is molestation, harsh parents. Unloving parents, those who demean and ridicule. There are betrayals by mates, business partners and all that kind of stuff.

These things leave enormous marks on us. Some times we feel trapped by it. We feel that these things molded us, and affected us to the degree that we are in places from which we can never escape.

But there is a way of escape. It is not easy nor is it quick. There are two parts. First consider that as they were being killed, Jesus and Steven said forgive them father because they don't know what they do.

This is usually the case. Most of the time we really don't know what motivated the other person. We don't know what events in their life made them. We don't know what they endured in this deceived world that left deep marks on them.

Thus, if we look deep inside, I believe we will come to see that if we were them and in those same situations, we would likely do what they did. We judge them from our perspective.

We think we can do that because we would not do what they did, but we are not them. We did not experience what they did. There is no way for us to judge others or condemn others.

Second, when we consider, which we seldom really do, what we have done to others, it doesn't make any sense to hold a grudge, hostility, or anger. It does not make any sense to be unwilling to let the person go hoping that they will come to their senses.

There is spiritual understanding that can be attained which frees us from the prison of past hurts. From the offender's perspective, at the time, they did what they believed they had to do. Further, if we look, we will generally find that we have done something similar or even worse to others in our lifetime.

When we understand this, then the bars that hold us where we are fade away as we see that it was only a prison created by our attitude of mind.

Art