I didn't want to use up too much space by making different threads...it would have gotten in the way of other such important thread titles and first posts such as: "Hey: what's up?" or "I'm bord: yep i am"

Catch 22 it is, but "we" must take things/views/opinions from where/whom they come from. I dont allow people to get to me. Also I never believed ignorance is bliss, I think it's just pure ignorance. lol

Would have never pictured you as a pessimist but would have pictured you _______________

Nah.. don't make it complicated. Use threads already started by someone that are filled with your real audience. It is the potential wonder of reaching "just one"... sigh...

Good, admirable, and valid guidelines and would be GREAT if everyone adhered and acted with a little bit of decorum.

After that, It would be great if everyone turned outward instead of inward.

All of "THIS" is obviously such a powerful medium for the sharing of ideas that it seems wasteful and counterproductive to talk about "The Medium Itself".

It's almost Romanesque to get bureaucratically bogged down in self function, instead of propagating the sharing of ideas which are OUTSIDE of the catalyst.

So agreed...be nice...be clear

But then APPRECIATE all the different perspectives of a great big world out there........


....instead of concentrating on our little one.

Ah, trust me...when it comes up I address is immediately as well.

Check the last three posts here: http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/84238

The problem is, the people who most need this advice will not be able to understand what you wrote here, and the other dozen or so of us are pretty much already able to write properly.

This has been one of my pet peeves since I first got on line in 1996, and it only gets worse as more and more people have internet access. "Braindead squirrel" is a good analogy for the current state of internet literacy.



Have you checked out the Religion forum? It's interesting to see the amount of "I know everything and I'm always right" that goes on there. At times, it's more like a series of delusional, insane lectures than an actual "forum."



But the simplistic minds can only grasp simplistic concepts. "Freedom of Speech" is a phrase they love to throw around (particularly after one of their rambling, vicious, vulgar attacks has been deleted) but they have no concept of any limitations that may apply within the confines of a privately-owned venue. And it doesn't matter how many times you explain it to them. Parrots just like to squawk "Freedom of Speech! Freedom of Speech!" until someone puts new paper in the bottom of the cage.



Another pet peeve. Before we had the "Rate My profile" forum, there used to be any number of "Rate Me" and "Rate My Pic" threads scattered all throughout the forums. Rarely would you see anyone get a negative or low rating -- and if they did, you better believe there would be some serious whining. Everyone was a 10 or 15 or 100 or whatever number was considered off the charts for that day.

We do have some people who genuinely want to get legitimate feedback on their profiles -- they want to know what they could do to make it better, easier to read, more likely to generate positive reactions. They are the minority.

But, this is a dating site, and one of the inherent characteristics of a dating site is that people are trying to be noticed, trying to stand out above the crowd. So you have some people posting to "Rate My Profile" every day. It's not against the rules; that forum was designed with the intention of being the proper venue for exactly this sort of thing.

It can be annoying, yes. But we always have the choice to remove that particular forum from our forum pages, using the customization option.

Just keep in mind that "rating" doesn't actually mean "rating," about 99% of the time. It means "approval." It's a shame we need to fall back on euphemisms, but that's the reality of it.
If you tell someone that their pic is bad, or that their profile comes across as having been written by a Neanderthal from Kentucky, it doesn't matter how honest you're being -- there is going to be whining, at the very least. Maybe even an abuse report.

Hey, a little example -- there was a woman who asked people to rate her profile; I took a look at it, and I thought it was pretty decent. But she had 7 or 8 pics up, and they were all basically the same head shot from slightly different angles, and I suggested (nicely!) that a little variety in the pics might be a nice change. And she did NOT want to hear that. Why ASK for feedback if you don't want it? But there's a lot of that going on.

Lex...How goes tbe Russian wife hunting????

Any luck??????

I sent Olivia/Hilary 29 plane tickets. So now I just have to see if she shows up. I have a feeling my gf is going to be pissed, but I'll cross that blintz when I come to it.

Well you'll just have to inform Oliviahillary she's much too late and she better send back the 29 tickets cause she was suppose to be there 6 months ago...

I LOVE it when serious self-absorbed subjects turn to Russian wife hunting!

Don't laugh...Lex is a pro...

I like to think of it as "conversational drift." Sort of like plate tectonics, only slower and less sensible.

Ahhh..... Lex the Lexicon, bestill my beating heart. .... I think I could fake an accent, although not well.

No no no no...don't get me wrong.....It's all out of respect!
Lex can say in a few words what it takes me a paragraph of self important pontification to do.

I'll take Russian wife drift for $200, Alex....

With HUGE tectonic plates

I was WONDERING what caused that Eastern European beauty to show up on my doorstep last month! I figured she was calling me Lex because it meant husband in Russia or something!

Jeez, I sent maps -- OK, they were in English, but still....

Silly Russians....

I can't afford airfare so I send 'em bus tickets.

I live in a lonely place.