Thank you for the kind words and I will keep your son in my prayers as will all my fellow soldiers

lol i can but try

No. I didn't ask because we weren't talking about that side. I dont think it's okay for them to cheat either. I think as soon as you do so, there's no point in continuing the relationship, but again, I have no experience in this. I haven't lived it.

From your....we'll go with tone, I'm assuming he did. In which case you really got the short end of the stick and I can certainly see why you're so vehement on the topic. But one person's indiscretions doesn't implicate the whole. For that fact, the majorities indiscretions doesn't implicate the whole.

And you did pose some interesting ?'s.

Overall though, I think it's just a matter of, cheating is cheating, no matter where you are or who you're with and it shouldn't ever be tolerated.





Now that part of your post,(cheating is cheating, no matter who you are or who you're with) I can say yes to...

That is my point... no matter who it is, if you are going to offer a crumb of info, and not back it up with accountability of your own... expect to get a few rather direct comments.

Imagine this as a post....

Man meets woman... man goes away for a year.... comes back bent out of shape...goes away again, for maybe another year.... comes back messier... then GOES again... and he says the woman cheated....

What would people be really thinking?

Take out the soldier bit, and is it possible someone may see the words, 'neglect of relationship' in there somewhere?

My mom and grandmother were in her shoes and didn't cheat.....this was during Vietnam and WW2 so I cant imagine it was any easier on them yet they stayed faithful so i dont have any sympathy for her or for soldiers who cheat when they are overseas but i wasnt one them so dont act like i was

well soldier or not in that situation if he chooses to keep going then it's on him. especially when problems were there from the first go.

she wasn't actually implicating you in anything. she was just talking about the situation in general. and if you read, mostly from her past experiences. so simmer down.

AT NO TIME, say again NO TIME, did I state you were. I did state that there are those who do and that it is equally wrong.

yes they are wrong as i stated but what does that have to do with my post?

servin yur country, and she's servin other guy's, kick her to the curb and dont look back bro.!!! sorry to hear.!!!

So no access to bank accounts.... interesting.... so she wasn't an equal partner in this relationship? Or you didn't support her, financially, before you went away, and whilst you were away?

So who paid YOUR bills?


So she was more some woman you knew that was supposed to be faithful to you, but whom you didnt support financially, fully or partially?

You didnt trust her to have access to your income while you were away, is that what you are saying???


Hmmmm.... interesting...

Did you find out why? Again look at the reasoning behind it. It is possible that because you're volonteering for extra tours she feels neglected, less important. Something you both need to look at maybe. But then what the hell do I know. I'm just a military brat and ex-grunt.

Number one I was 21 years old and dated her for 6 months before I left DATED not married so no I did not support her financially I think you are a bit confused. So in order for a woman to stay faithful she has to have access to all my money now thats interesting

Your opening post doesn't state g/f. Even I thought you were talking about a wife.

Is that what you got from my post??? LMAO!!!

But thankyou for clearing up the discrepancy between a woman you were 'just dating' and a partner... and the cheating thing....

for a minute there I thought a heinous crime had been committed...phew!!!

Just some chick you dated, found someone else...not anyone you were committed to... right, thanks for that..

I have to agree here. Sorry. 6 months and you leave? I got nothing to help ya there.

The one and only time I volunteered I asked her about and she was 100% behind me or so I thought

I dont need help....she knew from day one I was leaving in 6 months so it's not like like I hid and just said " oh im leaving tomorrow"

wow im shocked at how insensitive some people are.

Dating a military man is difficult and I know this from personal experience. It takes 2 strong people and a strong committment. I know plenty of people who do it every day & both people remain faithful. I also know plenty of couples where the man cheats while being away or the woman cheats. Ive even heard the phrase "what happens on the ship, stays on the ship" (for the navy). Frankly I think thats terrible.

It is in no way abandonment of relationship when both people know going into it. That is just ridiculous. How is it someone elses fault that they got cheated on?

I guess this is where I go from there. She knew you were leaving in 6 months. But 6 months isn't a lot of time. Had you talked about a serious future? Or was it just a, yeah, we'll hang out and date and whatever until you leave and then hopefully it'll still go from there. If it's not serious then I just don't think you should consider it a committed relationship.

I'm not saying you're at fault, but you said it was the third time it happened right? Maybe it'd be a good time to consider the type of woman you're dating.

6 months, with her knowing that you are definitely leaving at the end of that time just isn't time to build a strong committed relationship. Can it happen .. yes. But generally that's not enough time knowing ahead that one person is leaving and for all intents and purposes may not be returning. Another sad fact of deployments.. not everybody makes it home. That alone will stop any form of commitment like a .50 drops a tango at 2000 meters.